Tag: 4.01

There are times when we feel like we have two left feet. Nothing comes easily and nothing turns out the way we want.

Today we are going to tap for those times where it feels like we just can’t do anything right.

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Sometimes the only ray of sunshine is a glimmer of hope. We know things are bad, but someday they might be better. It is good to hope but when we are clinging to a small hope of better in the future it can be worrisome to think we might lose it. When this happens we can prevent ourselves from taking action because we are worried that if we fail not only have we failed, but we have also lost our hope for something better.

Today we are going to tap for those times when we won’t take action because we are worried failure will lead to losing the one thing we are clinging to: our hope in believing that things will be better.

If I Fail I Will Lose The One Thing I Was Clinging To: My Hope
(audio 4m16s)

I love the sensation of hope…I love the feeling of hope…Hope shines light even in the darkest times…Hope helps me to move forward……Hope helps make this pain bearable…It’s great to have this hope…But there is a part of me that’s afraid…That if I try and fail…Not only will I have failure…But I will also have lost my hope…Because the thing I have been hoping in…Has crashed down around me…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself and to recognize that there is always hope…Even if this one thing doesn’t work out…It’s not my only escape…It’s not the only path…It might feel like the only path…It might feel like the obvious path…But even feeling that way…Doesn’t mean it’s my only way out…It’s good to have hope…It’s good to cling to my hope…It’s good to be encouraged by my hope…But even if things don’t work out…Even if the thing I’m hoping for is dashed…I will still have motivation to move forward…And I will still find hope…Hope is good to sustain me in this moment…But it’s not nourishment for the long term…It’s good that I’m afraid of losing that hope…But I can’t live on that hope…And so I must move past it…I give myself permission to act…Even at the risk of failure…Even at the risk of losing hope…Because I must progress…I must move forward…And that can’t happen strictly on hope.

There are times when it is really easy to dream big. If feels like everything is possible. Later we come back to our dreams and goals only to feel like they are way too big. They feel like they are a million miles away and there is no way we could achieve them.

Today we are going to tap for when it feels like our goals are too big and too unreasonable.

When Our Goals Feel Unreasonable
(audio 4m12s)

I’m glad I have big dreams…I’m glad I want something more…But it’s not what I have right now…And the gulf between where I am…And where I want to be…Is so big…That it feels completely unreasonable…It’s so big…It feels like it’s impossible to get from here to there…It’s so big…I don’t even know where to start…It’s as if I’ve said…I want my skin to turn green and I’m going to sprout wings…It seems that impossible and that far away…And even though in moments like this…My goal feels like it’s a million miles away…I recognize I have achieved a lot of things that felt like they were a million miles away…I recognize that I don’t get to my goals in one giant step…I get there moving over time…Bit by bit…Little by little…I give myself permission…To know it’s OK to dream big dreams…To know it’s OK to have goals that feel like they’re a long way away…And recognize that if I take small steps…Engaging those goals in a small way…And make a small bit of effort today…It’s going to make a huge difference…It’s going to help me to move forward…It’s going to help me to strive…All I need to do in this moment…Is appreciate the goal…And appreciate it’s possible…Even if I have no clue how to get from here to there…Even if it seems foolish to dream that big…Small steps…And regular action…Will move me to the goal…And before I know it…The impossible will become possible.

Learning something new can be intimidating. This is especially true when we have attempted to learn something new in the past and failed.

Today we are going to tap for worrying about how trying to learn something new will work out.

I Have Failed At Learning New Things In The Past
(audio 3m30s)

I know I need a new skill…I know I need to learn more…In everything that I do…From the simple to the most complex…Is something I didn’t know how to do at one point…I had to learn how to do it…So I know it’s possible for me to learn…I spend my entire life learning…I learn new things without even thinking about it…But there’s a part of me…That is worried that this new thing I need to learn…Is going to be too much…Is going to be too hard…I’m going to fail at learning this…I’m going to look foolish trying…And it’s going to be a big gigantic waste of time…It’s good that I don’t want to waste my time…It’s good that I don’t want to look foolish…But it’s possible for me…To learn something new…In a way that is far from perfect…In a way where I sometimes mess things up…In a way where I make mistakes…And I’m OK with that…Part of the learning process…Is not getting it right…Part of the learning process…Is learning from my mistakes…There are very few things in my life…That I got right on the first try…And it’s OK…For me to not get this right…I’ve learned things before…I’ve learned lots of things before…This is no different…Even though it looks hard…Even though there’s a chance of failure…I can take it…And I can learn it…Because I was made for learning…I am always learning…And my goal is valuable enough…That I’m going to spend the time I need to learn it.

Dealing with uncertainty is really tough. Often we find it easier to respond to situations that are consistently bad than those that are inconsistent and unpredictable.

When things are inconsistent we are constantly on guard and spend a great deal of energy looking out for change which makes it hard for us to move forward in a meaningful way.

Today we are going to tap for times of instability and working our way back to balance.

