Tag: 1.03

It always feels good to have a plan. When we know where we are heading it is easier to take action with confidence.

When we aren’t sure exactly of our direction it is harder to feel sure of our best course of action. In this situation it’s often easier not take action because we are concerned about doing the wrong thing and wasting time and effort.

Today we are going to tap for those times when we are hesitant about taking action because of our concern that it’s not the right one and will be a waste of our resources.

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It can be hard when we are looking to make big changes in our life because they take time. Often we are making progress, but the fruits of that progress are not yet evident. Even though we know we are taking the steps we need to move forward it can still feel like we are spinning our wheels.

Today we are going to tap for how not making progress fast enough can be discouraging and dampen our motivation.

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Sometimes the fear of failure feels much worse than being stuck where we are currently.

Sure, achieving our goal would feel great, but the risk of failing at trying just feels like too much to handle.

Today we are going to tap for the fear of failure.

I Fear Failure So Much That I Am Not Even Going To Try
(audio 4m07s)

I really hate to fail…Failure is no fun…It dashes hopes…It shows that I can’t do something…It shows other people that I can’t do something…Often it comes in a moment…After lots of work and effort has built up…And it just feels like way too much…I give myself permission…To recognize the fact…It is perfectly OK…To not enjoy failure…But with that being said…There are many lessons that I have learned from failure…There are many insights I have gained from failure…There are blessings I never would have found without that failure…Failure shows me if I’m heading in the right direction…Failure shows me the things that I need to learn…Failure puts me in a place where I can see the next step…No one has ever become awesome…Without failure first…I’m not seeking out failure…I’m not failing on purpose…But I will only find some of the holes in my dreams…If I take effort and stumble and fail…I have failed before…And it did not kill me…I have failed before…And it did not ruin everything…I don’t have to be fearless in the face of failure…In order to take action…I can have a little fear…And I can step into this…Failure is not the end of the world…I have survived it before…And I can survive it again…I have learned from it before…And I can learn from it again…Failure is not the enemy…Lack of action is the enemy…I give myself permission to take action…Knowing failure is possible…And if I fail in any way…I will survive.

There aren’t many more things more frustrating for a child to hear from a parent than, “You need to be patient.”

When we know what we want, and more importantly how it will make our lives better, being patient is really hard. We want to achieve our goal right now!

Impatience can lead us to getting ahead of ourselves, moving too quickly, and performing sloppily. This will lead to more work later.

When we are patient we make better choices and move forward more easily – and without having to clean up mistakes made in haste.

Today we are tapping for being more patient with ourselves and the process of moving toward our goals.

Being Patient
(audio 3m42s)

There’s a part of me…That wants to be there…And be there right now…To have success…In big and small ways…And to have that success…Right now…And I truly appreciate that fact…That this part of me…That is rushing ahead…And is being impatient…Only wants what’s best for me…Only wants me to be healthy…Only wants me to happy…Only wants me to have what I need…And it’s natural…That I would get worried…That if I lose this energy…I’m going to stop moving at all…It feels like…The opposite of impatience…Is doing nothing…Is being static…Is not trying…But I give myself…And I give my entire system…Permission to know…That as I move forward…I can do it in such a way…Where I give each and everything…The time and attention that it needs…The time and attention that it deserves…If I give everything…The time and attention that it needs…I will continue to move…In a steady path…Toward my goals…In big and small ways…I give myself…Permission to be easy with myself…And easy with the process…As I move forward…It’s good that I want to get there…It’s good that I want to get there now…And when I rush…When I’m impatient…I make poor choices…And I get ahead of myself…Today, I’m going to consciously choose…To be present and patient…With every task…That I face…If I do this…I will move forward…In a way that makes me successful…Working towards my goals.

One of the things savvy tappers learn quickly is how to find the root causes of issues. This is both a blessing and a curse.

It is a blessing because we can now clear out past issues. It is a curse because it isn’t a lot of fun to wade through our past issues.

When we know that being honest with ourselves can be painful we will avoid it. If we avoid those past issues we will not heal and we will continue to sabotage ourselves.

Today we tap for the fear of what we will uncover when we are honest with ourselves.

If I Am Honest About Why I Haven’t Reach My Goal Yet I Am Going To Uncover A Bunch Of Emotional Crap
(audio 3m28s)

I want to move forward…I want to be successful…I want to achieve my goals…I want to have success…And I know part of the reason…That I’m not moving forward…Is because I’m getting in my own way…There are choices that I’m making…And there are beliefs that I hold…That are preventing me from taking action…And I know…There are lots of tools that I can use…To uncover what is going on…And even though that is a good thing…There’s a part of me that’s worried…Because I’ve experience with this…I know what can be under the surface…And if I go in and root around…And I try and figure out what’s going on…I’m going to find things I don’t want to see…I’m going to find things I don’t like…I’m going to be overcome with emotions…If it is so big that it’s stopping me…From doing what I want…Part of me is afraid…It must simply be massive…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself…As I unpack…And uncover these issues…Knowing that even though it causes big things…It isn’t necessarily a big issue…And I have lot of tools…At my disposal…To help me to manage…Whatever comes up…I give myself permission…To be honest with myself…About who I am…About what I am…And what I’m dealing with…

I am very comfortable being who I am right now. Even though it is so much less than what I think I can be, it is predictable. I know what others expect of me and I know what to expect from myself.

As we pursue our goals and evolve into something new we can be concerned that we don’t know how to act as our new self. This seems like an unlikely reason to be holding ourselves back, but I have found with myself and my clients that this fear is a powerful motivator for not taking action.

