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  • Teaching: Why We Don’t Tap When We Want To

    Tonight we talked about the 10 reasons why we don’t tap.

    Remember if there wasn’t resistance to change we would have already made the change or would be taking action to make the change.

    See Mercy
    (audio 51m20s)

    1. It won’t work.
    2. It won’t work for me.
    3. It won’t last and only be temporary.
    4. The work is going to be too hard or too emotional.
    5. The work is going to leave me emotionally drained.
    6. The change will add more work to my life.
    7. I am going to find out something about myself or my past that I don’t want to know.
    8. I will have to change to way I see myself.
    9. I will change the way others see me.
    10. I am going to prove someone I love wrong if I make the change.

    Call Date: Apr. 6th, 2013

  • See Mercy

    Today we are going to reflect on, “Gentle in mercy; help me to not be jaded and recognize mercy in the world.”

    It is so easy to get caught up in the negativity of the world. When we do this we only see what is wrong and we only notice when others are acting in selfish and meanspirited ways.

    The world is filled with people who are performing loving and kind acts every moment of every day.

    It is important to keep our eyes open to these acts of love and mercy. When we see them we keep our hearts open to knowing that more of the same is possible.

    See Mercy
    (audio 3m08s)

    Sometimes the world is frustrating…Sometimes the world is overwhelming…Sometimes all I see is the negative stuff…And that can beat me up…And beat me down…Make me feel overwhelmed…And hopeless…And when I see the negative…It’s so much harder for me to act positive…It’s hard to believe…That my mercy could make any difference… When I don’t see it anywhere else…I give myself permission to open my eyes…And recognize the mercy…That is constantly around me…In big and small ways…Mercy is being extended…Not as much as I would like…But when I’m able to recognize it…I’m able to put myself in the position…Where I can act with greater mercy…It’s there…In big and small ways…Mercy abounds…Mercy is all around…I give myself permission…To be open to the mercy that’s around me…Which will help me…To act with greater strength…And greater mercy…With all those that I interact with…Which will create a chain reaction of mercy spreading.

  • I Am Worried That I Can’t Be Spiritual AND Successful

    Being spiritual is a good thing.

    Often we think of spiritual as simple, humble, and grounded, which is true, but that can feel like it is the opposite of successful.

    It is possible to be both spiritual and successful in the world.

    Here is how we can tap for any limiting beliefs we have about that:

    I Can’t Be Spiritual AND Successful
    (audio 3m19s)

  • If I Am Honest About Why I Haven’t Yet Reached My Goals I Will Uncover A Heap Of Emotional Crap

    One of the things savvy tappers learn quickly is how to find the root causes of issues. This is both a blessing and a curse.

    It is a blessing because we can now clear out past issues. It is a curse because it isn’t a lot of fun to wade through our past issues.

    When we know that being honest with ourselves can be painful we will avoid it. If we avoid those past issues we will not heal and we will continue to sabotage ourselves.

    Today we tap for the fear of what we will uncover when we are honest with ourselves.

    If I Am Honest About Why I Haven’t Reach My Goal Yet I Am Going To Uncover A Bunch Of Emotional Crap
    (audio 3m28s)

    I want to move forward…I want to be successful…I want to achieve my goals…I want to have success…And I know part of the reason…That I’m not moving forward…Is because I’m getting in my own way…There are choices that I’m making…And there are beliefs that I hold…That are preventing me from taking action…And I know…There are lots of tools that I can use…To uncover what is going on…And even though that is a good thing…There’s a part of me that’s worried…Because I’ve experience with this…I know what can be under the surface…And if I go in and root around…And I try and figure out what’s going on…I’m going to find things I don’t want to see…I’m going to find things I don’t like…I’m going to be overcome with emotions…If it is so big that it’s stopping me…From doing what I want…Part of me is afraid…It must simply be massive…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself…As I unpack…And uncover these issues…Knowing that even though it causes big things…It isn’t necessarily a big issue…And I have lot of tools…At my disposal…To help me to manage…Whatever comes up…I give myself permission…To be honest with myself…About who I am…About what I am…And what I’m dealing with…

  • Year By Year

    One of my favorite types of work is to have “conversations” with the younger parts of myself. What I mean by this is I pretend that I am having a conversation with me at a younger age, like age 6 for example.

    When I do this I am able to bring all the wisdom, experience, and resources that the adult me has to the past.

