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  • All Shall Be Well

    Today we are reflecting on one of my favorite quotes: “All shall be well, and all shall be well and all manner of thing shall be well.” – Julian of Norwich

    From time to time I need to be reminded of the big picture and today we are going to tap for that.

    All Shall Be Well
    (audio 2m40s)

    All will be well…Even when I’m caught in the mess…All will be well…Even when I’m overwhelmed…All will be well…Even when I don’t know what to do next…All will be well…Even when I lack confidence…All will be well…Even when I lack resources…All will be well…Even when I don’t know which way is up…All will be well…Even when I don’t believe all will be well…All will be well…I give myself permission to believe…All will be well…This doesn’t mean that I become lazy…This doesn’t mean that I stop trying…This doesn’t mean that I stop making good choices…But I’m able to see the big picture…All shall be well…And all shall be well…In all manner of all things…All shall be well.

  • Caring Too Much Causes Problems

    There have been times in my life where I have cared so much about something that it became all consuming. And once it became all consuming, it negatively affected the other parts of my life.

    We can hold ourselves back from success if we fear our passion will take us over.

    Today we are going to tap to be comfortable with passion, knowing that it is possible to feel it without it taking over our lives.

    Caring Too Much Causes Problems
    (audio 4m05s)

    I’m glad I have passion…I’m glad I have a desire…I’m glad that there’s a part of me…That wants to move forward in such a way…That I can have better…And I can have more…But there have been times…Where I got so consumed…And so caught up…In what I was doing…That other parts of my life suffered…The goal I was working towards was important…But it took so much time…And it took so much energy…There was no actual way…For me to do anything else…My relationships suffered…My work suffered…My health suffered…My disposition suffered…And because of this fact…There’s a part of me that’s trying to keep me safe…There’s a part of me that’s trying to keep me from losing myself…There’s a part of me that’s trying to keep me from doing too much…It’s good that I recognize this is a possibility…It’s good that I recognize this is a problem…But it is possible for me…To be successful…To do the work that I need to do…To have passion about that work…And not get lost in it…Not get consumed by it…Not get swept away in it…It is possible for me…In big and small ways…To move forward…In such a way…That I have success…That I have dedication…That I have passion…And I keep my head up…I stay connected with the other parts of my life…I don’t get washed away…Being successful is not an all or nothing proposition…Being successful doesn’t mean I have to throw everything into it…Being successful is not all at once…I give myself permission…To know I can work towards my goals…With passion…And without losing myself.

  • Having Trouble Asking For Help

    One of the things I struggle with is being able to ask for help. Asking for help can feel like a failure because if I am to claim my success then I feel should be achieving it on my own.

    Today we tap for being easy with ourselves so that we can ask others for help.

    Having Trouble Asking For Help
    (audio 3m40s)

    There’s a part of me…That doesn’t want to ask for help…And thinks that if I ask for help…I have failed…Because this is my journey…This is my process…I’m supposed to be doing this on my own…If anyone helps me…It must be because I’m weak…It must be because I’m incapable…It must be because I’m unworthy…Of any sort of success…But there are lots of things in my life…That I ask for help with every single day…I don’t make my own clothes…I don’t build my own car…I don’t grow my own food…There are lots of things…That other people help me with…That are out of my genius…That are out of my expertise…But are necessary for me to be successful…It’s OK for me to ask for help…It’s good for me to ask for help…When I ask for help…I get things done sooner…I get things done quicker…I get things done with less effort…When I ask for help…I put myself into a position…To have somebody else…Share their gifts with me…In such a way…That will help to propel me forward…Asking for help isn’t failing…Asking for help isn’t giving up…Asking for help isn’t saying I’m not enough…Asking for help is merely stating…That I’m moving forward…In such a way…That I’m concentrating on what I can work on…What I know…And what is my genius…Getting help doesn’t mean that I am weak…Getting help doesn’t mean that I am incapable…It means I’m smart…It means I’m efficient…It means I’ll move to my goals much faster.

  • Tapping Request and Q&A Call: Recording May 28th

    Great questions and answers on tonight call. Here is the audio:

    May 28th recording

  • Tapping For Guilt

    In my own life, I have found that guilt and shame are the most debilitating emotions. On some level it might really be just an issue of semantics when using the two words to describe different degrees of how we feel.

    Today I am going to share with you a 4-step tool to help you to deconstruct guilt, which is such a debilitating emotion, and replace it with something more helpful.

    Like many of the tools that I have shared with you, I encourage you to take the time to write out your answers to these steps. Writing them out will help you to gain clarity on the issue at hand AND it will provide you a great tapping script once you have finished.

