It feels like an obvious statement but failure is no fun! There is the realization that all the time and all the effort we have put in haven’t produced the result we wanted.
Experiencing failure repeatedly can make us gun shy, and not want to try new things because we want to avoid that sting again.
Today we are going to tap for those times when we would rather stay stuck where we are than risk the pain of another failure.
We invest a lot in our hopes and dreams. Part of the reason we work hard for change is because these hopes and dreams will make our life better.
Even with the clearest goal and the right plan we don’t know for sure that it will work out and be better and that uncertainty can hold us back from taking action.
Today we are going to tap for the worry that the changes we are working on will not bring the positive benefits we hope to enjoy.
Failure is hard. Not only do we not get what we have worked for, but it also provides proof that when we work towards our goals we do not always succeed.
Sometimes the fear of failure and the pain that comes with that failure is greater than the joy of success. When this happens we don’t take the action we need to take.
Today we are going to tap for those times when we hold ourselves back from taking action because we feel we can’t endure another failure.
We are naturally disposed to keeping our lives consistent. Consistent means predictable and so even when things are not perfect, they are manageable because we know what to expect.
This explains our natural disposition to strive to keep things the same.
Today we are going to tap for those times we resist change because it is less predictable.
We know there is a lot that needs to be done in order to reach our goals, but sometimes it seems like it would be much more fun to stare out the window and dream of what might be instead of taking action.
Today we are going to tap to find motivation to take action towards our goals and not just fantasize about a better life.
(more…)
We have failed in the past and that failure has hurt. Because we have experienced failure in our past it can make us gun shy of taking bold action in the future. When this happens we become hesitant or even stop taking action at all.
Today we are going to tap for those times when our fear of the pain of failure is greater than our desire to take action.
Having hope is a good thing. Striving for big goals is good. But sometimes we worry that we’re hoping for too much.
Part of us knows what it is like to be let down and that part holds us back from dreaming big to save us the disappointment of our goals not living up to expectation.
Today we are going to tap for the worry that achieving our goals won’t be as great as we hoped.
(more…)
When we are working towards our goals there will be times when we have an opportunity to take a big leap forward. We have to take action but because we know how important this one step can be in achieving our goal it feels overwhelming.
It is easy to feel paralyzed in this situation and unable to take action. Today we are going to tap for that feeling.
Sometimes the only ray of sunshine is a glimmer of hope. We know things are bad, but someday they might be better. It is good to hope but when we are clinging to a small hope of better in the future it can be worrisome to think we might lose it. When this happens we can prevent ourselves from taking action because we are worried that if we fail not only have we failed, but we have also lost our hope for something better.
Today we are going to tap for those times when we won’t take action because we are worried failure will lead to losing the one thing we are clinging to: our hope in believing that things will be better.
If I Fail I Will Lose The One Thing I Was Clinging To: My Hope
(audio 4m16s)
I love the sensation of hope…I love the feeling of hope…Hope shines light even in the darkest times…Hope helps me to move forward……Hope helps make this pain bearable…It’s great to have this hope…But there is a part of me that’s afraid…That if I try and fail…Not only will I have failure…But I will also have lost my hope…Because the thing I have been hoping in…Has crashed down around me…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself and to recognize that there is always hope…Even if this one thing doesn’t work out…It’s not my only escape…It’s not the only path…It might feel like the only path…It might feel like the obvious path…But even feeling that way…Doesn’t mean it’s my only way out…It’s good to have hope…It’s good to cling to my hope…It’s good to be encouraged by my hope…But even if things don’t work out…Even if the thing I’m hoping for is dashed…I will still have motivation to move forward…And I will still find hope…Hope is good to sustain me in this moment…But it’s not nourishment for the long term…It’s good that I’m afraid of losing that hope…But I can’t live on that hope…And so I must move past it…I give myself permission to act…Even at the risk of failure…Even at the risk of losing hope…Because I must progress…I must move forward…And that can’t happen strictly on hope.
Sometimes the fear of failure feels much worse than being stuck where we are currently.
Sure, achieving our goal would feel great, but the risk of failing at trying just feels like too much to handle.
Today we are going to tap for the fear of failure.
I Fear Failure So Much That I Am Not Even Going To Try
(audio 4m07s)
I really hate to fail…Failure is no fun…It dashes hopes…It shows that I can’t do something…It shows other people that I can’t do something…Often it comes in a moment…After lots of work and effort has built up…And it just feels like way too much…I give myself permission…To recognize the fact…It is perfectly OK…To not enjoy failure…But with that being said…There are many lessons that I have learned from failure…There are many insights I have gained from failure…There are blessings I never would have found without that failure…Failure shows me if I’m heading in the right direction…Failure shows me the things that I need to learn…Failure puts me in a place where I can see the next step…No one has ever become awesome…Without failure first…I’m not seeking out failure…I’m not failing on purpose…But I will only find some of the holes in my dreams…If I take effort and stumble and fail…I have failed before…And it did not kill me…I have failed before…And it did not ruin everything…I don’t have to be fearless in the face of failure…In order to take action…I can have a little fear…And I can step into this…Failure is not the end of the world…I have survived it before…And I can survive it again…I have learned from it before…And I can learn from it again…Failure is not the enemy…Lack of action is the enemy…I give myself permission to take action…Knowing failure is possible…And if I fail in any way…I will survive.