Tag: 1.02

Learning something new can be intimidating. This is especially true when we have attempted to learn something new in the past and failed.

Today we are going to tap for worrying about how trying to learn something new will work out.

I Have Failed At Learning New Things In The Past
(audio 3m30s)

I know I need a new skill…I know I need to learn more…In everything that I do…From the simple to the most complex…Is something I didn’t know how to do at one point…I had to learn how to do it…So I know it’s possible for me to learn…I spend my entire life learning…I learn new things without even thinking about it…But there’s a part of me…That is worried that this new thing I need to learn…Is going to be too much…Is going to be too hard…I’m going to fail at learning this…I’m going to look foolish trying…And it’s going to be a big gigantic waste of time…It’s good that I don’t want to waste my time…It’s good that I don’t want to look foolish…But it’s possible for me…To learn something new…In a way that is far from perfect…In a way where I sometimes mess things up…In a way where I make mistakes…And I’m OK with that…Part of the learning process…Is not getting it right…Part of the learning process…Is learning from my mistakes…There are very few things in my life…That I got right on the first try…And it’s OK…For me to not get this right…I’ve learned things before…I’ve learned lots of things before…This is no different…Even though it looks hard…Even though there’s a chance of failure…I can take it…And I can learn it…Because I was made for learning…I am always learning…And my goal is valuable enough…That I’m going to spend the time I need to learn it.

We want to be responsible for our own success. We want it to feel like we have earned it all by our own effort.

Because of this we don’t ask for help.

But we don’t have to do it all! Sometimes we need help and it is OK to ask for help.

Today we are going to tap for being easy with ourselves when it comes to reaching out for help.

If I Don’t Do (Or Know How To Do) Everything For My Success I Have Failed
(audio 3m57s)

I want to be successful…I want to be responsible for my own success…I want to know that I worked really hard…And to have the sense that I have earned all of this…But there’s a part of me…That feels like the only way…That this can happen…Is if I am doing it all…If I am doing everything…Because if I don’t…Then it’s not my success…It’s someone else’s success…It’s something that’s been handed to me…It’s not about me…But I don’t expect myself to grow my own food…I don’t expect myself to make my own clothes…I don’t expect myself to fix my own car…I don’t expect myself to build my own house…There are lots of things that I get help with…And getting help as I move towards my goals…Especially with the things that I don’t know how to do…The things I’m not very skilled at…And the things that I don’t want to do…Will save me time…Will save me effort…Will give me the opportunity…To concentrate on the things…That are truly my genius…The things that I am made for…The things that I am about…It is not a failing to get help…It is not a failing to reach out…It is not a failing to hand over the things to someone else…When it is their specialty…The success can be mine…Even if I don’t do it all…The success can be mine…Even if I don’t understand it all…It simply matters that…I’m doing what I can…And I’m getting help with what I can’t…It’s not a failure…That’s being smart.

One of the things that holds us back is our need to be perfect. The part of us that wants to be perfect wants us to stay safe. When we are perfect we can’t be criticised and we don’t have to do anything again.

We will NEVER be perfect so as long as we hold on to needing to be perfect we will never be able to act.

Today we tap to know that, “It’s OK for me to take imperfect action, now.”

Imperfect Action
(audio 3m05s)

There’s a part of me that wants to be perfect…There’s a part of me that wants to get it exactly right…Because if I get it exactly right…Then it’s going to be easy for me to be successful…Because if I get it exactly right…Nothing can possibly go wrong…So there’s a part of me that’s going to prevent me from acting…Until I know I can do it perfectly…It’s going to wait for more information…It’s going to wait for me to have more skill…It’s going to wait for a more perfect environment to make a choice…But the truth is…I need to be able to take action…In an environment that’s imperfect…By someone who is imperfect…Because there’s never going to be exactly the perfect time…And I’m never going to be exactly perfect…And if I wait for the perfect time…And if I wait for me to be perfect…I’m never going to take action…I give myself permission….To know that it’s OK…To make an imperfect action…At an imperfect time…In an imperfect way…With imperfect knowledge…And even if it doesn’t work out perfectly…It’s possible to have it work out great…There have been lots of times where it worked out great…Where it was far from perfect…I want to be good…I want to be successful…And I don’t need perfect…To be good and successful…I give myself permission….To make choices…From an imperfect space…With imperfect information…With imperfect skills…And an imperfect moment…Knowing I can make all of those things work out.