What If I Don’t Know How To Be The New Me?
(audio 3m05s)

I’m glad I’m moving forward…I’m glad I’m making progress…I’m glad transformation is happening…And that I’m shedding old patterns…And moving forward in a healthy way…But I’m concerned…As I start to see myself in a new way…As I start to see the world in a new way…I’m going to act differently…All the old habits…Many of the old ways of seeing the world…Are being released with the old beliefs…And now as I navigate the world…I have to do it in a new way…New is scary…Different is scary…But I give myself permission…That with the transformation…I’m gaining resources…And ability…To navigate this world in a new way…So even though I don’t know exactly what to do…I can respond to the new way…And as I start to act in new ways… I will continue to grow into the new me…Making it even easier…To take on the new and different… Transformation is a process…I don’t have to get it right in the first try…It’s OK as I learn my way…Into the new ways of acting.

I hear from clients all the time that they just want to share their gifts with the world. They know they are called to do more or offer more. The work we do on their self sabotage is to help them to share their gifts more widely.

But what if you don’t know what your gifts are?

Today we are going to tap for discovering our gifts and/or seeing them more clearly.

Figuring Out What Our Gifts Are
(audio 3m45s)

I want to use my gifts…I want to share my gifts…I want others to profit from my gifts…
I don’t want to squander my gifts…And that’s a really lovely idea…But there are times when I don’t know what my gifts are…I can’t see them clearly…And I can’t see how they fit into the world…And when this happens…It’s really frustrating…I feel like I’m wasting time…And I’m wasting opportunity…Because this moment can’t be here again…And if I don’t use my gifts right now…It was a waste…But the biggest gift I have…Is the gift of my intention…And the gift of my presence…And even if I don’t know my exact gifts… And even if I don’t know how to use what I have…In this particular moment…By being present to this moment…By being fully present to this moment…I will recognize opportunity…And I will recognize inspiration…I will use what I have…To respond to right now…Even if I don’t know my exact gifts…And even if I’m not using what I do best in this moment…That is much less important…Than my presence to this moment…
How I respond…And how I’m present…If I do that…Through opportunity and inspiration…My gifts will reveal themselves…And I will know which one to use now.

There are few things I find more painful than naming something as important, putting my heart and soul into it, and then failing.

Because this has happened in the past there is a part of me that would rather not try than deal with that feeling again.

Today we are going to tap for the hesitant part of us that doesn’t want to feel the sting of failure.

What If I Fail
(audio 3m35s)

I am worried that I’m going to fail… I’m worried I’m going to invest my time…And I’m going to fail…I’m worried I’m going to invest energy…And then I’m going to fail…I’m worried that I’m going to invest resources…And then I’m going to fail…Failing is no fun…It feels like a waste…It can be embarrassing…When we fail at a task…It’s easy to feel like a failure…I don’t want to feel like a failure…I give myself permission…To know it’s OK to fail…I am not going to do everything perfectly…I didn’t do it perfectly last time…There have been times where I completely messed it up…And that’s OK…I survived those failures…I learned from those failures…I grew from those failures…I’m not looking to fail…I’m not hoping to fail…But failing will not be the end…Sometimes when I fail…It simply means I’m not done…I’m one step closer to my goal…I just don’t completely have it yet…And that’s OK…I’ve survived failure before…And I’m going to survive it again…It’s OK to try…Knowing failures are possibility…Because I’m trying…Because of the value of the reward.

One of the things that holds me back from moving forward is being worried about what other people will think.

I worry that the people in my life will see me try something new, see me mess it up, and then judge me as a failure.

Today we tap for worrying about the judgement of others.

Others Judge
(audio 4m10s)

I want to be successful…I want to move forward…I want change…I want transformation…I want my life to be better…In order to do that, I’m going to have to try…I’m going to have to put myself out there…I’m going to have to do things I haven’t done before…And it’s possible I might fail…It’s possible I might get it wrong…It’s possible that people will judge me…It’s possible they’re going to look at me and laugh…They’re going to see my failure…And they’re going to think I’m a failure…They’re going to see my mistakes…And they’re going to think I was mistaken even to try…But my transformation is about me…It’s not about them…My transformation is about moving forward…It’s about my change…Often people make us feel little when we try…Because they’re afraid to try themselves…And it makes them feel better by making us feel small…This is my work…This is my effort…This is my opportunity to move forward…What’s important is that I try…By putting forth the effort…So that I continue to move forward…It doesn’t matter what they think…It doesn’t matter what they say…My transformation is too important…And too valuable…To be knocked down by their words…

I have heard it from a lot of you. “There are so many good things to tap to on the site, but I am just feeling overwhelmed by it all!”

That’s OK!

You don’t have to do it all. AND you don’t have to do it all right now!

Today we are going to tap for feeling overwhelmed by how much there is to do, and how many tools we have at our disposal.

Too Much To Tap To
(audio 2m42s)

There’s so much I want to accomplish…There’s so much I want to do…There are so many tools in front of me…And I feel like I’m failing…If I’m not using them all…If I’m not tapping every day…If I’m not tapping perfectly…It just feels like there’s so much…But I don’t have to do it all…I don’t have to do every single tap-along…I don’t have to use every single tool…By simply taking the time…To be present to what I need to deal with…That will make a difference…I don’t have to do today’s audio…I don’t have to do every audio..I can choose the one that makes sense for me…When it makes sense for me…Without having to do them all…