Category: Tap Along Audios

It is really easy to get bogged down in what is happening right now. What is happening in the present takes up all our time and energy, and sometimes it’s all we are able to see.

We need to remember that we are greater than our circumstances. When we recognize this it is easier for us to take the action that will help us to more forward.

Let’s tap to see ourselves as we truly are: bigger than our circumstances.

We Are Not Our Circumstances
(audio 3m05s)

It’s very easy for me…To mistake what is happening right now…For what will always be…To take my circumstance…And turn it into my identity…Because when I’m in the middle of something…It feels like it’s going to be that way forever…I give myself permission to recognize…That just because it’s like this right now…It doesn’t mean it’s always going to be like this…Just because it’s like this in the moment…Doesn’t mean it’s always going to be this way…My circumstances…Are not who I am…What is going on right now…Will not go on forever…Even though there’s a part of me…That doesn’t feel like it can see a way out…It feels like it’s always going to be like this…It feels like it’s always been like this…Just because I feel like I’m in the middle of it…Just because I feel like I’m stuck with it…Doesn’t mean it’s who I am…Doesn’t mean it’s who I’m always going to be…I give myself permission to recognize…My circumstance is not my identity…My identity exists outside of my circumstance…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself…And easy with the process…As I see that my circumstance…Is not my identity.

One of the things that holds us back is our need to be perfect. The part of us that wants to be perfect wants us to stay safe. When we are perfect we can’t be criticised and we don’t have to do anything again.

We will NEVER be perfect so as long as we hold on to needing to be perfect we will never be able to act.

Today we tap to know that, “It’s OK for me to take imperfect action, now.”

Imperfect Action
(audio 3m05s)

There’s a part of me that wants to be perfect…There’s a part of me that wants to get it exactly right…Because if I get it exactly right…Then it’s going to be easy for me to be successful…Because if I get it exactly right…Nothing can possibly go wrong…So there’s a part of me that’s going to prevent me from acting…Until I know I can do it perfectly…It’s going to wait for more information…It’s going to wait for me to have more skill…It’s going to wait for a more perfect environment to make a choice…But the truth is…I need to be able to take action…In an environment that’s imperfect…By someone who is imperfect…Because there’s never going to be exactly the perfect time…And I’m never going to be exactly perfect…And if I wait for the perfect time…And if I wait for me to be perfect…I’m never going to take action…I give myself permission….To know that it’s OK…To make an imperfect action…At an imperfect time…In an imperfect way…With imperfect knowledge…And even if it doesn’t work out perfectly…It’s possible to have it work out great…There have been lots of times where it worked out great…Where it was far from perfect…I want to be good…I want to be successful…And I don’t need perfect…To be good and successful…I give myself permission….To make choices…From an imperfect space…With imperfect information…With imperfect skills…And an imperfect moment…Knowing I can make all of those things work out.

There are lots of things that are out of our control. It is good that we are aware and take account of them, but if they consume our attention then we will never move towards our goals.

Today I want to focus on what I can control.

Let’s tap for that:

What I Can Control
(audio 3m39s)

There are a lot of things that happen…That don’t happen perfectly…That don’t happen exactly the way that I want…That don’t play to my advantage…And part of the reason this happens…Is I don’t control everything in the universe…There are a lot of things that happen…That I have no say in…And I have no effect on…This is just a fact of life…Even though this is true…It is possible…For me to be successful…With what little I control…Which is all of my thoughts and all of my actions…I can make a huge difference…In working towards…In creating my goals…It does me little good…To worry about…The things I can’t control…I certainly have to respond to…Those things that impact my life…But to spend time…Emotionally…Worrying about things…That I have no impact on…Is a huge waste of resources…It’s a huge spend of energy…Which it makes very, very difficult…For me to be successful…Because I’m concentrating on things that I can’t do anything about…I need to be aware…Of all the things that impact my life…Even those that I don’t control…But just because I’m aware…It doesn’t mean I’m spending energy worrying about what’s going to happen next…Or worrying about those things I can’t control…I give myself permission…To put my full energy…And concentration…On those things I control…On my thoughts…On my emotions…My choices…My actions…And when I do this…I will continue to move towards…My goals… Regardless what happens…Outside of my control.

I’m sure you know the old Henry Ford quote, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.”

