Our goals are very personal because they are about making our lives better, even when they also improve the lives of others. There will be times when it feels like our loved ones don’t understand.
Today we are going to tap for when others don’t think our goals are important.
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Learning new things is great. It helps us to grow, move forward, and become more self-sufficient. Unfortunately, we can (or others can) feel like we always need to be learning something new. Once we have gained one skill there is a pull to learn another.
Today we are going to tap for the concern that learning something new will only create the need to learn something else new.
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When we are successful chances are that we will stand out in the crowd. This can feel really scary because when we are noticed it opens us to more scrutiny and criticism.
Today we are going to tap the fear of what could go wrong it we start to stand out because of our success.
Every time we are successful at something new we prove to ourselves and others of what we are capable. But just because we achieved something once doesn’t mean that it was easy to do or that it will be easy to repeat.
One of the fears we have when striving for new things is that others will always expect us to live up to that high standard.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that success will raise others’ expectations of us.
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Our loved ones can be our harshest critics. It might be because they can feel liberated to criticize because they are so close to us. It might have to do with the fact that they feel uncomfortable by our effort to move forward.
Regardless why it happen, it can be really hard when we are judged by those close to us.
Today we are going to tap for the emotions that come with the harsh critique of our loved ones.
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In order to pursue our goals we need to spend time, emotion, and energy to make those goals happen.
This might mean that we stop doing other tasks and spend less time with the people in our lives. As much as our loved ones want what is best for us, they sometimes push back on us for trying to achieve our goals. They might even think or call us selfish for doing something for ourselves.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that others will perceive us as selfish for doing something for ourselves.
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Making progress is really encouraging. We feel better about ourselves and it gives us momentum to take more action.
One of the side effects of our success is that others may raise their expectations of us.
This can be both flattering and feel like a burden. Part of us can be fearful that others will expect this new level of success from us all the time.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that others will expect more from us if we succeed today.
Our goals are a very personal thing. Sometimes we want what others want and sometimes we want something different that is completely personal. Because it so personal there are times when others don’t understand what we are up to or why we want it.
Today we are going to tap for the push back we receive from those in our lives who don’t understand and support what we are up to.
Making changes in our lives often has consequences and impacts our relationships. If you go back to school, for example, you may have less time to spend with loved ones.
It’s possible that the people your lives will react negatively when you change. They might feel like they are being left behind, that you think you too good for them, or they may feel bad because they don’t have the courage to make changes themselves.
Today we are going to tap for how the negative reactions of others to our change might slow us down.
Our goals very personal. They are things that we have named that are useful and meaningful to us. Just because we think a goal is worth working for doesn’t mean that the people in our life will think the same things are important or valuable.
There will even be times when people dismiss and diminish our goals as silly and foolish. When this happens we question ourselves and our motivation.
Today we are going to tap for when others think our goals are a waste of time.