It is easy to get excited about our goals and how our life is changing. But not everyone is trying to make progress in the same way and sometimes those close to us feel self-conscious about their own lack of progress.
Today we are going to tap for when our loved ones feel judged by us when we share our goals and progress.
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Our goals are very personal because they are about making our lives better, even when they also improve the lives of others. There will be times when it feels like our loved ones don’t understand.
Today we are going to tap for when others don’t think our goals are important.
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When we are successful chances are that we will stand out in the crowd. This can feel really scary because when we are noticed it opens us to more scrutiny and criticism.
Today we are going to tap the fear of what could go wrong it we start to stand out because of our success.
Every time we are successful at something new we prove to ourselves and others of what we are capable. But just because we achieved something once doesn’t mean that it was easy to do or that it will be easy to repeat.
One of the fears we have when striving for new things is that others will always expect us to live up to that high standard.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that success will raise others’ expectations of us.
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Our loved ones can be our harshest critics. It might be because they can feel liberated to criticize because they are so close to us. It might have to do with the fact that they feel uncomfortable by our effort to move forward.
Regardless why it happen, it can be really hard when we are judged by those close to us.
Today we are going to tap for the emotions that come with the harsh critique of our loved ones.
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In order to pursue our goals we need to spend time, emotion, and energy to make those goals happen.
This might mean that we stop doing other tasks and spend less time with the people in our lives. As much as our loved ones want what is best for us, they sometimes push back on us for trying to achieve our goals. They might even think or call us selfish for doing something for ourselves.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that others will perceive us as selfish for doing something for ourselves.
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Making progress is really encouraging. We feel better about ourselves and it gives us momentum to take more action.
One of the side effects of our success is that others may raise their expectations of us.
This can be both flattering and feel like a burden. Part of us can be fearful that others will expect this new level of success from us all the time.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that others will expect more from us if we succeed today.
Our goals are a very personal thing. Sometimes we want what others want and sometimes we want something different that is completely personal. Because it so personal there are times when others don’t understand what we are up to or why we want it.
Today we are going to tap for the push back we receive from those in our lives who don’t understand and support what we are up to.
When we want more we are in some way saying that what we have is not enough. This can cause an internal conflict because do not want to be ungrateful for what we already have.
Today we are going to tap for the conflict between being thankful for what we have AND wanting more.
By Wanting More I Feel Ungrateful For What I Already Have
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There’s a part of me…That really wants to move forward…There’s a part of me…That sees these wonderful goals I’m striving for…There’s a part of me…That is ready to move forward…But when I name something new…When I name something better that I want…It feels like I’m saying…What I have simply isn’t enough…It feels like I’m saying…I don’t appreciate where I am…I don’t appreciate what others have done for me…I don’t appreciate all the gifts in my life…I don’t appreciate the fact that I have it better than most…It is possible for me…To continue to move forward…To strive for better…To strive for more…And still appreciate where I am…Still appreciate what I have…Still appreciate everything that’s happened in my life…I can strive for more and appreciate what I have…I can appreciate what I have and still have energy to strive for more…Striving for more…And appreciating what I have…Are not mutually exclusive…They can happen simultaneously…And they can both serve me…I want to appreciate what I have…I want to strive for more…I give myself permission….To do both at the exact same time.
I’m sure you know the old Henry Ford quote, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.”
Sometimes to move forward we have to believe in something that is bigger than we have ever believed in the past.
Even if we expand our belief of what is possible just a little, it will make a difference.
Today we are believing and acting bigger than we have before.
Acting Bigger Than We Thought Possible
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I know my belief…In what is possible…Impacts my ability…To be successful…When I doubt…When I think something is hard…When I think I’m not capable…I find proof in my environment…And I find proof in my day…That this is true…When I believe something is possible…When I believe something is doable…Even when I know it’s hard…I find proof and belief…In my day…I find opportunity…I find silver linings…I find lessons…I find new ways to move forward…I’m not asking myself to be naïve…To have unrealistic expectations…To think that if I believe…That’s enough…It takes much more than belief…It takes planning…It takes action…But my own belief…In success…Will help me to move along…In a positive way…I give myself permission…To believe that I can have better…To believe that I can have more…To believe in success…To believe in progress…And I give myself permission…To take advantage…Of those opportunities…That my belief…Helps me to see.