    Here is a simple process you can follow.

    Step 1: Choose the age you would like to work with, imagine seeing yourself at that age, and start tapping.

    Step 2: Tell the younger you that they are loved, cared for, safe, and that they will not be judged. Don’t rush this step. If you want to do each of those four things one at a time, that would be perfect. Pay attention to how your younger self responds.

    Step 3: Tell your younger self that they are allowed to think, feel, and believe anything they want. They are also allowed to not know what they should or what to think, feel, or believe. Again, take your time and pay attention to how they respond.

    Step 4: Ask the younger you what they are worried about and what they need. They may need nothing, but if they have a need, listen attentively. Ask lots of clarifying questions to understand their concerns fully and let them know that they are heard.

    Step 5: Provide the younger you with all the relevant information in response to their needs and concerns. Imagine that you are talking to someone of this age in real life. If a child of this age brought you these concerns, what would you say and what misperceptions would you correct? Simply share this information.

    Step 6: Repeat steps 4 and 5 as many times as you would like or are needed to make the younger you feel safe and healthy.

    Step 7: Remind the younger you once more that they are loved, cared for, and always connected to the adult you. If they need anything they only need to ask.

    This powerful tool is that simple.

    It is such a powerful tool that I would like you to use it over the next two weeks. Every day choose an age from infant to 18. You don’t have to do them in order and you don’t have to do all 18 years, but if you do this one year for each day it will be transformative.

  • Wise Counsel

    Today’s reflection is, “Let me seek wise counsel. Let me offer unbiased and unselfish counsel.”

    I have a hard time seeking help of any kind. It feels like weakness. It feels like failing. This happens because I think I should be perfect all the time.

    In order to be successful I need outside help.

    Let’s tap for being able to seek counsel without feeling foolish or weak, and for an open heart to speak the truth that others need to hear when we are asked for help.

    Wise Counsel
    (audio 3m19s)

    I don’t know everything…I know I don’t know everything…And it’s OK that I don’t know everything…It’s not a sign of failure… It’s not a sign of incompleteness…It’s not a sign that I’ve done anything wrong…It simply means I don’t know everything…I don’t know how to do things…I don’t know specific facts…And I don’t have the wisdom of experience in all areas…And it’s good for me to reach out…Reach out to other people…Seeking help and guidance…Knowing they don’t have all the answers…Knowing they don’t have the only answer…But reaching out…Would benefit me…In making good choices…And when people reach out to me…They’re not asking me to fix something…They’re not asking me to do something for them…They’re not asking me to take over…And if they don’t take my advice…If they don’t take my counsel…That’s their choice…And that’s OK…It’s up to them…To make the choice that they want…And when people ask me for help…My job is to provide them the best that I can…Not what’s best for me…But what’s best for them…When I offer counsel…When I connect with others…When they share with me…It also builds our bond…Builds strength…Builds our friendship.

  • What If I Don’t Know How To Be The New Me?

    I am very comfortable being who I am right now. Even though it is so much less than what I think I can be, it is predictable. I know what others expect of me and I know what to expect from myself.

    As we pursue our goals and evolve into something new we can be concerned that we don’t know how to act as our new self. This seems like an unlikely reason to be holding ourselves back, but I have found with myself and my clients that this fear is a powerful motivator for not taking action.

    What If I Don’t Know How To Be The New Me?
    (audio 3m05s)

    I’m glad I’m moving forward…I’m glad I’m making progress…I’m glad transformation is happening…And that I’m shedding old patterns…And moving forward in a healthy way…But I’m concerned…As I start to see myself in a new way…As I start to see the world in a new way…I’m going to act differently…All the old habits…Many of the old ways of seeing the world…Are being released with the old beliefs…And now as I navigate the world…I have to do it in a new way…New is scary…Different is scary…But I give myself permission…That with the transformation…I’m gaining resources…And ability…To navigate this world in a new way…So even though I don’t know exactly what to do…I can respond to the new way…And as I start to act in new ways… I will continue to grow into the new me…Making it even easier…To take on the new and different… Transformation is a process…I don’t have to get it right in the first try…It’s OK as I learn my way…Into the new ways of acting.

  • Generational Work

    Carrying an emotional burden for someone else is a very high act of love, but it can have consequences for our own emotions and health.

