Our success doesn’t happen in a vacuum. When we make progress it can directly impact the lives of our loved ones.
Our loved ones can sometimes encourage us to take action because of the benefits they will receive, rather than what we get out of it.
Today we are going to tap for making sure we are pursuing our goals because they are what we want for ourselves.
When we make changes in our life it often means doing more work because we are taking new actions and learning new things.
Our loved ones sometimes want to reap the benefits of our hard work as well. It is fine for us to choose to share our progress with our loved ones but more difficult if there is a sense of expectation from them.
Feeling worried about others taking advantage of our progress can hold us back from taking action.
Today we are going to tap for those times we worry about others expecting us to do for them what we are doing for ourselves.
Our hard work doesn’t really give other people permission to be lazy but some may interpret our action as a cue for them to take it easy because we are doing more.
If taking responsibility and working hard allows others to be lazy it’s possible that we will feel less motivated to take action.
Today we are going to tap for feeling concerned that our hard work gives others permission to stop making an effort.
Achieving a new goal often means a lot of hard work as we learn new skills and take on extra tasks.
Because of all the work involved it is easy for part of us to feel concerned that maintaining our success will take just as much time and effort as was required to achieve it.
Today we are tapping for that concern.
There are people in my life who are very successful and have to work really hard to maintain that success. I don’t want to be one of those people who are successful and constantly fighting to remain so.
Today we are going to tap for the worry about our success being too much to handle once we have achieved it.
Learning new things is great. It helps us to grow, move forward, and become more self-sufficient. Unfortunately, we can (or others can) feel like we always need to be learning something new. Once we have gained one skill there is a pull to learn another.
Today we are going to tap for the concern that learning something new will only create the need to learn something else new.
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Our goals are a very personal thing. Sometimes we want what others want and sometimes we want something different that is completely personal. Because it so personal there are times when others don’t understand what we are up to or why we want it.
Today we are going to tap for the push back we receive from those in our lives who don’t understand and support what we are up to.
It is good to have passion. It is even better to feel like our goal is within our grasp and that we can take action every day to get there.
There are times when, as we get closer and closer to our goal, it starts to take up more of our time, energy, and attention. When this happens it can create the concern that it will take over to the extent that we neglect other parts of our life.
Today we are going to tap for those times where it feels like our desire for one thing is going to take over our life completely.
Sometimes it feels like our goals and standards are motivated by a sense of duty rooted in family traditions or the expectations of loved ones. When we are working towards a goal that isn’t our own it is hard to stay focused and motivated.
Today we are going to tap for when it feels like we are seeking something not because we want it, but because we are living up to someone else’s standards or expectations.
When we want more we are in some way saying that what we have is not enough. This can cause an internal conflict because do not want to be ungrateful for what we already have.
Today we are going to tap for the conflict between being thankful for what we have AND wanting more.
By Wanting More I Feel Ungrateful For What I Already Have
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There’s a part of me…That really wants to move forward…There’s a part of me…That sees these wonderful goals I’m striving for…There’s a part of me…That is ready to move forward…But when I name something new…When I name something better that I want…It feels like I’m saying…What I have simply isn’t enough…It feels like I’m saying…I don’t appreciate where I am…I don’t appreciate what others have done for me…I don’t appreciate all the gifts in my life…I don’t appreciate the fact that I have it better than most…It is possible for me…To continue to move forward…To strive for better…To strive for more…And still appreciate where I am…Still appreciate what I have…Still appreciate everything that’s happened in my life…I can strive for more and appreciate what I have…I can appreciate what I have and still have energy to strive for more…Striving for more…And appreciating what I have…Are not mutually exclusive…They can happen simultaneously…And they can both serve me…I want to appreciate what I have…I want to strive for more…I give myself permission….To do both at the exact same time.