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  • If I Makes Change Others Will Be Mad At Me

    Making changes in our lives often has consequences and impacts our relationships. If you go back to school, for example, you may have less time to spend with loved ones.

    It’s possible that the people your lives will react negatively when you change. They might feel like they are being left behind, that you think you too good for them, or they may feel bad because they don’t have the courage to make changes themselves.

    Today we are going to tap for how the negative reactions of others to our change might slow us down.

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  • Making Happiness A Choice

    In my mind, happiness is a choice. Not that we can always choose to be happy, but there are times in which we don’t choose to be happy when we could do. Today we are going to tap for creating the space to allow ourselves to choose a better emotional state.

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  • I Hate Feeling Like I Am Only Doing It Because It Is “What Is Best For Me”

    There are things we know that we need to do because they are good for us. Even though it benefits us to know this, sometimes it can feel like a burden because feel we like we did as kids, being told to do things because they were “best for us”.

    Today we are going to tap for those things we resist because they are “what is best for us”.

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  • I Feel Like I Am Just Living Up To Someone Else’s Expectations

    Sometimes it feels like our goals and standards are motivated by a sense of duty rooted in family traditions or the expectations of loved ones. When we are working towards a goal that isn’t our own it is hard to stay focused and motivated.

    Today we are going to tap for when it feels like we are seeking something not because we want it, but because we are living up to someone else’s standards or expectations.

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  • Q & A Call Recording for Aug 27th

    Lots of great questions tonight.

    Here is the audio:

    call recording

    Remember you can ask a question any time to be answered in the call by clicking the contact link above

  • Make The Problem Bigger Than It Really Is

    I love it when my clients laugh, especially when we are in the middle of something very emotional.

    It is a great way to break the tension and it’s an even better way bring perspective and truth to a struggle.

    I was first introduced to this idea when Gary Craig talked about “the comedies of our mind”. What he meant by that phrase was that if we take limiting beliefs out of our heads and bring them into the light of day we will be able to laugh at them because they are so preposterous.

    Here are few examples from clients sessions just this week:

    • If I ask the wrong question during our staff meeting I will be fired.
    • If I ask my friends to join the multi-level marketing I am a part of they will think I am a crook.
    • If I ask her out she will laugh in my face.

    Once my clients hear out loud what is going on in their subconscious it loses a lot of power because they can see how their minds are over-functioning.

    Not only do I get my clients to see what the subconscious thinks will happen, I also like to push the envelope to make the outcomes bigger and bigger.

    For example, if they are worried that they will say something out of place at work we would tap like this:

    • I am afraid to speak up during our staff meeting
    • because I might say something stupid
    • and they will think I am stupid
    • and they won’t trust me with anything else
    • and my boss will think it was a mistake to hire me
    • and I will be fired
    • and not be able to get another job
    • and lose my home
    • and have to live on the streets
    • and beg for food
    • and will die in a gutter alone.

    Yes, that is absolutely ridiculous, but it puts the danger in perspective. We no longer feel that saying something dumb during a staff meeting is the worst thing that could ever happen to us.

    To use this with your tapping all you need to do is take the worry you have and make it much bigger than it really is.

    Start with the fear you have: I am going to say something stupid.

    List the real possible outcome: I will look foolish.

    Come up with 6 more outcomes with each one being worse than the one before.

    Before you know it you will be laughing to yourself and you will be able to see the issue in perspective.

  • We Are In This Together

    I quote Mother Teresa a lot. Mostly because she speaks to my heart in such a simple and loving way.

    Today we are going to tap and reflect on her words, “If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.”

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  • I Don’t Know Exactly What I Want So Am Afraid I Will Waste Effort By Doing The Wrong Thing

    It always feels good to have a plan. When we know where we are heading it is easier to take action with confidence.

    When we aren’t sure exactly of our direction it is harder to feel sure of our best course of action. In this situation it’s often easier not take action because we are concerned about doing the wrong thing and wasting time and effort.

    Today we are going to tap for those times when we are hesitant about taking action because of our concern that it’s not the right one and will be a waste of our resources.

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  • Others Think My Goals Are Trivial And Foolish

    Our goals very personal. They are things that we have named that are useful and meaningful to us. Just because we think a goal is worth working for doesn’t mean that the people in our life will think the same things are important or valuable.

    There will even be times when people dismiss and diminish our goals as silly and foolish. When this happens we question ourselves and our motivation.

    Today we are going to tap for when others think our goals are a waste of time.

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  • Choosing To Set Today Up For Success

    When something happens once it is interesting. When something happens twice it is a coincidence. When something happens three times it is a pattern.

    When it happens five times in three days…well I don’t know. It is something AND something important.

    In the last three days the “What I Choose For Today” tapping script has been mentioned five times by members of this site in conversations and emails. And I don’t mean I brought it up because it made sense in the context of their questions.

    They brought it up unprompted by me and talked about what a powerful tool it is.

    To that end this week I want you to revisit this powerful tool!

    I have both an audio and pdf version so you can use it in format that makes the most sense for you.

    What I Choose For Today (pdf)

    What I Choose For Today