Sometimes we feel like the victim of our own success. Because we are capable and competent at one thing it is easy for others to expect us to be capable and competent at all things.
Today we are going to tap for feeling pressure to be good at everything.
Small children are like sponges when it comes to learning. It is almost as if they learn by osmosis.
As we get older it can feel like we are just not able to pick up new things, particularly those involving unfamiliar technology. Part of us resists trying something new because we don’t want to deal with the frustration that comes with learning.
Today we are going to tap for feeling like we are too old or too slow to learn something new.
When we are taking on new tasks we will encounter some things we don’t know how to do. The easiest path achieving these is asking for help.
There are times we don’t want to ask for help because we have to admit that we don’t know how to do something. It can be hard letting others know that we don’t know something. That can be embarrassing.
Today we are going to tap for the worry around others judging us when we admit we don’t know something.
When we are trying new things we will encounter things that we don’t know how to do. Some of these things are so new and different that we don’t know where to start and they feel impossible for us to learn.
Today we are going to tap for the feeling of overwhelm that comes with new tasks that feel too complicated for us to learn.
When we set out to do something we have never done before there will be lots of steps and tasks that are new to us.
In this circumstance it is easy to be self-conscious about looking like we don’t know what we are doing.
Today we are going to tap for fear of being judged as we taken on things that are new to us.
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It is great to be in a position where we are owning our progress. It feels so good to take pride in a job well done.
Sometimes we feel that we need to do ALL the work towards achieving our goals and that we are a failure on some level if we aren’t self-sufficient and able do everything ourselves.
There is no shame is asking for help. (We would be mad if others didn’t ask us for help when they needed it!)
Today we are going to tap to be easy with ourselves knowing it is OK to ask for help.
It can be very frustrating to lack a clear vision of what we want.
We feel lost. We feel like we are wasting time. We feel like we are missing out on opportunities.
Today we are going to tap for that feeling of knowing that we want better and more, but have no clue what better or more looks like.
Our goals very personal. They are things that we have named that are useful and meaningful to us. Just because we think a goal is worth working for doesn’t mean that the people in our life will think the same things are important or valuable.
There will even be times when people dismiss and diminish our goals as silly and foolish. When this happens we question ourselves and our motivation.
Today we are going to tap for when others think our goals are a waste of time.
When learning new things we often have to ask for help.
Sometimes we feel stupid and embarrassed because it means we have to admit to others that we don’t know something.
Today we are going to tap for being uncomfortable about asking for help.
Asking For Help Is Embarrassing Because It Lets People Know I Don’t Know
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I understand I need to learn something new…I understand I need to gain knowledge…The only way I’m going to move forward…Is if I learn something new…And to learn something new…Often times what I have to do…Is I have to ask for help…Because there are people around me who have the knowledge I need…There are people around me who have the experience I need…There are people around me who’ll help me to move forward…But when I ask for help…I’m signaling the fact…That I don’t know something…And there’s a part of me that’s afraid…That if I signal the fact that I don’t know something…People will think less of me…People are going to think I’m not competent…People are going to think I’m not capable…People are going to think that I can’t handle it…People are going to think I’m downright stupid…But the truth is…When I ask for help…I’m not saying, “Hey I’m stupid”…Instead I’m saying, “Hey you know something really important”…I’m saying, “You are really valuable”…I’m saying, “You have knowledge and wisdom, please share that with me”…And so, people aren’t going to think I’m stupid…People aren’t going to think I’m incompetent…They are going to feel honored…They are going to feel appreciated…Because I’m pointing out…They can do something important…That I can’t do…I give myself permission…To know there are lots of people who want to help me…I give myself permission…That people would feel bad if I didn’t ask them for help…I give myself permission to take action…Ask for the help I need…So I can move forward…I’m not saying I’m stupid…I’m not saying I’m incompetent…When I’m asking for help I simply don’t know…And everything in my life…Is something I didn’t know…At some time…I’ve survived asking for help before…I’ll survive now…And it will speed my progress to my goal.
In order to achieve our goals we often have to learn how to do things we have never done before.
This can feel intimidating and overwhelming.
Today we are going to tap for feeling like it is too hard to learn what needs to learned to be successful.
I Can’t Do This Because There Is No Way I Can Learn What I Need To Be Successful
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There are goals that I want to achieve…There are goals that I think are really important…It will make my life so much better…It will make other people’s lives better as well…And it’s something that is new for me…It is something that is different for me…It is something that feels like it is a long way away…And it’s going to require me to learn something new…It’s going to require me to do something new…It’s going to require me to do things I’ve never done before…And I feel like I have to learn so much…And it’s going to take so long to learn that…And I feel like I can’t move forward…Until I’ve learned all of those new things…But I don’t have to learn it all to start…As I begin to learn…I can start putting my new knowledge into action…As I begin to learn…I can start to implement what I know…It is a process…And nothing I have ever done…Didn’t require some learning first…And even though I have so much to learn…The goals I want to achieve…Are important enough to put in the effort…The goals I want to achieve…Mean so much to me I’m willing to try…It is going to take time…It is going to take effort…I am going to have to work at it…But the knowledge I gather…The knowledge I capture…Is enough to help me to move forward…To be successful…Learning new things is an investment…That takes time…But will pay dividends…For the rest of my life…I give myself permission…To take the time…To do the work…Knowing it will pay off in the long run.