When we share our goals we give other people the opportunity to evaluate our efforts. If they know what we are working toward, they will also know how far away we are from achieving that goal.
Feeling like others are judging us can make us hesitant to state our goals.
Today we are going to tap for the times we hold ourselves back because we fear how others will judge our progress.
It is easy to feel greedy and ungrateful when we want more or better, as if we are devaluing what we already have. We ask ourselves, “If what I have is so great why would I want more or better?”
In reality it is possible to appreciate what we have AND work towards more and better.
Today we are going to tap to hold space for both of those feelings at the same time.
It is so easy to remember all of the times we have messed up.
Because of this it is also easy to feel unworthy of new opportunities as we have wasted those presented to us in the past.
Today we are going to tap for the feeling that we are undeserving of new opportunities because we have squandered others before.
It is good for us to recognize all the gifts we have in our life. The fact we have time to think about making our life better means that we are very fortunate.
There are times when our thankfulness can get the better of us and start to feel like guilt because we have so more than others. When this happens wanting more in life can feel greedy.
Today we are going to tap for those times we feel greedy for wanting more than we already have.
It is easy to get excited about our goals and how our life is changing. But not everyone is trying to make progress in the same way and sometimes those close to us feel self-conscious about their own lack of progress.
Today we are going to tap for when our loved ones feel judged by us when we share our goals and progress.
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Our goals are very personal because they are about making our lives better, even when they also improve the lives of others. There will be times when it feels like our loved ones don’t understand.
Today we are going to tap for when others don’t think our goals are important.
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When we are successful chances are that we will stand out in the crowd. This can feel really scary because when we are noticed it opens us to more scrutiny and criticism.
Today we are going to tap the fear of what could go wrong it we start to stand out because of our success.
In order to pursue our goals we need to spend time, emotion, and energy to make those goals happen.
This might mean that we stop doing other tasks and spend less time with the people in our lives. As much as our loved ones want what is best for us, they sometimes push back on us for trying to achieve our goals. They might even think or call us selfish for doing something for ourselves.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that others will perceive us as selfish for doing something for ourselves.
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Making progress is really encouraging. We feel better about ourselves and it gives us momentum to take more action.
One of the side effects of our success is that others may raise their expectations of us.
This can be both flattering and feel like a burden. Part of us can be fearful that others will expect this new level of success from us all the time.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that others will expect more from us if we succeed today.
Everywhere we turn we receive information about what will make us happy. Much of this comes from traditions and a shared history of how life is supposed to look.
Taking advantage of the wisdom of the ages can be useful when trying to craft our path in the world but it is important to remember that just because something is good for most people doesn’t mean it right for us.
Today we are going to tap for that feeling of not knowing if we are working toward something because it is best for us or because we feel like it is supposed to be best for us.