It is easy to feel greedy and ungrateful when we want more or better, as if we are devaluing what we already have. We ask ourselves, “If what I have is so great why would I want more or better?”
In reality it is possible to appreciate what we have AND work towards more and better.
Today we are going to tap to hold space for both of those feelings at the same time.
It is so easy to remember all of the times we have messed up.
Because of this it is also easy to feel unworthy of new opportunities as we have wasted those presented to us in the past.
Today we are going to tap for the feeling that we are undeserving of new opportunities because we have squandered others before.
It is good for us to recognize all the gifts we have in our life. The fact we have time to think about making our life better means that we are very fortunate.
There are times when our thankfulness can get the better of us and start to feel like guilt because we have so more than others. When this happens wanting more in life can feel greedy.
Today we are going to tap for those times we feel greedy for wanting more than we already have.
Everywhere we turn we receive information about what will make us happy. Much of this comes from traditions and a shared history of how life is supposed to look.
Taking advantage of the wisdom of the ages can be useful when trying to craft our path in the world but it is important to remember that just because something is good for most people doesn’t mean it right for us.
Today we are going to tap for that feeling of not knowing if we are working toward something because it is best for us or because we feel like it is supposed to be best for us.
There are things we know that we need to do because they are good for us. Even though it benefits us to know this, sometimes it can feel like a burden because feel we like we did as kids, being told to do things because they were “best for us”.
Today we are going to tap for those things we resist because they are “what is best for us”.
When we want more we are in some way saying that what we have is not enough. This can cause an internal conflict because do not want to be ungrateful for what we already have.
Today we are going to tap for the conflict between being thankful for what we have AND wanting more.
By Wanting More I Feel Ungrateful For What I Already Have
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There’s a part of me…That really wants to move forward…There’s a part of me…That sees these wonderful goals I’m striving for…There’s a part of me…That is ready to move forward…But when I name something new…When I name something better that I want…It feels like I’m saying…What I have simply isn’t enough…It feels like I’m saying…I don’t appreciate where I am…I don’t appreciate what others have done for me…I don’t appreciate all the gifts in my life…I don’t appreciate the fact that I have it better than most…It is possible for me…To continue to move forward…To strive for better…To strive for more…And still appreciate where I am…Still appreciate what I have…Still appreciate everything that’s happened in my life…I can strive for more and appreciate what I have…I can appreciate what I have and still have energy to strive for more…Striving for more…And appreciating what I have…Are not mutually exclusive…They can happen simultaneously…And they can both serve me…I want to appreciate what I have…I want to strive for more…I give myself permission….To do both at the exact same time.
When we state a new goal it means we have to say that certain aspects of our lives aren’t working the way they should. It means that we have to say that we have failed up to this point.
Today we are going to tap for the fear of admitting that we have made mistakes and haven’t yet reached our goals.
Working Towards My Goal Means I Have To Admit I Have Failed Up To Now
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There’s a part of me that wants to move forward…There’s a part of me that wants to go after this new goal…There’s a part of me that wants transformation…But in order to have transformation…I have to be honest with the fact…That what I have right now…Isn’t perfect…What I have right now…Is full of problems…And I’ve created the circumstance I’m in…I’ve made choices to put myself here…And if I’m admitting everything isn’t perfect…I have to also admit that I have failed…I have to admit that I made mistakes…I have to admit that I made bad choices…I have to admit that I where I am isn’t healthy…I have to admit I haven’t taken action soon enough…And all of those things are hard to do…But regardless how I got to this point…Regardless of the choices before now…The fact that I am making a choice…And wanting to move forward…Is a good thing…The fact that I am making choices…And wanting to strive…Is a good thing…Things were not perfect up to this moment…I’ve created a life that is far from perfect…But what is much more important…Is my willingness today…To make a different choice…To make a better choice…To make new choices…Yes, I have made bad choices…Yes, I have failed…And to strive for something new is to admit that…But being honest with where I am…And striving for where I want to be…Is more important than the choices that have led to now…I give myself permission to move forward…Being honest with where I’ve been…And striving for where I want to be.