    1) What am I guilty of?
    All you need to do is describe in detail how you experience feeling guilty. Include the emotions you feel, the thoughts you have, and the physical sensations you experience.

    Complete the following:
    I feel guilty when…
    When I feel this guilt I think…
    When I feel this guilt in my body I feel…
    When I feel this guilt I experience…

    2) What standard isn’t being met?
    When we feel guilty it is because we are not living up to a perceived standard. In other words we are letting someone, ourselves, or an expectation down. Many times when we feel guilty we are feeling bad about a standard that isn’t real, but simply one we are perceiving.

    Complete the following:
    I feel guilty because I am not living up to…
    The perceived consequences for not living up to this standard are…

    3) What are the real consequences?
    Just because we perceive that something feels like a consequence doesn’t mean that it is a real consequence. For example, I might feel guilty for not calling a friend and the perceived consequence is that she is will feel abandoned. At least that is the story my guilt is telling me. But when I step back, the real consequence could be something completely different. Or there could be no real consequence at all. That friend may have been busy and not even noticed that I didn’t make the call.

    Complete the following:
    The real consequence if my actions is…

    4) What is the new standard to which you want to hold yourself?
    Most of the time when I feel guilty it is because I am not living up to a standard that has been imposed on me by an external force. For example, “I have to spend every Sunday afternoon with my family because that is the family tradition.” Even when it is a self-imposed standard it isn’t always helpful, or it was helpful at one point but isn’t helpful any longer.

    It is time to name the new standard you would like in your life. This doesn’t mean that we at choice to no longer take responsibility for our actions, but instead to create something that makes more sense for who we are.

    In the example of spending time with our family, the new standard could be, “I am going to make sure I stay connected to my family and that they know I love them.” This standard has nothing to do with a specific family gathering, but is more about how I act in the world which gives me the flexibility to meet the needs of my own life.

    Complete the following:
    The new standard I would like to live up to is…

    Tap On It!
    Now go back and tap through everything you have written. It will create more space, take away guilt, and help you to make healthier choices moment to moment.

  • Balance

    Today we are reflecting on: “Help me to see love, know wisdom, and be guided by inspiration.”

    Finding a balance between being present in the world, being willing to learn, and receiving guidance when needed can be really tricky. Let’s tap to find that balance.

    Balance
    (audio 3m35s)

    Day to day…Moment to moment…It’s easy to feel disconnected…It’s easy to feel uninspired…It’s easy to feel unbalanced…For this moment…For today…I give myself permission to let go…The things I don’t need…The things that are getting in the way…And the things that aren’t useful…It is possible for me…To see love around me…I give myself permission…To acknowledge and release…Any block that is preventing me from seeing love today…Love is always there…Love is always present…I give myself permission to find and see that…I have access to…Wisdom…I always have access to wisdom…I give myself permission…To remove any block…Any burden…Anything that is getting in my way…That’s preventing me from seeing wisdom…I’m constantly filled with…And in the presence of…Inspiration…It’s not something that occasionally shows up…It’s not something that’s there from time to time…It’s ever-present…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself…And to recognize and to see…To feel and to be guided by…The inspiration that is ever present…Balance is possible…Love, wisdom and inspiration…Are ever-present…I give myself permission to recognize that fact…To allow that to transform me…And to have that ever-present in this moment.

  • We Are Not Our Circumstances

    It is really easy to get bogged down in what is happening right now. What is happening in the present takes up all our time and energy, and sometimes it’s all we are able to see.

    We need to remember that we are greater than our circumstances. When we recognize this it is easier for us to take the action that will help us to more forward.

    Let’s tap to see ourselves as we truly are: bigger than our circumstances.

    We Are Not Our Circumstances
    (audio 3m05s)

    It’s very easy for me…To mistake what is happening right now…For what will always be…To take my circumstance…And turn it into my identity…Because when I’m in the middle of something…It feels like it’s going to be that way forever…I give myself permission to recognize…That just because it’s like this right now…It doesn’t mean it’s always going to be like this…Just because it’s like this in the moment…Doesn’t mean it’s always going to be this way…My circumstances…Are not who I am…What is going on right now…Will not go on forever…Even though there’s a part of me…That doesn’t feel like it can see a way out…It feels like it’s always going to be like this…It feels like it’s always been like this…Just because I feel like I’m in the middle of it…Just because I feel like I’m stuck with it…Doesn’t mean it’s who I am…Doesn’t mean it’s who I’m always going to be…I give myself permission to recognize…My circumstance is not my identity…My identity exists outside of my circumstance…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself…And easy with the process…As I see that my circumstance…Is not my identity.

