Even though life may not be perfect right now, it is manageable. We know what to expect and we have established ways of responding.
Achieving our goals brings new and sometimes unpredictable things into our lives, which can be complicated. When we anticipate this complexity it can hold us back from taking action because we want life to be easy.
Today we are going to tap for the worry of life becoming more complicated after achieving our goals.
No goal that we create will be the be all and end all goal. Not matter what we achieve we will want something more soon afterwards.
Knowing this, it’s easy to become demotivated about our current goals because they feel less worthwhile if we are just going to want something else right after achieving them.
Today we are going to tap on recognizing the value of our current goals even though we recognize that there will be more goals and dreams that follow.
Achieving a new goal often means a lot of hard work as we learn new skills and take on extra tasks.
Because of all the work involved it is easy for part of us to feel concerned that maintaining our success will take just as much time and effort as was required to achieve it.
Today we are tapping for that concern.
Sometimes we can see that we failed at something. At other times where we feel like we ARE a failure.
Failure is not an outcome of something we attempted, but who we are. We feel like we are a failure.
When we feel like a failure it is really hard to take action because we feel hopeless.
Today we are going to tap for when we feel like we are a failure.
Trying new things reminds us of the times in the past that we tried new things.
As we do this we will be reminded of those things we tried in the past that didn’t work. Worrying about facing past failures can inhibit us from taking action now.
Today we are going to tap for the fear of facing past failures when trying new things.
There are people in my life who are very successful and have to work really hard to maintain that success. I don’t want to be one of those people who are successful and constantly fighting to remain so.
Today we are going to tap for the worry about our success being too much to handle once we have achieved it.
Sometimes it is hard to take action because new choices mean new outcomes. Even though I know my present situation isn’t perfect it is something I understand and I know how to manage it.
Something new might be better or it might be worse than what is going on right now. When this happens it can be easy to cling to the present situation because “the crap we know is better than the crap we don’t know.”
Today we are going to tap for the desire to stay put because it predictable and manageable.
Learning new things is great. It helps us to grow, move forward, and become more self-sufficient. Unfortunately, we can (or others can) feel like we always need to be learning something new. Once we have gained one skill there is a pull to learn another.
Today we are going to tap for the concern that learning something new will only create the need to learn something else new.
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When we are successful chances are that we will stand out in the crowd. This can feel really scary because when we are noticed it opens us to more scrutiny and criticism.
Today we are going to tap the fear of what could go wrong it we start to stand out because of our success.
It takes a lot of energy to work towards something new. Not only does it cost us energy to take action to move towards our goal, but it also takes a lot of emotional energy to move toward something that is new.
Today we are going to tap for how exhausting it can be caring about making change.
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