Sometimes we have a clear idea of exact what we want, why we want it, and what we need to do to achieve it. In those empowered moments we feel like we are completely in control.
At other times we can feel confused or fuzzy about what exactly we want and fail to take action because we lack confidence.
Today we are going to tap for when our confusion about what we want is holding us back from taking action.
We are lucky to have people in our lives who want better for us. We are lucky to have have people in our life who want more for us.
The problem is that sometimes our loved ones use their own sensibilities and desires to name what they think is best for us. When this happens it can be hard to tell if we are working towards a goal we genuinely want or one others think we should want.
Today we are going to tap to help find peace around working towards the goals that we think are best for us.
It is easy to take action towards those things we believe we can achieve. When we lack confidence in our ability to achieve our goal it can be much harder.
A lack of conviction in our success leads to resistance against taking action because we don’t want to waste time or energy.
Today we are going to tap for the resistance to take action when a part of us doesn’t believe success is possible.
There are times when it seems like everyone but us has a very clear vision of what they want or a clear vision of what our goals should be.
It isn’t for lack of effort, but for some reason we can’t seem to figure out what we want. AND it is easy to feel inadequate for not being able to figure that out.
Today we are going to tap for the embarrassment that comes with not having a clear vision of what we want.
Working towards our goals is not always easy. When times are tough our enthusiasm does a great job of carrying us forward.
But sometimes our goals feel so distant or so hard to achieve that we lack the energy needed to put in the hard work.
Today we are going to tap for the lack of enthusiasm that can come with losing touch with our goals.
It can be very frustrating to lack a clear vision of what we want.
We feel lost. We feel like we are wasting time. We feel like we are missing out on opportunities.
Today we are going to tap for that feeling of knowing that we want better and more, but have no clue what better or more looks like.
There are times when we have a clear vision of what we want, yet at others it feels like we think of something new we want every day.
It can be very confusing when we keep jumping from goal to goal, making us feel like we are directionless.
Today we are going to tap for feeling confused about what we want.
It can be really hard when we lose our way. At first we think we know where we are going. We might even have a really good idea where we are going.
Along the way we learn things about ourselves and our goal and when this happens it provides clarity.
Other times it just raises more questions than we had when we began.
Today we are going to tap for when we lose touch with what we want.
Dealing with uncertainty is really tough. Often we find it easier to respond to situations that are consistently bad than those that are inconsistent and unpredictable.
When things are inconsistent we are constantly on guard and spend a great deal of energy looking out for change which makes it hard for us to move forward in a meaningful way.
Today we are going to tap for times of instability and working our way back to balance.
Struggle With Stability
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When things are unstable…When things are in flux…It’s hard to make choices…It’s hard to move forward…Because there’s that part of me…That is really worried…That if I go rushing forward…Into this unstable environment…It’s going to be harder for me to be successful…It’s going to be harder for me to achieve what I want…It’s going to be harder for me to move through the world…In a way that is known…Which will lead to my success…But I recognize the fact…That the world is not always stable…That there are variables that are unknown…And there are things that could change in a moment’s notice…And I give myself…And my entire system permission to know…That it’s OK…To step into places…That are unstable…And contain unknowns…I give myself permission to know I’m not going to know…With a 100% certainty…The best and right choice to make…In each and every circumstance…This doesn’t mean I’m going to be thoughtless…This doesn’t mean I’m going to go rushing in…It simply means…That as I step into this…And as I step into the world…I’m going to do in such a way…That I’m going to honor the inconsistencies…And the things that are unstable…And I’m going to make choices…And not simply stand on the sideline…I’ve handled inconsistency before…And I can do it again…Just because things are unstable…Doesn’t mean I can’t act…Just because things are unstable…Doesn’t mean I can’t know what’s right for me…I give myself permission…To thoughtfully…And carefully…Make good choices today…In the face of instability…Knowing and trusting…I’m completely capable of doing…Exactly that.
One of the challenges of a process like this is feeling like we have to know exactly what our goals are before we start.
We feel that if we don’t know where we are going, we will head off in the wrong direction and end up wasting time and effort.
Today we tap for being stuck because we need a perfect plan.
Not Clear Goals
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There’s a part of me that’s worried…Because I don’t know where I’m going…And I don’t know exactly what I want…I’m worried that I’m going to head in the wrong direction…That I’m going to waste time on the wrong things…That I’m going to get lost and not find my way back…That because I don’t know where I’m going…I’m going to make lots of mistakes…But I give myself permission…To know that it’s OK…To not have a perfect plan…To not have perfect goals…To not have everything planned out…My goal list is a work in progress…And as I move forward…And as I try new things…I’m going to learn things about myself…And I’m going to learn things about the process…And that’s OK…Because with experience…My goals are going to get sharper…My plans are going to become more refined…And as I move forward…I can enjoy that process…Even if I’m not heading in the exact, right, perfect direction…It is a process…And that’s OK…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…And easy with the process.