We want our loved ones to support us and to be happy about our progress and success.
But there will be times when they just don’t get it. They don’t understand our goals or they don’t understand why they are important to us and this lack of support can influence our willingness to take action.
Today we are going to tap for those times when our loved ones don’t take our goals seriously.
The changes we make in our lives are often noticeable to our friends. This is often a good thing because appreciate our progress, encourage us to continue, and can be inspired by our effort and action.
But our success can also shine a light on our loved ones’ lack of progress leaving them feeling bad as a result. In wanting to save their feelings we may become hesitant about taking action.
Today we are going to tap for the fear of how others will judge themselves based on our progress.
There is no doubt that we are influenced by the families we grow up in. We spend so much time with our family that it’s entirely natural to adopt the same patterns and approaches.
At a certain point we recognize that we need to break free, but sometimes that is easier said than done.
Today we are going to tap to break those family patterns that no longer serve us.
I know it doesn’t do me any good to be concerned about what other people think. But I do it anyway.
I because I know I shouldn’t worry about what they think I beat myself up for worrying about what they think.
Today we are going to tap for the emotions around worrying about what others think.
It is easy to get excited about our goals and how our life is changing. But not everyone is trying to make progress in the same way and sometimes those close to us feel self-conscious about their own lack of progress.
Today we are going to tap for when our loved ones feel judged by us when we share our goals and progress.
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Learning new things is great. It helps us to grow, move forward, and become more self-sufficient. Unfortunately, we can (or others can) feel like we always need to be learning something new. Once we have gained one skill there is a pull to learn another.
Today we are going to tap for the concern that learning something new will only create the need to learn something else new.
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When we are successful chances are that we will stand out in the crowd. This can feel really scary because when we are noticed it opens us to more scrutiny and criticism.
Today we are going to tap the fear of what could go wrong it we start to stand out because of our success.
When we move to take action there are few guarantees. Things might work out and they might not.
Today we are going to tap for when the worry about something not working is greater than the hope that it will.
In order to pursue our goals we need to spend time, emotion, and energy to make those goals happen.
This might mean that we stop doing other tasks and spend less time with the people in our lives. As much as our loved ones want what is best for us, they sometimes push back on us for trying to achieve our goals. They might even think or call us selfish for doing something for ourselves.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that others will perceive us as selfish for doing something for ourselves.
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Making progress is really encouraging. We feel better about ourselves and it gives us momentum to take more action.
One of the side effects of our success is that others may raise their expectations of us.
This can be both flattering and feel like a burden. Part of us can be fearful that others will expect this new level of success from us all the time.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that others will expect more from us if we succeed today.