When we are working towards something new it often times takes extra work. It would be create if our loved ones appreciated the work we were doing. When they do recognize our work it can serve as an encouragement.
Unfortunately, our loved ones sometime don’t understand or appreciate how hard we are working.
Today we are going to tap for those times they don’t.
We want our loved ones to support us and to be happy about our progress and success.
But there will be times when they just don’t get it. They don’t understand our goals or they don’t understand why they are important to us and this lack of support can influence our willingness to take action.
Today we are going to tap for those times when our loved ones don’t take our goals seriously.
I know it doesn’t do me any good to be concerned about what other people think. But I do it anyway.
I because I know I shouldn’t worry about what they think I beat myself up for worrying about what they think.
Today we are going to tap for the emotions around worrying about what others think.
Our goals are very personal because they are about making our lives better, even when they also improve the lives of others. There will be times when it feels like our loved ones don’t understand.
Today we are going to tap for when others don’t think our goals are important.
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In order to pursue our goals we need to spend time, emotion, and energy to make those goals happen.
This might mean that we stop doing other tasks and spend less time with the people in our lives. As much as our loved ones want what is best for us, they sometimes push back on us for trying to achieve our goals. They might even think or call us selfish for doing something for ourselves.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that others will perceive us as selfish for doing something for ourselves.
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Our goals are a very personal thing. Sometimes we want what others want and sometimes we want something different that is completely personal. Because it so personal there are times when others don’t understand what we are up to or why we want it.
Today we are going to tap for the push back we receive from those in our lives who don’t understand and support what we are up to.
Working toward our goals can feel like a solitary task and it is nice to feel that we can include the other people in our lives by sharing about our endeavors.
So it can feel very deflating we were are working hard and making progress, only to realize that the people in our lives have not noticed.
Today we are going to tap for when we feel bad for when others don’t recognize our progress.
Our goals very personal. They are things that we have named that are useful and meaningful to us. Just because we think a goal is worth working for doesn’t mean that the people in our life will think the same things are important or valuable.
There will even be times when people dismiss and diminish our goals as silly and foolish. When this happens we question ourselves and our motivation.
Today we are going to tap for when others think our goals are a waste of time.
In order to achieve our goals we need to work hard. Most of the reward comes in achieving our goals. It is also nice to be acknowledged by others for all the work we are doing. It can really hurt when our hard work is not being noticed by others.
Today we are going to tap for those times when we feel (even a little) emotional pain when others are not recognizing our work.
It Hurts When Others Don’t See How Hard I Am Working
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I’m working really hard…I’m really committed to my goals…I’m taking bold action…I’m looking at the parts of my life that I’m not thrilled with…My efforts are far from perfect…And I’m sure I could be doing more…But I am committed to this…I am working hard…And the people around me just don’t realize it…The people around me don’t realize how much this costs…The people around me don’t realize how important this is…The people around me don’t realize how much effort I’m putting in…The people around me don’t realize how hard I’m trying…And I wish they understood…I wish they noticed…I wish they knew…It would be so nice to have their support…It would be so nice to have their encouragement…Not that I have to have it…Not that it’s a requirement for my success…But having people understand is important…Having people understand is encouraging…Having people understand is comforting…As I continue to work…As I continue to move forward…The people around me are going to catch up…They’re going to start to notice the positive change…They’re going to notice the effort that I am putting in…They’re going to see this work for what it is…And regardless if they notice or not…What’s more important is the fact that I notice…I recognize my commitment…I recognize my effort…I recognize why I’m doing this…It would be great to have more support…It would be great to have more recognition…But if it comes or not…I’m going to continue to strive…Put forth the effort…Because my work and transformation is the most important thing.
I have worked really hard over the last few years to make myself and my life better. I am proud of the changes I have made.
Sometimes people see those changes and it is nice to have that recognition.
There are other times where it goes unnoticed and, even worse, people assume I am like I was in the past. I find this demoralizing.
Today we are going to tap for feeling demoralized because others don’t notice our change.
What If No One Notices My Progress?
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I want to keep moving forward…I want to keep making changes…I want to step towards my goals…Knowing full well that as I move forward…My life is going to change…I’m going to see things in new ways…I’m going to act in new ways…And I’m going to respond moment-to- moment in new ways…There’s part of me that’s worried…That the people around me…Aren’t going to recognize that change…They’re going to see me as I was…Simply assuming nothing has changed…Expecting me to fill the exact same role…And not appreciating all the effort that I have put in…And when this happens…It almost feels like the change was worthless… Because it hasn’t been validated…And recognized by those around me…It would be really nice if others could celebrate my transformation…It would be really nice if others saw me in the new way that I am…It would be really nice if they saw all the hard work I’ve put in to make this change…And that may or may not happen…But even if others don’t see my change…It doesn’t invalidate my change…Even if others continue to see me in the old way…It doesn’t mean my work wasn’t worth it…I need to keep moving forward…I need to keep striving for better…Even when others don’t recognize it…Even if others dismiss it…This simple fact that I’m changing…And moving forward…Is enough for the transformation…Maybe someday others will see the new me…But what’s most important is the fact that I keep moving forward…Keep producing the goals…Keep striving…Keep becoming the new me.