Sometimes we feel like the victim of our own success. Because we are capable and competent at one thing it is easy for others to expect us to be capable and competent at all things.
Today we are going to tap for feeling pressure to be good at everything.
When we spend a lot of time thinking about what we want it is easy to feel confused. There are so many options and paths we could take, that there comes a time when we just don’t know what we want.
It is almost impossible to take action from this place of confusion because we have lost sight of the end goal.
Today we are going to tap for times when we don’t know what we want or what to do.
There are people in our lives who have strong opinions about what we should be doing, why we should be doing it, and how we should go about doing it. AND in many cases they are more than willing to share their opinion with us.
When we are unclear about exactly what we would like we can feel hesitant about taking action because we know these people will judge our lack of clarity.
Today we are going to tap for taking action in the face of not having a clear vision of where we are heading.
Our loved ones can be our harshest critics. It might be because they can feel liberated to criticize because they are so close to us. It might have to do with the fact that they feel uncomfortable by our effort to move forward.
Regardless why it happen, it can be really hard when we are judged by those close to us.
Today we are going to tap for the emotions that come with the harsh critique of our loved ones.
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When we are taking on new tasks we will encounter some things we don’t know how to do. The easiest path achieving these is asking for help.
There are times we don’t want to ask for help because we have to admit that we don’t know how to do something. It can be hard letting others know that we don’t know something. That can be embarrassing.
Today we are going to tap for the worry around others judging us when we admit we don’t know something.
When we are trying new things we will encounter things that we don’t know how to do. Some of these things are so new and different that we don’t know where to start and they feel impossible for us to learn.
Today we are going to tap for the feeling of overwhelm that comes with new tasks that feel too complicated for us to learn.
When we set out to do something we have never done before there will be lots of steps and tasks that are new to us.
In this circumstance it is easy to be self-conscious about looking like we don’t know what we are doing.
Today we are going to tap for fear of being judged as we taken on things that are new to us.
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There are times when we feel like we have two left feet. Nothing comes easily and nothing turns out the way we want.
Today we are going to tap for those times where it feels like we just can’t do anything right.
It is great to be in a position where we are owning our progress. It feels so good to take pride in a job well done.
Sometimes we feel that we need to do ALL the work towards achieving our goals and that we are a failure on some level if we aren’t self-sufficient and able do everything ourselves.
There is no shame is asking for help. (We would be mad if others didn’t ask us for help when they needed it!)
Today we are going to tap to be easy with ourselves knowing it is OK to ask for help.
When learning new things we often have to ask for help.
Sometimes we feel stupid and embarrassed because it means we have to admit to others that we don’t know something.
Today we are going to tap for being uncomfortable about asking for help.
Asking For Help Is Embarrassing Because It Lets People Know I Don’t Know
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I understand I need to learn something new…I understand I need to gain knowledge…The only way I’m going to move forward…Is if I learn something new…And to learn something new…Often times what I have to do…Is I have to ask for help…Because there are people around me who have the knowledge I need…There are people around me who have the experience I need…There are people around me who’ll help me to move forward…But when I ask for help…I’m signaling the fact…That I don’t know something…And there’s a part of me that’s afraid…That if I signal the fact that I don’t know something…People will think less of me…People are going to think I’m not competent…People are going to think I’m not capable…People are going to think that I can’t handle it…People are going to think I’m downright stupid…But the truth is…When I ask for help…I’m not saying, “Hey I’m stupid”…Instead I’m saying, “Hey you know something really important”…I’m saying, “You are really valuable”…I’m saying, “You have knowledge and wisdom, please share that with me”…And so, people aren’t going to think I’m stupid…People aren’t going to think I’m incompetent…They are going to feel honored…They are going to feel appreciated…Because I’m pointing out…They can do something important…That I can’t do…I give myself permission…To know there are lots of people who want to help me…I give myself permission…That people would feel bad if I didn’t ask them for help…I give myself permission to take action…Ask for the help I need…So I can move forward…I’m not saying I’m stupid…I’m not saying I’m incompetent…When I’m asking for help I simply don’t know…And everything in my life…Is something I didn’t know…At some time…I’ve survived asking for help before…I’ll survive now…And it will speed my progress to my goal.