When it takes time to reach our goals it can be easy to lose touch with why we wanted them in the first place. We become bogged down in the details and tasks and lose touch with why we wanted the change in the first place.
This can really kill our enthusiasm for working towards our goal!
Today we are going to tap for losing touch with why we wanted our goals in the first place.
It is good to have passion. It is even better to feel like our goal is within our grasp and that we can take action every day to get there.
There are times when, as we get closer and closer to our goal, it starts to take up more of our time, energy, and attention. When this happens it can create the concern that it will take over to the extent that we neglect other parts of our life.
Today we are going to tap for those times where it feels like our desire for one thing is going to take over our life completely.
Making changes in our lives often has consequences and impacts our relationships. If you go back to school, for example, you may have less time to spend with loved ones.
It’s possible that the people your lives will react negatively when you change. They might feel like they are being left behind, that you think you too good for them, or they may feel bad because they don’t have the courage to make changes themselves.
Today we are going to tap for how the negative reactions of others to our change might slow us down.
It is good to have goals that we care about, but sometimes we care so much that reaching them consumes us, filling our thoughts night and day. When this happens our goals take on much more significance than is appropriate and we set ourselves up for a major letdown when we don’t reach them.
Today we are going to tap for when we let our desire to reach our goals become too big.
There are times when it is really easy to dream big. If feels like everything is possible. Later we come back to our dreams and goals only to feel like they are way too big. They feel like they are a million miles away and there is no way we could achieve them.
Today we are going to tap for when it feels like our goals are too big and too unreasonable.
When Our Goals Feel Unreasonable
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I’m glad I have big dreams…I’m glad I want something more…But it’s not what I have right now…And the gulf between where I am…And where I want to be…Is so big…That it feels completely unreasonable…It’s so big…It feels like it’s impossible to get from here to there…It’s so big…I don’t even know where to start…It’s as if I’ve said…I want my skin to turn green and I’m going to sprout wings…It seems that impossible and that far away…And even though in moments like this…My goal feels like it’s a million miles away…I recognize I have achieved a lot of things that felt like they were a million miles away…I recognize that I don’t get to my goals in one giant step…I get there moving over time…Bit by bit…Little by little…I give myself permission…To know it’s OK to dream big dreams…To know it’s OK to have goals that feel like they’re a long way away…And recognize that if I take small steps…Engaging those goals in a small way…And make a small bit of effort today…It’s going to make a huge difference…It’s going to help me to move forward…It’s going to help me to strive…All I need to do in this moment…Is appreciate the goal…And appreciate it’s possible…Even if I have no clue how to get from here to there…Even if it seems foolish to dream that big…Small steps…And regular action…Will move me to the goal…And before I know it…The impossible will become possible.
There have been times in my life where I have cared so much about something that it became all consuming. And once it became all consuming, it negatively affected the other parts of my life.
We can hold ourselves back from success if we fear our passion will take us over.
Today we are going to tap to be comfortable with passion, knowing that it is possible to feel it without it taking over our lives.
Caring Too Much Causes Problems
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I’m glad I have passion…I’m glad I have a desire…I’m glad that there’s a part of me…That wants to move forward in such a way…That I can have better…And I can have more…But there have been times…Where I got so consumed…And so caught up…In what I was doing…That other parts of my life suffered…The goal I was working towards was important…But it took so much time…And it took so much energy…There was no actual way…For me to do anything else…My relationships suffered…My work suffered…My health suffered…My disposition suffered…And because of this fact…There’s a part of me that’s trying to keep me safe…There’s a part of me that’s trying to keep me from losing myself…There’s a part of me that’s trying to keep me from doing too much…It’s good that I recognize this is a possibility…It’s good that I recognize this is a problem…But it is possible for me…To be successful…To do the work that I need to do…To have passion about that work…And not get lost in it…Not get consumed by it…Not get swept away in it…It is possible for me…In big and small ways…To move forward…In such a way…That I have success…That I have dedication…That I have passion…And I keep my head up…I stay connected with the other parts of my life…I don’t get washed away…Being successful is not an all or nothing proposition…Being successful doesn’t mean I have to throw everything into it…Being successful is not all at once…I give myself permission…To know I can work towards my goals…With passion…And without losing myself.
