We invest a lot in our hopes and dreams. Part of the reason we work hard for change is because these hopes and dreams will make our life better.
Even with the clearest goal and the right plan we don’t know for sure that it will work out and be better and that uncertainty can hold us back from taking action.
Today we are going to tap for the worry that the changes we are working on will not bring the positive benefits we hope to enjoy.
We are lucky to have people in our lives who want better for us. We are lucky to have have people in our life who want more for us.
The problem is that sometimes our loved ones use their own sensibilities and desires to name what they think is best for us. When this happens it can be hard to tell if we are working towards a goal we genuinely want or one others think we should want.
Today we are going to tap to help find peace around working towards the goals that we think are best for us.
It is easy to feel greedy and ungrateful when we want more or better, as if we are devaluing what we already have. We ask ourselves, “If what I have is so great why would I want more or better?”
In reality it is possible to appreciate what we have AND work towards more and better.
Today we are going to tap to hold space for both of those feelings at the same time.
We are naturally disposed to keeping our lives consistent. Consistent means predictable and so even when things are not perfect, they are manageable because we know what to expect.
This explains our natural disposition to strive to keep things the same.
Today we are going to tap for those times we resist change because it is less predictable.
It is good for us to recognize all the gifts we have in our life. The fact we have time to think about making our life better means that we are very fortunate.
There are times when our thankfulness can get the better of us and start to feel like guilt because we have so more than others. When this happens wanting more in life can feel greedy.
Today we are going to tap for those times we feel greedy for wanting more than we already have.
Trying new things reminds us of the times in the past that we tried new things.
As we do this we will be reminded of those things we tried in the past that didn’t work. Worrying about facing past failures can inhibit us from taking action now.
Today we are going to tap for the fear of facing past failures when trying new things.
There are people in my life who are very successful and have to work really hard to maintain that success. I don’t want to be one of those people who are successful and constantly fighting to remain so.
Today we are going to tap for the worry about our success being too much to handle once we have achieved it.
Sometimes it is hard to take action because new choices mean new outcomes. Even though I know my present situation isn’t perfect it is something I understand and I know how to manage it.
Something new might be better or it might be worse than what is going on right now. When this happens it can be easy to cling to the present situation because “the crap we know is better than the crap we don’t know.”
Today we are going to tap for the desire to stay put because it predictable and manageable.
Learning new things is great. It helps us to grow, move forward, and become more self-sufficient. Unfortunately, we can (or others can) feel like we always need to be learning something new. Once we have gained one skill there is a pull to learn another.
Today we are going to tap for the concern that learning something new will only create the need to learn something else new.
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Every time we are successful at something new we prove to ourselves and others of what we are capable. But just because we achieved something once doesn’t mean that it was easy to do or that it will be easy to repeat.
One of the fears we have when striving for new things is that others will always expect us to live up to that high standard.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that success will raise others’ expectations of us.
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