When we are trying something new we’re faced with many unfamiliar tasks and actions. There is no guarantee that we will be successful.
Before we start, we can rest safely in the hope that it will work out well. But it might not. This realization can make us hesitant when it comes to taking action because we don’t want to discover that we can’t do it.
Today we are going to tap for when we are worried that if we try something new we might learn we can’t do it.
Failure is no fun and it is even worse when others see us fail.
When we fear public failure we become hesitant about taking action so that we don’t do things well or risk doing them at all.
Today we are going to tap for worrying about failing in a public way.
Sometimes we can see that we failed at something. At other times where we feel like we ARE a failure.
Failure is not an outcome of something we attempted, but who we are. We feel like we are a failure.
When we feel like a failure it is really hard to take action because we feel hopeless.
Today we are going to tap for when we feel like we are a failure.
To put it really simply: Failure is no fun!
And because it is no fun we want to avoid it. One of the easiest ways to avoid failure is simply not to try anything.
Today we are going to tap for the resistance to taking action because we are trying to avoid the pain of failure.
Failure is hard. Not only do we have to deal with what didn’t work out, but it can lead us to feeling that we don’t even want to try again because our fear of future failure is so great.
Today we are going to tap for how the fear of failure can undermine our future efforts.
When we move to take action there are few guarantees. Things might work out and they might not.
Today we are going to tap for when the worry about something not working is greater than the hope that it will.
It is OK to hate failure. Failure is no fun. Failure can drain your energy. Failure can even feel devastating.
But if we dwell in that hatred of failure then we will never try again in order to avoid that feeling in the future.
Today we tap to have a healthy relationship with the feeling of failure.
Sometimes the only ray of sunshine is a glimmer of hope. We know things are bad, but someday they might be better. It is good to hope but when we are clinging to a small hope of better in the future it can be worrisome to think we might lose it. When this happens we can prevent ourselves from taking action because we are worried that if we fail not only have we failed, but we have also lost our hope for something better.
Today we are going to tap for those times when we won’t take action because we are worried failure will lead to losing the one thing we are clinging to: our hope in believing that things will be better.
If I Fail I Will Lose The One Thing I Was Clinging To: My Hope
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I love the sensation of hope…I love the feeling of hope…Hope shines light even in the darkest times…Hope helps me to move forward……Hope helps make this pain bearable…It’s great to have this hope…But there is a part of me that’s afraid…That if I try and fail…Not only will I have failure…But I will also have lost my hope…Because the thing I have been hoping in…Has crashed down around me…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself and to recognize that there is always hope…Even if this one thing doesn’t work out…It’s not my only escape…It’s not the only path…It might feel like the only path…It might feel like the obvious path…But even feeling that way…Doesn’t mean it’s my only way out…It’s good to have hope…It’s good to cling to my hope…It’s good to be encouraged by my hope…But even if things don’t work out…Even if the thing I’m hoping for is dashed…I will still have motivation to move forward…And I will still find hope…Hope is good to sustain me in this moment…But it’s not nourishment for the long term…It’s good that I’m afraid of losing that hope…But I can’t live on that hope…And so I must move past it…I give myself permission to act…Even at the risk of failure…Even at the risk of losing hope…Because I must progress…I must move forward…And that can’t happen strictly on hope.
In order to achieve our goals we often have to learn how to do things we have never done before.
This can feel intimidating and overwhelming.
Today we are going to tap for feeling like it is too hard to learn what needs to learned to be successful.
I Can’t Do This Because There Is No Way I Can Learn What I Need To Be Successful
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There are goals that I want to achieve…There are goals that I think are really important…It will make my life so much better…It will make other people’s lives better as well…And it’s something that is new for me…It is something that is different for me…It is something that feels like it is a long way away…And it’s going to require me to learn something new…It’s going to require me to do something new…It’s going to require me to do things I’ve never done before…And I feel like I have to learn so much…And it’s going to take so long to learn that…And I feel like I can’t move forward…Until I’ve learned all of those new things…But I don’t have to learn it all to start…As I begin to learn…I can start putting my new knowledge into action…As I begin to learn…I can start to implement what I know…It is a process…And nothing I have ever done…Didn’t require some learning first…And even though I have so much to learn…The goals I want to achieve…Are important enough to put in the effort…The goals I want to achieve…Mean so much to me I’m willing to try…It is going to take time…It is going to take effort…I am going to have to work at it…But the knowledge I gather…The knowledge I capture…Is enough to help me to move forward…To be successful…Learning new things is an investment…That takes time…But will pay dividends…For the rest of my life…I give myself permission…To take the time…To do the work…Knowing it will pay off in the long run.
There are times when we feel like we are spinning our wheels. Nothing seems to be going right, no matter how hard we try.
These are the moments when we want to give up.
Today we are going to tap for that feeling of frustration that takes us to the verge of wanting to quit.
When We Feel Frustrated To The Point Of Just Wanting To Give Up
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There’s a part of me that really wants this…There’s a part of me that wants to achieve this goal…There’s a part of me that knows life will be so much better if I have this…But it is just not working now…No matter what I try…No matter what I do…I seem to fail…I fail in small ways…I fail in big ways…And no matter how much effort I put forward…No matter how much thought I put into this…Somehow I just can’t get it to work out…Somehow I can’t manage to move forward…And the frustration is just too much…It would be one thing if I was making progress…It would be one thing if I could see myself getting closer to my goals…But that’s not happening…If there is progress, it’s so little…It feels like wasted effort…But I choose to know…Sometimes when I make effort…Sometimes when I make progress…It doesn’t have big, sweeping, huge results…I’m building a foundation…For a breakthrough…For a bunch of things to fall into place…All at once…It’s almost like a seed growing underground…It appears progress happened overnight…But there was lots of work that happened beneath the surface…That was unseen…And often when I’m spinning my wheels…That’s what’s happening to me…The frustration is the part of me that wants better…The frustration is the part of me that wants it to be easier…The frustration is the part of me that wants it to be effortless…And I can appreciate all of those things…Wanting it to be easier…Wanting it to take less effort…In big and small ways…I’m glad I want better…The frustration is just a sign of that…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…And easy with the frustration…It’s OK if I step back…It’s OK if I take a deep breath…It’s OK if I don’t rush into this and have this achieved right now…I’m building towards something good…Even though there are some moments…When it feels like it’s too much…I am moving forward…Little by little…And I’m going to get there.