There are lots of things that are out of our control. It is good that we are aware and take account of them, but if they consume our attention then we will never move towards our goals.

Today I want to focus on what I can control.

Let’s tap for that:

What I Can Control
(audio 3m39s)

There are a lot of things that happen…That don’t happen perfectly…That don’t happen exactly the way that I want…That don’t play to my advantage…And part of the reason this happens…Is I don’t control everything in the universe…There are a lot of things that happen…That I have no say in…And I have no effect on…This is just a fact of life…Even though this is true…It is possible…For me to be successful…With what little I control…Which is all of my thoughts and all of my actions…I can make a huge difference…In working towards…In creating my goals…It does me little good…To worry about…The things I can’t control…I certainly have to respond to…Those things that impact my life…But to spend time…Emotionally…Worrying about things…That I have no impact on…Is a huge waste of resources…It’s a huge spend of energy…Which it makes very, very difficult…For me to be successful…Because I’m concentrating on things that I can’t do anything about…I need to be aware…Of all the things that impact my life…Even those that I don’t control…But just because I’m aware…It doesn’t mean I’m spending energy worrying about what’s going to happen next…Or worrying about those things I can’t control…I give myself permission…To put my full energy…And concentration…On those things I control…On my thoughts…On my emotions…My choices…My actions…And when I do this…I will continue to move towards…My goals… Regardless what happens…Outside of my control.

It would be great if we could achieve our goals in just one step.

Most of the time it doesn’t happen that way. It is more of a little by little process. When we recognize that this is the way it is going to unfold we can be easy with ourselves for not doing it all at once.

When we see that if you just stretch ourselves a little today, and a little tomorrow, and a little the next day we will soon be there.

Today we tap for the desire to stretch a little today.

The Power Of Stretching Just A Little
(audio 4m05s)

I want to be successful…I want to move forward…I want to achieve my goals…Even if I don’t know what they are perfectly…Even if I don’t know what they are exactly…And it would be really nice…If in a single action…Or in a single moment…Or in a single task…I reached my goals…And I’m open to this possibility…But I recognize the fact…That this is going to be a process…And there will be times…Where one of the little steps…Is going to be something new or different…Which is going to be a little bit challenging…Which is going to cause me to need to stretch…Sometimes in big ways…And sometimes in small ways…But I give myself permission…To be easy with the fact…That stretching is going to be uncomfortable…Stretching is going to be hard…Because stretching means I’m going beyond what’s normal…And each time I stretch a little…Each time I try something new…Each time I push myself forward in a little way…I’m setting myself up…To not only be successful at this task…But also to grow…And also to move forward…Each time I stretch…Even if it isn’t perfect…Even if I have to redo that step…The act of stretching…Is about me moving forward…It’s about me being successful…It’s about me in small and big ways…Not only moving towards my goal…By growing and changing who I am…This process will involve stretching…And sometimes even more stretching than I want…But in the end…All of that stretching…Will benefit me…Will benefit me as it moves me towards my goal…And it will continue to help me to become who I am.

Dealing with uncertainty is really tough. Often we find it easier to respond to situations that are consistently bad than those that are inconsistent and unpredictable.

When things are inconsistent we are constantly on guard and spend a great deal of energy looking out for change which makes it hard for us to move forward in a meaningful way.

Today we are going to tap for times of instability and working our way back to balance.

