We are lucky to have people in our lives who want better for us. We are lucky to have have people in our life who want more for us.
The problem is that sometimes our loved ones use their own sensibilities and desires to name what they think is best for us. When this happens it can be hard to tell if we are working towards a goal we genuinely want or one others think we should want.
Today we are going to tap to help find peace around working towards the goals that we think are best for us.
Our hard work doesn’t really give other people permission to be lazy but some may interpret our action as a cue for them to take it easy because we are doing more.
If taking responsibility and working hard allows others to be lazy it’s possible that we will feel less motivated to take action.
Today we are going to tap for feeling concerned that our hard work gives others permission to stop making an effort.
There is no doubt that we are influenced by the families we grow up in. We spend so much time with our family that it’s entirely natural to adopt the same patterns and approaches.
At a certain point we recognize that we need to break free, but sometimes that is easier said than done.
Today we are going to tap to break those family patterns that no longer serve us.
Sometimes we move toward our goals because they are truly what we want. But there are also times when we act because we think it is what we are supposed to be do.
When we feel like we have to do something rather than want to do something we don’t take effective action and can end up stuck and resentful.
Today we are going to tap for those times when we act because we feel obliged to do so, rather than because we want to.
Making progress is really encouraging. We feel better about ourselves and it gives us momentum to take more action.
One of the side effects of our success is that others may raise their expectations of us.
This can be both flattering and feel like a burden. Part of us can be fearful that others will expect this new level of success from us all the time.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that others will expect more from us if we succeed today.
Everywhere we turn we receive information about what will make us happy. Much of this comes from traditions and a shared history of how life is supposed to look.
Taking advantage of the wisdom of the ages can be useful when trying to craft our path in the world but it is important to remember that just because something is good for most people doesn’t mean it right for us.
Today we are going to tap for that feeling of not knowing if we are working toward something because it is best for us or because we feel like it is supposed to be best for us.
Most of the people in our life honestly and truly want what is best for us. The problem comes when they are giving us encouragement and advice based on what they believe is best for us and not what we think is best for us.
It is not that they don’t trust us, but they are seeing our lives through the lens of how they see their own lives.
Today we tap for those times when it feels like others are trying to get us to live up to their definition of happiness and success.
It is nice to have the care and support of the people in our life. Because they want what is best for us they are willing to offer advice and suggestions on what to do next. But problems can arise when they are suggesting a course of action based on what would make them happy, which is not necessarily what would make us happy. Sometimes it is hard to tell if what others are encouraging us to do is what is best for us.
Today we are going to tap for when we are not sure if we are really getting the best advice.
Making changes in our lives often has consequences and impacts our relationships. If you go back to school, for example, you may have less time to spend with loved ones.
It’s possible that the people your lives will react negatively when you change. They might feel like they are being left behind, that you think you too good for them, or they may feel bad because they don’t have the courage to make changes themselves.
Today we are going to tap for how the negative reactions of others to our change might slow us down.
There are things we know that we need to do because they are good for us. Even though it benefits us to know this, sometimes it can feel like a burden because feel we like we did as kids, being told to do things because they were “best for us”.
Today we are going to tap for those things we resist because they are “what is best for us”.