No goal that we create will be the be all and end all goal. Not matter what we achieve we will want something more soon afterwards.
Knowing this, it’s easy to become demotivated about our current goals because they feel less worthwhile if we are just going to want something else right after achieving them.
Today we are going to tap on recognizing the value of our current goals even though we recognize that there will be more goals and dreams that follow.
Failure is hard. Not only do we not get what we have worked for, but it also provides proof that when we work towards our goals we do not always succeed.
Sometimes the fear of failure and the pain that comes with that failure is greater than the joy of success. When this happens we don’t take the action we need to take.
Today we are going to tap for those times when we hold ourselves back from taking action because we feel we can’t endure another failure.
It takes a lot of energy to work towards something new. Not only does it cost us energy to take action to move towards our goal, but it also takes a lot of emotional energy to move toward something that is new.
Today we are going to tap for how exhausting it can be caring about making change.
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When we move to take action there are few guarantees. Things might work out and they might not.
Today we are going to tap for when the worry about something not working is greater than the hope that it will.
When we want change in our lives it requires us to take new actions and take on new projects. The problem is that our life is already full of things that need to be done, many of which are past due.
Today we are doing to tap for the feeling that life is too full to pursue something new.
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Sometimes we feel like we have to work so much harder than those around us. Others have opportunity, support, and infrastructure around them that makes achieving their goals so much easier.
Today we are going to tap for the feeling that comes along with feeling like we are working harder than others to have the same things.
Everywhere we turn we receive information about what will make us happy. Much of this comes from traditions and a shared history of how life is supposed to look.
Taking advantage of the wisdom of the ages can be useful when trying to craft our path in the world but it is important to remember that just because something is good for most people doesn’t mean it right for us.
Today we are going to tap for that feeling of not knowing if we are working toward something because it is best for us or because we feel like it is supposed to be best for us.
It is good to have passion. It is even better to feel like our goal is within our grasp and that we can take action every day to get there.
There are times when, as we get closer and closer to our goal, it starts to take up more of our time, energy, and attention. When this happens it can create the concern that it will take over to the extent that we neglect other parts of our life.
Today we are going to tap for those times where it feels like our desire for one thing is going to take over our life completely.
When we want more we are in some way saying that what we have is not enough. This can cause an internal conflict because do not want to be ungrateful for what we already have.
Today we are going to tap for the conflict between being thankful for what we have AND wanting more.
By Wanting More I Feel Ungrateful For What I Already Have
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There’s a part of me…That really wants to move forward…There’s a part of me…That sees these wonderful goals I’m striving for…There’s a part of me…That is ready to move forward…But when I name something new…When I name something better that I want…It feels like I’m saying…What I have simply isn’t enough…It feels like I’m saying…I don’t appreciate where I am…I don’t appreciate what others have done for me…I don’t appreciate all the gifts in my life…I don’t appreciate the fact that I have it better than most…It is possible for me…To continue to move forward…To strive for better…To strive for more…And still appreciate where I am…Still appreciate what I have…Still appreciate everything that’s happened in my life…I can strive for more and appreciate what I have…I can appreciate what I have and still have energy to strive for more…Striving for more…And appreciating what I have…Are not mutually exclusive…They can happen simultaneously…And they can both serve me…I want to appreciate what I have…I want to strive for more…I give myself permission….To do both at the exact same time.
There have been times in my life where I have cared so much about something that it became all consuming. And once it became all consuming, it negatively affected the other parts of my life.
We can hold ourselves back from success if we fear our passion will take us over.
Today we are going to tap to be comfortable with passion, knowing that it is possible to feel it without it taking over our lives.
Caring Too Much Causes Problems
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I’m glad I have passion…I’m glad I have a desire…I’m glad that there’s a part of me…That wants to move forward in such a way…That I can have better…And I can have more…But there have been times…Where I got so consumed…And so caught up…In what I was doing…That other parts of my life suffered…The goal I was working towards was important…But it took so much time…And it took so much energy…There was no actual way…For me to do anything else…My relationships suffered…My work suffered…My health suffered…My disposition suffered…And because of this fact…There’s a part of me that’s trying to keep me safe…There’s a part of me that’s trying to keep me from losing myself…There’s a part of me that’s trying to keep me from doing too much…It’s good that I recognize this is a possibility…It’s good that I recognize this is a problem…But it is possible for me…To be successful…To do the work that I need to do…To have passion about that work…And not get lost in it…Not get consumed by it…Not get swept away in it…It is possible for me…In big and small ways…To move forward…In such a way…That I have success…That I have dedication…That I have passion…And I keep my head up…I stay connected with the other parts of my life…I don’t get washed away…Being successful is not an all or nothing proposition…Being successful doesn’t mean I have to throw everything into it…Being successful is not all at once…I give myself permission…To know I can work towards my goals…With passion…And without losing myself.