I’m sure you know the old Henry Ford quote, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.”
Sometimes to move forward we have to believe in something that is bigger than we have ever believed in the past.
Even if we expand our belief of what is possible just a little, it will make a difference.
Today we are believing and acting bigger than we have before.
Acting Bigger Than We Thought Possible
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I know my belief…In what is possible…Impacts my ability…To be successful…When I doubt…When I think something is hard…When I think I’m not capable…I find proof in my environment…And I find proof in my day…That this is true…When I believe something is possible…When I believe something is doable…Even when I know it’s hard…I find proof and belief…In my day…I find opportunity…I find silver linings…I find lessons…I find new ways to move forward…I’m not asking myself to be naïve…To have unrealistic expectations…To think that if I believe…That’s enough…It takes much more than belief…It takes planning…It takes action…But my own belief…In success…Will help me to move along…In a positive way…I give myself permission…To believe that I can have better…To believe that I can have more…To believe in success…To believe in progress…And I give myself permission…To take advantage…Of those opportunities…That my belief…Helps me to see.
With the exception of Daddy Warbucks from Annie, I can’t think of a single rich, successful person who is nice in movies.
And I understand why. It doesn’t make for very good drama. Good drama is the little guy struggling to overcome obstacles against all the odds.
Because of this, it is easy for us to hold the belief (on a subconscious level) that if we become successful then we will also turn into a horrible person.
Let’s tap to clear that belief.
What If I End Up Like Those Other Arrogant Successful People
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I want to move forward…I want to be successful…I want to have opportunities…I want to grow…But there’s a part of me…The subconscious part of me…That believes successful people…Are mean and nasty…Successful people are arrogant…Successful people are full of themselves…Successful people have taken advantage of others to get ahead…And even though I consciously know this is not true…There’s a part of me that’s been given the story over and over and over again…It’s a story that shows up all the time in pop culture…And it’s really easy to buy into…I know people who have been successful who aren’t jerks…I know people who have been successful who aren’t arrogant…I know people who are successful who didn’t step on others to get that success…It is possible for me…To have success and move forward…Without turning into an arrogant jerk…Without becoming nasty…Just because I’m successful…It doesn’t mean…I lose who I am…I can be successful…And keep my values…I can be successful…And keep my purpose…I can be successful…And be a good person…Success won’t make me arrogant…Success is simply me being me to my full potential.
It is easy to be motivated when we are in pain because we want to be pain free.
It is easy to be motivated when we are close to our goal because we can almost taste success.
The hardest time to move is when we are in the comfortable middle. It is not what we want, but it isn’t so painful that we are motivated to push forward.
To step out of this comfort zone is scary because it means we could lose comfort.
Let’s tap for the courage to step out of our comfort zone today.
Stepping Out Of The Comfort Of Today
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I’m enjoying my life…I recognize I have a lot of good things…I’m not fighting for survival…I’m not fighting off danger at every moment…I have what I need to get by…But that isn’t necessarily enough…I have dreams…I have goals…I have aspirations…I want to move forward…But that means I’m going to have to leave my comfort zone…And there’s a part of me that does not want to leave my comfort zone…There’s a part of me that wants to stay right here…There’s a part of me that doesn’t want to transition…Because trying to transition is work…And work can be painful…And work can lead to failure…The part of me that wants to stay in this comfort zone…Is trying to take care of me…Is trying to make my day pain-free…And I appreciate the fact that it’s doing that…That it’s trying to keep me safe…But, today, I give myself permission…To step out of my comfort zone…To try something new…To try something I’m not going to be perfect at…That’s going to move me towards my goal…Because even though I’m experiencing this…I want to move forward…And I want to have more…I give myself permission to step out…Knowing that the rewards of stepping out…Outweigh the risk…Because those rewards are going to be lasting.
Being spiritual is a good thing.
Often we think of spiritual as simple, humble, and grounded, which is true, but that can feel like it is the opposite of successful.
It is possible to be both spiritual and successful in the world.
Here is how we can tap for any limiting beliefs we have about that:
I Can’t Be Spiritual AND Successful
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