It is really easy to get bogged down in what is happening right now. What is happening in the present takes up all our time and energy, and sometimes it’s all we are able to see.
We need to remember that we are greater than our circumstances. When we recognize this it is easier for us to take the action that will help us to more forward.
Let’s tap to see ourselves as we truly are: bigger than our circumstances.
We Are Not Our Circumstances
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It’s very easy for me…To mistake what is happening right now…For what will always be…To take my circumstance…And turn it into my identity…Because when I’m in the middle of something…It feels like it’s going to be that way forever…I give myself permission to recognize…That just because it’s like this right now…It doesn’t mean it’s always going to be like this…Just because it’s like this in the moment…Doesn’t mean it’s always going to be this way…My circumstances…Are not who I am…What is going on right now…Will not go on forever…Even though there’s a part of me…That doesn’t feel like it can see a way out…It feels like it’s always going to be like this…It feels like it’s always been like this…Just because I feel like I’m in the middle of it…Just because I feel like I’m stuck with it…Doesn’t mean it’s who I am…Doesn’t mean it’s who I’m always going to be…I give myself permission to recognize…My circumstance is not my identity…My identity exists outside of my circumstance…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself…And easy with the process…As I see that my circumstance…Is not my identity.
It is easy to be motivated when we are in pain because we want to be pain free.
It is easy to be motivated when we are close to our goal because we can almost taste success.
The hardest time to move is when we are in the comfortable middle. It is not what we want, but it isn’t so painful that we are motivated to push forward.
To step out of this comfort zone is scary because it means we could lose comfort.
Let’s tap for the courage to step out of our comfort zone today.
Stepping Out Of The Comfort Of Today
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I’m enjoying my life…I recognize I have a lot of good things…I’m not fighting for survival…I’m not fighting off danger at every moment…I have what I need to get by…But that isn’t necessarily enough…I have dreams…I have goals…I have aspirations…I want to move forward…But that means I’m going to have to leave my comfort zone…And there’s a part of me that does not want to leave my comfort zone…There’s a part of me that wants to stay right here…There’s a part of me that doesn’t want to transition…Because trying to transition is work…And work can be painful…And work can lead to failure…The part of me that wants to stay in this comfort zone…Is trying to take care of me…Is trying to make my day pain-free…And I appreciate the fact that it’s doing that…That it’s trying to keep me safe…But, today, I give myself permission…To step out of my comfort zone…To try something new…To try something I’m not going to be perfect at…That’s going to move me towards my goal…Because even though I’m experiencing this…I want to move forward…And I want to have more…I give myself permission to step out…Knowing that the rewards of stepping out…Outweigh the risk…Because those rewards are going to be lasting.
During this process we have tapped a number of times for those less fortunate.
It is good to recognize that we are blessed. But this can be a doubled-edged sword.
Since we are so blessed it can feel like we are taking away from others when we seek more for ourselves. If we feel we are taking more than our share then we will prevent ourselves from moving forward.
Let’s tap for feeling that our success means we are taking more than our fair share.
When We Feel Bad About Having More
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I want more…I want better…I want to move towards my goals… I want to be successful…I want growth…I want richness…And part of me knows…That I already have so much…Part of me knows…That I’m really blessed…Part of me knows…I have more than most of the world…And to want more…And to strive for more…And to crave more…Feels very selfish…Feels very greedy….Feels very heartless…Feels like I’m taking more than my share…Feels so, so, so, selfish…But I recognize the fact…Happiness enjoys not a limited resource…And by me having more joy…I’m not taking more than my share…By me having more happiness…I’m not taking more than my share…And it’s possible for me…To use my good fortune…To use my success…To use my progress…To help and serve others…There’s not a limit to the resource in the world…There are limited resources…But those limited resources do not limit our ability to make progress…They do not limit our ability to move forward…They do not limit our ability to bring others with us…In big and small ways…It is possible for me…To have success…And to recognize I’m not stealing from others…To recognize I’m not taking more than my share…I can appreciate what I have…I can be thankful for what I have…I can bless what I have…And still gracefully move upward…Still thoughtfully add abundance…Without feeling like I’m stealing from others…Without feeling like I’m taking more than my share.