Sometimes to move forward we have to believe in something that is bigger than we have ever believed in the past.

Even if we expand our belief of what is possible just a little, it will make a difference.

Today we are believing and acting bigger than we have before.

Acting Bigger Than We Thought Possible
(audio 3m00s)

I know my belief…In what is possible…Impacts my ability…To be successful…When I doubt…When I think something is hard…When I think I’m not capable…I find proof in my environment…And I find proof in my day…That this is true…When I believe something is possible…When I believe something is doable…Even when I know it’s hard…I find proof and belief…In my day…I find opportunity…I find silver linings…I find lessons…I find new ways to move forward…I’m not asking myself to be naïve…To have unrealistic expectations…To think that if I believe…That’s enough…It takes much more than belief…It takes planning…It takes action…But my own belief…In success…Will help me to move along…In a positive way…I give myself permission…To believe that I can have better…To believe that I can have more…To believe in success…To believe in progress…And I give myself permission…To take advantage…Of those opportunities…That my belief…Helps me to see.

It is really easy to get caught up in what others think about us, our effort, our work, and our goals.

When we worry about what others think we become hesitant and stop making progress.

Today we tap to clear our concerns about what others think of us and our goals.

The Opinions Of Others Do Not Define Me
(audio 4m33s)

I’m glad I have people in my life…I’m glad I have people in my life who are aware of my choices…Who know what I’m striving for…Who know what I’m striving to be…There are going to be times…When the people in my life…Do not support the work that I do…Do not like the choices I make…And that might be because they think they’re the wrong choices…Or it might be that my choices are making them uncomfortable…My growing and stretching…Shines a light on the fact that they are no longer growing and stretching…So that I become hesitant in my choices…Because I don’t want to be judged…I don’t want them to think I’m making a mistake…I don’t want them to think badly of me…I don’t want them to be uncomfortable…And it is good…That there is a part of me…That is trying to be thoughtful…And considerate of others…But I need to make the choices that are right for me…I need to make these choices with confidence…I need to move forward comfortably…I need to know that it is OK…And as I move forward…I’m doing it to become the best me…And it would be great…If everybody in my life loved and supported all of my choices…Appreciated everything that I was doing…But that’s not going to happen…Because my choices are not their choices…And I give myself permission…To know that I don’t have to please everyone…With every one of my choices…I don’t have to make everyone comfortable…With all of my choices…I give myself permission…To take the choice boldly…That are right for me…As I move forward…In big and small ways…I can make the choices I need to make…Not wanting to run over other people’s feelings…But knowing I need to be me…I’m responsible for me…They’re responsible for themselves…It’s good that I’m thoughtful…It’s good that I am considerate…But my choices…Need to be the choices that are right for me.

It would be great if we could achieve our goals in just one step.

Most of the time it doesn’t happen that way. It is more of a little by little process. When we recognize that this is the way it is going to unfold we can be easy with ourselves for not doing it all at once.

When we see that if you just stretch ourselves a little today, and a little tomorrow, and a little the next day we will soon be there.

Today we tap for the desire to stretch a little today.

The Power Of Stretching Just A Little
(audio 4m05s)

I want to be successful…I want to move forward…I want to achieve my goals…Even if I don’t know what they are perfectly…Even if I don’t know what they are exactly…And it would be really nice…If in a single action…Or in a single moment…Or in a single task…I reached my goals…And I’m open to this possibility…But I recognize the fact…That this is going to be a process…And there will be times…Where one of the little steps…Is going to be something new or different…Which is going to be a little bit challenging…Which is going to cause me to need to stretch…Sometimes in big ways…And sometimes in small ways…But I give myself permission…To be easy with the fact…That stretching is going to be uncomfortable…Stretching is going to be hard…Because stretching means I’m going beyond what’s normal…And each time I stretch a little…Each time I try something new…Each time I push myself forward in a little way…I’m setting myself up…To not only be successful at this task…But also to grow…And also to move forward…Each time I stretch…Even if it isn’t perfect…Even if I have to redo that step…The act of stretching…Is about me moving forward…It’s about me being successful…It’s about me in small and big ways…Not only moving towards my goal…By growing and changing who I am…This process will involve stretching…And sometimes even more stretching than I want…But in the end…All of that stretching…Will benefit me…Will benefit me as it moves me towards my goal…And it will continue to help me to become who I am.