  • It Feels Like Every Action I Take Needs To Be Perfect

    One of the things that holds us back is our need to be perfect. The part of us that wants to be perfect wants us to stay safe. When we are perfect we can’t be criticised and we don’t have to do anything again.

    We will NEVER be perfect so as long as we hold on to needing to be perfect we will never be able to act.

    Today we tap to know that, “It’s OK for me to take imperfect action, now.”

    Imperfect Action
    (audio 3m05s)

    There’s a part of me that wants to be perfect…There’s a part of me that wants to get it exactly right…Because if I get it exactly right…Then it’s going to be easy for me to be successful…Because if I get it exactly right…Nothing can possibly go wrong…So there’s a part of me that’s going to prevent me from acting…Until I know I can do it perfectly…It’s going to wait for more information…It’s going to wait for me to have more skill…It’s going to wait for a more perfect environment to make a choice…But the truth is…I need to be able to take action…In an environment that’s imperfect…By someone who is imperfect…Because there’s never going to be exactly the perfect time…And I’m never going to be exactly perfect…And if I wait for the perfect time…And if I wait for me to be perfect…I’m never going to take action…I give myself permission….To know that it’s OK…To make an imperfect action…At an imperfect time…In an imperfect way…With imperfect knowledge…And even if it doesn’t work out perfectly…It’s possible to have it work out great…There have been lots of times where it worked out great…Where it was far from perfect…I want to be good…I want to be successful…And I don’t need perfect…To be good and successful…I give myself permission….To make choices…From an imperfect space…With imperfect information…With imperfect skills…And an imperfect moment…Knowing I can make all of those things work out.

  • Teaching: How I “Manifest” Things (Which Means I Don’t Manifest Things)

    In tonight’s call we talked about the 6 steps to bringing the things we want into our lives.

    I also talk about what I think about the word “manifest” and what I really think happens.

    I would love to hear your thoughts and questions about the conversation.

    How I “Manifest” Things
    (audio 34m)

    Call Date: May 21st, 2013

  • Matching Tapping Point To Emotion

    This weekend I was up in Stony Point, NY at the Northeast Energy Event. It was two days of fellowship and tapping, and a lot of learning.

    Dr Henry Grayson shared a very interesting technique he calls EFTA which pairs specific emotions with specific tapping points.

    You can use EFTA for any issue you are working on, using the steps that follow.

    Let me know how it works for you!

    EFTA – An Adaptation of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)
    By Henry Grayson, PhD

    1. Breathe slowly and deeply into the diaphragm while placing your finger on the lower forehead, above and between the eyebrows. Focus on the problem (trauma, negative emotion, negative belief, or negative identity) you wish to release while continuing to breathe slowly and deeply.

    2. Allow scenes, images, or memories which represent the problem (trauma, negative emotion, negative belief, or negative identity) to surface. It might be one scene or multiple scenes, from the distant or recent past.

    3. Notice which emotions arise with each scene or memory. Identify those emotion(s).

    4. Notice where you feel the emotion(s) in your body and focus your attention there.

    5. Then move your finger onto the inside edge of the eyebrow next to the nose and say, “I now release all [emotion you are working on] related to this issue.” Breathe slowly and deeply.

    6. Next, place your fingers on the outside edge of the eyebrow and say: “I now release all [emotion you are working on] related to this issue. Breathe slowly and deeply.

    7. Place your fingers on the collarbone under the eye and say, “I now release all anxiety related to this issue.” Take a slow and deep breath.

    8. Place your fingers underneath the nose and say, “I now release all embarrassment related to this issue.” Breathe slowly and deeply.

    9. Place your fingers under the bottom lip (at the indent) and say, “I now release all guilt and shame related to this issue.” Breathe slowly and deeply.

    10. Place your fingers underneath the arm, about 4 inches down from the armpit, and say, “I now release all excessive concern related to this issue.” Take a slow, deep breath.

    11. Place the fingers of both hands under the rib cage on both sides and say, “I now release all hurt and sadness related to this issue. Breathe slowly and deeply.

    12. Place the palm of your hand on the center of your chest cavity, and take several deep breaths as you inhale love into your heart and exhale fear through your solar plexus.

    13. Place your fingers on and below the collarbone bone (about where a button down collar would be) and take a slow, deep breath.

    Check your level of disturbance, belief or identity on the 0-10 point scale and repeat the exercise until you bring it down to a “0”.