Struggle With Stability
(audio 3m53s)

When things are unstable…When things are in flux…It’s hard to make choices…It’s hard to move forward…Because there’s that part of me…That is really worried…That if I go rushing forward…Into this unstable environment…It’s going to be harder for me to be successful…It’s going to be harder for me to achieve what I want…It’s going to be harder for me to move through the world…In a way that is known…Which will lead to my success…But I recognize the fact…That the world is not always stable…That there are variables that are unknown…And there are things that could change in a moment’s notice…And I give myself…And my entire system permission to know…That it’s OK…To step into places…That are unstable…And contain unknowns…I give myself permission to know I’m not going to know…With a 100% certainty…The best and right choice to make…In each and every circumstance…This doesn’t mean I’m going to be thoughtless…This doesn’t mean I’m going to go rushing in…It simply means…That as I step into this…And as I step into the world…I’m going to do in such a way…That I’m going to honor the inconsistencies…And the things that are unstable…And I’m going to make choices…And not simply stand on the sideline…I’ve handled inconsistency before…And I can do it again…Just because things are unstable…Doesn’t mean I can’t act…Just because things are unstable…Doesn’t mean I can’t know what’s right for me…I give myself permission…To thoughtfully…And carefully…Make good choices today…In the face of instability…Knowing and trusting…I’m completely capable of doing…Exactly that.

Often when we create goals they involve big changes in our lives. Because of this they will take time and planning to achieve them.

This can feel overwhelming because we have so far to go that we wonder if we’ll ever get there.

Today we tap for feeling like our goals are so big that we will never reach them.

I Feel Like My Goals Are Too Big And I Will Never Achieve Them
(audio 3m59s)

I know I want to achieve my goals…Even if I don’t have a clear vision of what those goals are…I know I want to achieve those goals…And those goals will make a big difference…They make a big difference for me…And they’ll make a big difference for others…But sometimes those goals just seem too big…Sometimes those goals feel like a step too far…That no matter what I do…No matter how hard I try…I’m never going to get there…Not in this lifetime…It just seems like way too much…It just seems like it’s way too far…It’s hard to get motivated…It’s hard to stay motivated…When your goals feel that far off…But I don’t have to do them all…I don’t have to do them all at once…Little by little…I can start working towards my goals…And my life is going to improve…Even before I achieve my goals…Even before I get there…Even before I make it all the way…As I get closer to my goals…The quality of my life is going to improve…And that’s going to make it worthwhile…It’s not an ‘all or nothing’ proposition…It’s not an ‘everything at once’ proposition…It’s possible for me…To start moving towards my goals today…And as I start moving towards my goals today…My life will improve…And that’s what it’s about…It’s not about my goals…It’s about a better life…And I can start working towards those…Right now.

There are few things I find more painful than naming something as important, putting my heart and soul into it, and then failing.

Because this has happened in the past there is a part of me that would rather not try than deal with that feeling again.

Today we are going to tap for the hesitant part of us that doesn’t want to feel the sting of failure.

What If I Fail
(audio 3m35s)

I am worried that I’m going to fail… I’m worried I’m going to invest my time…And I’m going to fail…I’m worried I’m going to invest energy…And then I’m going to fail…I’m worried that I’m going to invest resources…And then I’m going to fail…Failing is no fun…It feels like a waste…It can be embarrassing…When we fail at a task…It’s easy to feel like a failure…I don’t want to feel like a failure…I give myself permission…To know it’s OK to fail…I am not going to do everything perfectly…I didn’t do it perfectly last time…There have been times where I completely messed it up…And that’s OK…I survived those failures…I learned from those failures…I grew from those failures…I’m not looking to fail…I’m not hoping to fail…But failing will not be the end…Sometimes when I fail…It simply means I’m not done…I’m one step closer to my goal…I just don’t completely have it yet…And that’s OK…I’ve survived failure before…And I’m going to survive it again…It’s OK to try…Knowing failures are possibility…Because I’m trying…Because of the value of the reward.

On Tuesday’s call we talked about how to tap for something when you don’t have a clear focus on what you are tapping for.

Here is a quick little tool to use when you don’t know where to start.

Don’t Know Where To Start
(audio 2m44s)

I want to heal…I want to move forward…I want to release this issue…And for some reason, I can’t get the information from my system…My system is holding on to this information…And hiding it from me because at things that’s so helpful…My system thinks it’s making it more safe…By not revealing this information to me…I know my system wants health and well-being…And when the time is right, the information about this issue will come forward…So I can continue that healing process…I trust my system…I trust the process…I trust the information will come in due time…When I need it…I also recognize I don’t need to understand the issue…In order to release it…Even though there’s a part of me…That so desperately wants to understand…So it can prevent it in the future…I give myself permission to release without understanding… Because releasing and healing is my number one goal…

I woke up this morning feeling stressed and overwhelmed at everything I needed to do today.

Here is the tapping I did to get the day started on a much less stressful foot.

Overwhelmed

ALSO, if you feel stressed again later in the day come back to this.

There are so many things that I need to do…And they all feel so important…And they all feel like they need to be done at once… And I can’t even tell which way is up…And even though there are so many things I need to be done…My sense of overwhelm is just me trying to do them all at once…I appreciate the fact that there’s a part of me that wants all the stuff done…I appreciate the fact that this part of me is just trying to keep me safe by seeing the consequences of not getting it done…But I don’t have to do it all at once…I don’t have to do it all right now…I just need to take it one at a time… I can manage this…Bit by bit…Little by little…I give myself permission at any moment that I feel overwhelmed today…