Our goals are very personal because they are about making our lives better, even when they also improve the lives of others. There will be times when it feels like our loved ones don’t understand.
Today we are going to tap for when others don’t think our goals are important.
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Our loved ones can be our harshest critics. It might be because they can feel liberated to criticize because they are so close to us. It might have to do with the fact that they feel uncomfortable by our effort to move forward.
Regardless why it happen, it can be really hard when we are judged by those close to us.
Today we are going to tap for the emotions that come with the harsh critique of our loved ones.
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When we move to take action there are few guarantees. Things might work out and they might not.
Today we are going to tap for when the worry about something not working is greater than the hope that it will.
When we are taking on new tasks we will encounter some things we don’t know how to do. The easiest path achieving these is asking for help.
There are times we don’t want to ask for help because we have to admit that we don’t know how to do something. It can be hard letting others know that we don’t know something. That can be embarrassing.
Today we are going to tap for the worry around others judging us when we admit we don’t know something.
When we set out to do something we have never done before there will be lots of steps and tasks that are new to us.
In this circumstance it is easy to be self-conscious about looking like we don’t know what we are doing.
Today we are going to tap for fear of being judged as we taken on things that are new to us.
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Making changes in our lives often has consequences and impacts our relationships. If you go back to school, for example, you may have less time to spend with loved ones.
It’s possible that the people your lives will react negatively when you change. They might feel like they are being left behind, that you think you too good for them, or they may feel bad because they don’t have the courage to make changes themselves.
Today we are going to tap for how the negative reactions of others to our change might slow us down.
Our goals very personal. They are things that we have named that are useful and meaningful to us. Just because we think a goal is worth working for doesn’t mean that the people in our life will think the same things are important or valuable.
There will even be times when people dismiss and diminish our goals as silly and foolish. When this happens we question ourselves and our motivation.
Today we are going to tap for when others think our goals are a waste of time.
When we state a new goal it means we have to say that certain aspects of our lives aren’t working the way they should. It means that we have to say that we have failed up to this point.
Today we are going to tap for the fear of admitting that we have made mistakes and haven’t yet reached our goals.
Working Towards My Goal Means I Have To Admit I Have Failed Up To Now
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There’s a part of me that wants to move forward…There’s a part of me that wants to go after this new goal…There’s a part of me that wants transformation…But in order to have transformation…I have to be honest with the fact…That what I have right now…Isn’t perfect…What I have right now…Is full of problems…And I’ve created the circumstance I’m in…I’ve made choices to put myself here…And if I’m admitting everything isn’t perfect…I have to also admit that I have failed…I have to admit that I made mistakes…I have to admit that I made bad choices…I have to admit that I where I am isn’t healthy…I have to admit I haven’t taken action soon enough…And all of those things are hard to do…But regardless how I got to this point…Regardless of the choices before now…The fact that I am making a choice…And wanting to move forward…Is a good thing…The fact that I am making choices…And wanting to strive…Is a good thing…Things were not perfect up to this moment…I’ve created a life that is far from perfect…But what is much more important…Is my willingness today…To make a different choice…To make a better choice…To make new choices…Yes, I have made bad choices…Yes, I have failed…And to strive for something new is to admit that…But being honest with where I am…And striving for where I want to be…Is more important than the choices that have led to now…I give myself permission to move forward…Being honest with where I’ve been…And striving for where I want to be.
When learning new things we often have to ask for help.
Sometimes we feel stupid and embarrassed because it means we have to admit to others that we don’t know something.
Today we are going to tap for being uncomfortable about asking for help.
Asking For Help Is Embarrassing Because It Lets People Know I Don’t Know
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I understand I need to learn something new…I understand I need to gain knowledge…The only way I’m going to move forward…Is if I learn something new…And to learn something new…Often times what I have to do…Is I have to ask for help…Because there are people around me who have the knowledge I need…There are people around me who have the experience I need…There are people around me who’ll help me to move forward…But when I ask for help…I’m signaling the fact…That I don’t know something…And there’s a part of me that’s afraid…That if I signal the fact that I don’t know something…People will think less of me…People are going to think I’m not competent…People are going to think I’m not capable…People are going to think that I can’t handle it…People are going to think I’m downright stupid…But the truth is…When I ask for help…I’m not saying, “Hey I’m stupid”…Instead I’m saying, “Hey you know something really important”…I’m saying, “You are really valuable”…I’m saying, “You have knowledge and wisdom, please share that with me”…And so, people aren’t going to think I’m stupid…People aren’t going to think I’m incompetent…They are going to feel honored…They are going to feel appreciated…Because I’m pointing out…They can do something important…That I can’t do…I give myself permission…To know there are lots of people who want to help me…I give myself permission…That people would feel bad if I didn’t ask them for help…I give myself permission to take action…Ask for the help I need…So I can move forward…I’m not saying I’m stupid…I’m not saying I’m incompetent…When I’m asking for help I simply don’t know…And everything in my life…Is something I didn’t know…At some time…I’ve survived asking for help before…I’ll survive now…And it will speed my progress to my goal.
Learning something new can be intimidating. This is especially true when we have attempted to learn something new in the past and failed.
Today we are going to tap for worrying about how trying to learn something new will work out.
I Have Failed At Learning New Things In The Past
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I know I need a new skill…I know I need to learn more…In everything that I do…From the simple to the most complex…Is something I didn’t know how to do at one point…I had to learn how to do it…So I know it’s possible for me to learn…I spend my entire life learning…I learn new things without even thinking about it…But there’s a part of me…That is worried that this new thing I need to learn…Is going to be too much…Is going to be too hard…I’m going to fail at learning this…I’m going to look foolish trying…And it’s going to be a big gigantic waste of time…It’s good that I don’t want to waste my time…It’s good that I don’t want to look foolish…But it’s possible for me…To learn something new…In a way that is far from perfect…In a way where I sometimes mess things up…In a way where I make mistakes…And I’m OK with that…Part of the learning process…Is not getting it right…Part of the learning process…Is learning from my mistakes…There are very few things in my life…That I got right on the first try…And it’s OK…For me to not get this right…I’ve learned things before…I’ve learned lots of things before…This is no different…Even though it looks hard…Even though there’s a chance of failure…I can take it…And I can learn it…Because I was made for learning…I am always learning…And my goal is valuable enough…That I’m going to spend the time I need to learn it.