Tag: 4.09

One of the things that holds us back is our need to be perfect. The part of us that wants to be perfect wants us to stay safe. When we are perfect we can’t be criticised and we don’t have to do anything again.

We will NEVER be perfect so as long as we hold on to needing to be perfect we will never be able to act.

Today we tap to know that, “It’s OK for me to take imperfect action, now.”

Imperfect Action
(audio 3m05s)

There’s a part of me that wants to be perfect…There’s a part of me that wants to get it exactly right…Because if I get it exactly right…Then it’s going to be easy for me to be successful…Because if I get it exactly right…Nothing can possibly go wrong…So there’s a part of me that’s going to prevent me from acting…Until I know I can do it perfectly…It’s going to wait for more information…It’s going to wait for me to have more skill…It’s going to wait for a more perfect environment to make a choice…But the truth is…I need to be able to take action…In an environment that’s imperfect…By someone who is imperfect…Because there’s never going to be exactly the perfect time…And I’m never going to be exactly perfect…And if I wait for the perfect time…And if I wait for me to be perfect…I’m never going to take action…I give myself permission….To know that it’s OK…To make an imperfect action…At an imperfect time…In an imperfect way…With imperfect knowledge…And even if it doesn’t work out perfectly…It’s possible to have it work out great…There have been lots of times where it worked out great…Where it was far from perfect…I want to be good…I want to be successful…And I don’t need perfect…To be good and successful…I give myself permission….To make choices…From an imperfect space…With imperfect information…With imperfect skills…And an imperfect moment…Knowing I can make all of those things work out.

There are few things I find more painful than naming something as important, putting my heart and soul into it, and then failing.

Because this has happened in the past there is a part of me that would rather not try than deal with that feeling again.

Today we are going to tap for the hesitant part of us that doesn’t want to feel the sting of failure.

What If I Fail
(audio 3m35s)

I am worried that I’m going to fail… I’m worried I’m going to invest my time…And I’m going to fail…I’m worried I’m going to invest energy…And then I’m going to fail…I’m worried that I’m going to invest resources…And then I’m going to fail…Failing is no fun…It feels like a waste…It can be embarrassing…When we fail at a task…It’s easy to feel like a failure…I don’t want to feel like a failure…I give myself permission…To know it’s OK to fail…I am not going to do everything perfectly…I didn’t do it perfectly last time…There have been times where I completely messed it up…And that’s OK…I survived those failures…I learned from those failures…I grew from those failures…I’m not looking to fail…I’m not hoping to fail…But failing will not be the end…Sometimes when I fail…It simply means I’m not done…I’m one step closer to my goal…I just don’t completely have it yet…And that’s OK…I’ve survived failure before…And I’m going to survive it again…It’s OK to try…Knowing failures are possibility…Because I’m trying…Because of the value of the reward.