Struggle With Stability
(audio 3m53s)

When things are unstable…When things are in flux…It’s hard to make choices…It’s hard to move forward…Because there’s that part of me…That is really worried…That if I go rushing forward…Into this unstable environment…It’s going to be harder for me to be successful…It’s going to be harder for me to achieve what I want…It’s going to be harder for me to move through the world…In a way that is known…Which will lead to my success…But I recognize the fact…That the world is not always stable…That there are variables that are unknown…And there are things that could change in a moment’s notice…And I give myself…And my entire system permission to know…That it’s OK…To step into places…That are unstable…And contain unknowns…I give myself permission to know I’m not going to know…With a 100% certainty…The best and right choice to make…In each and every circumstance…This doesn’t mean I’m going to be thoughtless…This doesn’t mean I’m going to go rushing in…It simply means…That as I step into this…And as I step into the world…I’m going to do in such a way…That I’m going to honor the inconsistencies…And the things that are unstable…And I’m going to make choices…And not simply stand on the sideline…I’ve handled inconsistency before…And I can do it again…Just because things are unstable…Doesn’t mean I can’t act…Just because things are unstable…Doesn’t mean I can’t know what’s right for me…I give myself permission…To thoughtfully…And carefully…Make good choices today…In the face of instability…Knowing and trusting…I’m completely capable of doing…Exactly that.

There are times when I feel like I am a great big fraud! That I have fooled everyone around me for a long time and any moment now everyone will see through all the smoke and mirrors to see who I truly am.

In reality the people around me know that I am not perfect, despite my best efforts to make them believe that I am.

If you feeling like a fraud and that others are going to find you out, this is a great tap-along for you.

Feeling Like A Fraud
(audio 5m35s)

I’m worried that everybody is going to see I’m a fraud…In one moment, they’re going to recognize who I truly am…What I’m truly capable of…They’re going to recognize that they’ve been mistaken…And who they thought I was, was a lie…That I’ve been able to successfully fool them for years…There are times I’m insecure…There are times I’m far from confident…There are times when I’m far from perfect…And people see me for who I am…I’m not fooling everyone all the time…There are people in my life who know I’m not perfect…There are people in my life who know that I am flawed…And they love me anyway…And in many cases love me because of it…Even though I’m not confident all the time…Even though I don’t act perfectly all the time…I’m not a fraud…I’m not perfect…
I’m doing the best that I can… And it’s OK for people to see me for who I am…I don’t expect others to be perfect… And others don’t expect me to be perfect…They’re not going to find me out…Because there’s nothing to find out…I am imperfect…And others know that…I am imperfect…And others do love me…I will continue to be imperfect…And others will continue to love me…

I choose to be easy with myself today…I can continue to strive for more…And I choose to be easy with myself today…I can continue to move forward and I choose to be easy with myself…I am not perfect…I won’t be perfect…And I can love and accept myself when I’m not perfect…Even when I feel like a fraud…I love and accept myself…I love and accept myself…Even when I feel like a fraud…I am imperfect…And that’s OK…I give myself permission to be OK with being imperfect…

On Tuesday’s call we talked about how to tap for something when you don’t have a clear focus on what you are tapping for.

Here is a quick little tool to use when you don’t know where to start.

Don’t Know Where To Start
(audio 2m44s)

I want to heal…I want to move forward…I want to release this issue…And for some reason, I can’t get the information from my system…My system is holding on to this information…And hiding it from me because at things that’s so helpful…My system thinks it’s making it more safe…By not revealing this information to me…I know my system wants health and well-being…And when the time is right, the information about this issue will come forward…So I can continue that healing process…I trust my system…I trust the process…I trust the information will come in due time…When I need it…I also recognize I don’t need to understand the issue…In order to release it…Even though there’s a part of me…That so desperately wants to understand…So it can prevent it in the future…I give myself permission to release without understanding… Because releasing and healing is my number one goal…

I woke up this morning feeling stressed and overwhelmed at everything I needed to do today.

Here is the tapping I did to get the day started on a much less stressful foot.

Overwhelmed

ALSO, if you feel stressed again later in the day come back to this.

There are so many things that I need to do…And they all feel so important…And they all feel like they need to be done at once… And I can’t even tell which way is up…And even though there are so many things I need to be done…My sense of overwhelm is just me trying to do them all at once…I appreciate the fact that there’s a part of me that wants all the stuff done…I appreciate the fact that this part of me is just trying to keep me safe by seeing the consequences of not getting it done…But I don’t have to do it all at once…I don’t have to do it all right now…I just need to take it one at a time… I can manage this…Bit by bit…Little by little…I give myself permission at any moment that I feel overwhelmed today…