    Often we pick up struggles, issues, and burdens for which we can’t take responsibility.

    It is wonderful that we want a loved one to overcome their low self esteem, but when we pick up that burden for them it causes two problems. First, it doesn’t help them and second, it makes things harder for us.

    Sometimes we consciously or subconsciously pick up these burdens for others. Other times it happens in a completely unconscious way. There are burdens we pick up when we are so young that we don’t even remember them.

    When we are able to release these burdens we free ourselves and provide an opportunity for healing to others.

    I like to do this type of healing in two ways and it is something that you can easily add to the end of your tapping sessions.

    First, after tapping for an issue I will add the following script.

    It is a great service to pick up someone else’s burden…It is a very high act of love…It is saying that I want better for them…I want them to heal…I want them to know freedom…But when I pick up a burden for someone else I make it harder for me…And often I am not providing them with true relief…Because I have taken responsibility for something that I can’t heal…When I release something that I have picked up for someone else…I am not giving the burden back to them…I am letting it go…I am giving myself freedom…And I am giving them freedom…I have consciously, subconsciously, and unconsciously picked up burdens for others my whole life…I give myself permission to let go any and all of the burdens that I am still holding…To provide healing for myself…And everyone else

    Second, after completing this script I imagine myself standing at the top of my family tree and I imagine the healing I have just received in the tapping session passing back through the past, from generation to generation. As the healing goes back in time it keeps providing more and more healing.

    This doesn’t have to take more than 60 seconds, but it is very powerful.

    I would love to hear how you experience this second part in the comments below.

  • Purity

    In today’s reflection I am focusing on the idea of purity in the phrase, “May I be of pure heart, mind, intention, and action in all that I do today.”

    It is really easy to think of the opposite of purity as impurity and evil. That may be true, but I think there is more to it than that.

    When I act out of fear, it feels like an impure action.

    When I act out of someone’s else definition of who I should be, it feels like an impure action.

    When I act from who I once was, if feels like an impure action.

    Let’s tap to have every thought, intention, and action today stem from a purely authentic place.

    Have Pure Intentions
    (audio 3m10s)

    In all that I do today…I want to act with a pure heart…I want to have honest intentions…I want to see things as they truly are…I want to level with myself about what is true…This doesn’t mean people walk all over me…This doesn’t mean that I’m a pushover…This doesn’t mean that I don’t state my own intentions…A pure heart is simply being honest with what I truly feel…A pure mind is simply understanding myself and my circumstance for what it truly is…Pure intentions simply mean that I’m acting in an honest fashion…When I act with a pure heart and mind…I navigate and manage the day effortlessly…When I act with a pure heart and mind…I see myself for what I truly am…In all that I do today…I want to act…With a pure heart…A pure mind…Pure intentions for pure actions.

  • I Feel Bad About Wanting And Having More

    During this process we have tapped a number of times for those less fortunate.

    It is good to recognize that we are blessed. But this can be a doubled-edged sword.

    Since we are so blessed it can feel like we are taking away from others when we seek more for ourselves. If we feel we are taking more than our share then we will prevent ourselves from moving forward.

    Let’s tap for feeling that our success means we are taking more than our fair share.

    When We Feel Bad About Having More
    (audio 5m00s)

    I want more…I want better…I want to move towards my goals… I want to be successful…I want growth…I want richness…And part of me knows…That I already have so much…Part of me knows…That I’m really blessed…Part of me knows…I have more than most of the world…And to want more…And to strive for more…And to crave more…Feels very selfish…Feels very greedy….Feels very heartless…Feels like I’m taking more than my share…Feels so, so, so, selfish…But I recognize the fact…Happiness enjoys not a limited resource…And by me having more joy…I’m not taking more than my share…By me having more happiness…I’m not taking more than my share…And it’s possible for me…To use my good fortune…To use my success…To use my progress…To help and serve others…There’s not a limit to the resource in the world…There are limited resources…But those limited resources do not limit our ability to make progress…They do not limit our ability to move forward…They do not limit our ability to bring others with us…In big and small ways…It is possible for me…To have success…And to recognize I’m not stealing from others…To recognize I’m not taking more than my share…I can appreciate what I have…I can be thankful for what I have…I can bless what I have…And still gracefully move upward…Still thoughtfully add abundance…Without feeling like I’m stealing from others…Without feeling like I’m taking more than my share.