Tag: 2.09

One of the things savvy tappers learn quickly is how to find the root causes of issues. This is both a blessing and a curse.

It is a blessing because we can now clear out past issues. It is a curse because it isn’t a lot of fun to wade through our past issues.

When we know that being honest with ourselves can be painful we will avoid it. If we avoid those past issues we will not heal and we will continue to sabotage ourselves.

Today we tap for the fear of what we will uncover when we are honest with ourselves.

If I Am Honest About Why I Haven’t Reach My Goal Yet I Am Going To Uncover A Bunch Of Emotional Crap
(audio 3m28s)

I want to move forward…I want to be successful…I want to achieve my goals…I want to have success…And I know part of the reason…That I’m not moving forward…Is because I’m getting in my own way…There are choices that I’m making…And there are beliefs that I hold…That are preventing me from taking action…And I know…There are lots of tools that I can use…To uncover what is going on…And even though that is a good thing…There’s a part of me that’s worried…Because I’ve experience with this…I know what can be under the surface…And if I go in and root around…And I try and figure out what’s going on…I’m going to find things I don’t want to see…I’m going to find things I don’t like…I’m going to be overcome with emotions…If it is so big that it’s stopping me…From doing what I want…Part of me is afraid…It must simply be massive…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself…As I unpack…And uncover these issues…Knowing that even though it causes big things…It isn’t necessarily a big issue…And I have lot of tools…At my disposal…To help me to manage…Whatever comes up…I give myself permission…To be honest with myself…About who I am…About what I am…And what I’m dealing with…

I am very comfortable being who I am right now. Even though it is so much less than what I think I can be, it is predictable. I know what others expect of me and I know what to expect from myself.

As we pursue our goals and evolve into something new we can be concerned that we don’t know how to act as our new self. This seems like an unlikely reason to be holding ourselves back, but I have found with myself and my clients that this fear is a powerful motivator for not taking action.

What If I Don’t Know How To Be The New Me?
(audio 3m05s)

I’m glad I’m moving forward…I’m glad I’m making progress…I’m glad transformation is happening…And that I’m shedding old patterns…And moving forward in a healthy way…But I’m concerned…As I start to see myself in a new way…As I start to see the world in a new way…I’m going to act differently…All the old habits…Many of the old ways of seeing the world…Are being released with the old beliefs…And now as I navigate the world…I have to do it in a new way…New is scary…Different is scary…But I give myself permission…That with the transformation…I’m gaining resources…And ability…To navigate this world in a new way…So even though I don’t know exactly what to do…I can respond to the new way…And as I start to act in new ways… I will continue to grow into the new me…Making it even easier…To take on the new and different… Transformation is a process…I don’t have to get it right in the first try…It’s OK as I learn my way…Into the new ways of acting.

It seems silly that we would be afraid of achieving success.

It is one of the biggest fears I see in my clients when it comes to short circuiting their success.

When we succeed we can raise the expectations of others and this can be scary. When we fear this we will make sure that we fail.

Let’s tap for worrying about raising others’ expectations.

Fear Of Being Successful
(audio 4m17s)

I want to be successful…I want to move forward…I want to achieve my goals… I want life to be better…I want life to be fuller…I want life to be richer…But for some reason… success is scary…When I’m successful, I raise other people’s expectations…When I’m successful, I raise my own expectations…When I’m successful, I taste the good life…And it’s possible to lose it…And the pain of knowing better and then losing it…Feels like it’s so much worse…Than never experiencing the pleasure of success at all…When things go well…There’s always the sense…That the other shoe is going to drop…And if I’m successful…I will be constantly looking over my shoulder…For that other thing to go wrong…But I give myself permission…To recognize I can manage success…I can enjoy success…Without feeling overburdened by new expectations…Without feeling overburdened by others’ expectations…Without feeling overburdened of the fear of losing success…It’s possible I might have success and lose it…But since I achieved it once…I know I can achieve it again…And again…And again…Success will change my life…It will bring new things…The unknown can be scary…But I can manage these new and different things…Nice big deep breath.

One of the things that holds me back is the worry that if I do something well then everyone will expect me to achieve that standard again.

When this happens a part of me holds me back from success to make sure I don’t create higher expectations that I will have to live up to in the future.

Let’s tap for this worry!

Expectations
(audio 3m36s)

I want to move forward…I want to be successful…I want to achieve my goals…I want to have better…I want to challenge myself…And reach new heights…But there’s a part of me that’s worried…That if I achieve…That if I move forward…That if I’m successful…I’m setting myself up for trouble…Because if I’m successful…If I do this well…If I exceed expectations…My new level of success…Will be what is expected of me in future…Everybody will expect more of me…And I’m working hard to meet these goals…And if they expect more of me…I have to work harder all the time…I give myself permission to know…I can be successful…And meet my standards…I can be successful…And meet my expectations…Because my standards…And my expectations…Are what are most important…It’s less important…What others hold me to…I can be successful…I can move forward…Without making it harder for myself…By feeling like expectations have been raised…

There are times when I feel like I am a great big fraud! That I have fooled everyone around me for a long time and any moment now everyone will see through all the smoke and mirrors to see who I truly am.

In reality the people around me know that I am not perfect, despite my best efforts to make them believe that I am.

If you feeling like a fraud and that others are going to find you out, this is a great tap-along for you.

Feeling Like A Fraud
(audio 5m35s)

I’m worried that everybody is going to see I’m a fraud…In one moment, they’re going to recognize who I truly am…What I’m truly capable of…They’re going to recognize that they’ve been mistaken…And who they thought I was, was a lie…That I’ve been able to successfully fool them for years…There are times I’m insecure…There are times I’m far from confident…There are times when I’m far from perfect…And people see me for who I am…I’m not fooling everyone all the time…There are people in my life who know I’m not perfect…There are people in my life who know that I am flawed…And they love me anyway…And in many cases love me because of it…Even though I’m not confident all the time…Even though I don’t act perfectly all the time…I’m not a fraud…I’m not perfect…
I’m doing the best that I can… And it’s OK for people to see me for who I am…I don’t expect others to be perfect… And others don’t expect me to be perfect…They’re not going to find me out…Because there’s nothing to find out…I am imperfect…And others know that…I am imperfect…And others do love me…I will continue to be imperfect…And others will continue to love me…

I choose to be easy with myself today…I can continue to strive for more…And I choose to be easy with myself today…I can continue to move forward and I choose to be easy with myself…I am not perfect…I won’t be perfect…And I can love and accept myself when I’m not perfect…Even when I feel like a fraud…I love and accept myself…I love and accept myself…Even when I feel like a fraud…I am imperfect…And that’s OK…I give myself permission to be OK with being imperfect…