Tag: 4.13

We learn from our past experiences. But sometimes we learn the wrong lessons.

It is possible that when we fail we learn the lesson that, “I have failed before and therefore I will fail again.”

One failure doesn’t mean another is inevitable.

So today we’re going to tap for the fear that, “I have failed before and therefore I will fail again.”

I Have Failed Before So I Will Fail Again
(audio 3m54s)

I learn from my past…I learn from the patterns of my life…And this is a good thing…It means I’m capable of learning…It means that when I do things well…I am encouraged to do them again…But I’m far from perfect…I have made mistakes…I have failed at things in the past…I recognize the fact…That this can hold me back…From trying again…I have failed before…And therefore I’m going to fail again…I’m not going to try…Because I don’t want to fail again…And it’s good that I’m trying to avoid failure…And all that comes along with that… But just because I failed at something in the past…Doesn’t mean I’m going to fail at it again…Everything that we know how to do…We didn’t do it right the first time…We failed at it…Some things we even failed more often…It took us close to nine months just to learn how to walk…Which involved lots and lots of failing…And lots and lots of falling down…Just because I failed at something in the past…It doesn’t mean that I’m going to fail again in the future…I give myself permission to try…To do these things I’m afraid of failing…Even though failing is a possibility…It is not the end of the world…It’s the farthest thing from me into the world…I’m going to survive…I’m going to get up and do it again…Failure in the past does not mean failure forever.

There are few things I find more painful than naming something as important, putting my heart and soul into it, and then failing.

Because this has happened in the past there is a part of me that would rather not try than deal with that feeling again.

Today we are going to tap for the hesitant part of us that doesn’t want to feel the sting of failure.

What If I Fail
(audio 3m35s)

I am worried that I’m going to fail… I’m worried I’m going to invest my time…And I’m going to fail…I’m worried I’m going to invest energy…And then I’m going to fail…I’m worried that I’m going to invest resources…And then I’m going to fail…Failing is no fun…It feels like a waste…It can be embarrassing…When we fail at a task…It’s easy to feel like a failure…I don’t want to feel like a failure…I give myself permission…To know it’s OK to fail…I am not going to do everything perfectly…I didn’t do it perfectly last time…There have been times where I completely messed it up…And that’s OK…I survived those failures…I learned from those failures…I grew from those failures…I’m not looking to fail…I’m not hoping to fail…But failing will not be the end…Sometimes when I fail…It simply means I’m not done…I’m one step closer to my goal…I just don’t completely have it yet…And that’s OK…I’ve survived failure before…And I’m going to survive it again…It’s OK to try…Knowing failures are possibility…Because I’m trying…Because of the value of the reward.