Tag: 3.05

Everywhere we turn we receive information about what will make us happy. Much of this comes from traditions and a shared history of how life is supposed to look.

Taking advantage of the wisdom of the ages can be useful when trying to craft our path in the world but it is important to remember that just because something is good for most people doesn’t mean it right for us.

Today we are going to tap for that feeling of not knowing if we are working toward something because it is best for us or because we feel like it is supposed to be best for us.

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There are things we know that we need to do because they are good for us. Even though it benefits us to know this, sometimes it can feel like a burden because feel we like we did as kids, being told to do things because they were “best for us”.

Today we are going to tap for those things we resist because they are “what is best for us”.

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It can be hard when we are looking to make big changes in our life because they take time. Often we are making progress, but the fruits of that progress are not yet evident. Even though we know we are taking the steps we need to move forward it can still feel like we are spinning our wheels.

Today we are going to tap for how not making progress fast enough can be discouraging and dampen our motivation.

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When we are working towards a goal there are creative and exciting steps that are a lot of fun. Then there are other steps which aren’t much fun but are necessary. Sometimes it can feel like we are being forced to do something and our resistance to those tasks naturally arises.

Today we are going to tap for the issues that feel like we “have to” do them.

I Resent The Tasks I Feel Like “I Have To Do”
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I know that moving towards my goal takes work…I know moving towards my goal takes effort…I know this effort is going to take time…And sometimes it’s going to be taxing…And there are going to even be steps…Which I really don’t like…There are even going to be steps…Which might be a little painful…And I know I have to do them…And there’s a part of me that’s willing to do them…But as I tune into them…As I note them…And even put these steps in my to-do list…It feels like I’m being told I have to do something…It feels like I’m being forced to do something…Feeling like I have no choice in the matter…I hate it when I have to do something…I hate it when I’m being forced to do something…And anything that I feel like I’m being forced to do…Brings up a part of me that resents it…There’s a part of me that wants to rebel against it…There’s a part of me that feels like it almost wants to lash out at it…And because of this, I just don’t do it…But I recognize as I move towards my goals…No one is making me do this…This is my choice…This is my desire…This is my effort…And even if it feels like it’s something I’m being forced to do…I recognize this is my choice…Yes, I’m choosing things that are unpleasant to do…Because I see how they fit into the big picture…I see how they will lead me towards my goal…I don’t have to do these things…I want to do these things because of what they bring…I want to do these things because they bring them closer to my goal…I choose to do these things because they’re best for me in the long run…I don’t have to…I’m choosing to…Because of what will come about as a result.

“Quit” feels like a bad word. When we quit we feel like we have failed. We feel like we are letting ourselves down. We feel like we are letting others down.

I have worked with clients who had a hard time quitting smoking because quitting equaled failing.

There are lots of things we do that we need to quit. Today’s tap along will help you let go of the things that are no longer useful and need to be quit.

Permission To Quit
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There are things in my life that were useful at one point…But they no longer are…They might not serve me…They might not challenge me…They might not even be good for me…And I’ve done them for so long…It’s what I do…And if I let them go…It feels like it’s letting go a part of me…It feels like I’m letting go a part of my image…It feels like I’m letting go who I am…And it might have been who I am…But it was who I was…I’m new…I’m different…I have permission to let things go…I have permission to quit things that I have done…Quitting feels like a bad word…Quitting feels like failure…Quitting simply means, I stop spending my energy…On something that is no longer useful…I give myself permission to quit…Things that are no longer useful…Things that are no longer helpful…Things that are no longer healthful…Quitting is not failing…Quitting is simply letting go of that which is not necessary anymore…It’s OK for me to quit…I am not a failure if I quit… it is OK for me to quit.