It takes work to reach a new level of success and to achieve our goals. We sometimes fear success because we can see that if we had to work so hard to achieve it, then it must follow that we will have to continue to work just as hard to maintain that success.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that success will mean that we will have to keep working as hard to maintain it.
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Often when we are striving for something new we are working toward things we have never achieved before. When we accomplish the goal it can propel us to try and achieve more.
One of the downsides of success is believing that it should be our new normal and anything falling short feels like a failure because we now know of what we are capable.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that success will bring higher (and unreasonable) expectations of ourselves.
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Being spiritual is a good thing.
Often we think of spiritual as simple, humble, and grounded, which is true, but that can feel like it is the opposite of successful.
It is possible to be both spiritual and successful in the world.
Here is how we can tap for any limiting beliefs we have about that:
I Can’t Be Spiritual AND Successful
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One of the things savvy tappers learn quickly is how to find the root causes of issues. This is both a blessing and a curse.
It is a blessing because we can now clear out past issues. It is a curse because it isn’t a lot of fun to wade through our past issues.
When we know that being honest with ourselves can be painful we will avoid it. If we avoid those past issues we will not heal and we will continue to sabotage ourselves.
Today we tap for the fear of what we will uncover when we are honest with ourselves.
If I Am Honest About Why I Haven’t Reach My Goal Yet I Am Going To Uncover A Bunch Of Emotional Crap
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I want to move forward…I want to be successful…I want to achieve my goals…I want to have success…And I know part of the reason…That I’m not moving forward…Is because I’m getting in my own way…There are choices that I’m making…And there are beliefs that I hold…That are preventing me from taking action…And I know…There are lots of tools that I can use…To uncover what is going on…And even though that is a good thing…There’s a part of me that’s worried…Because I’ve experience with this…I know what can be under the surface…And if I go in and root around…And I try and figure out what’s going on…I’m going to find things I don’t want to see…I’m going to find things I don’t like…I’m going to be overcome with emotions…If it is so big that it’s stopping me…From doing what I want…Part of me is afraid…It must simply be massive…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself…As I unpack…And uncover these issues…Knowing that even though it causes big things…It isn’t necessarily a big issue…And I have lot of tools…At my disposal…To help me to manage…Whatever comes up…I give myself permission…To be honest with myself…About who I am…About what I am…And what I’m dealing with…
It seems silly that we would be afraid of achieving success.
It is one of the biggest fears I see in my clients when it comes to short circuiting their success.
When we succeed we can raise the expectations of others and this can be scary. When we fear this we will make sure that we fail.
Let’s tap for worrying about raising others’ expectations.
Fear Of Being Successful
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I want to be successful…I want to move forward…I want to achieve my goals… I want life to be better…I want life to be fuller…I want life to be richer…But for some reason… success is scary…When I’m successful, I raise other people’s expectations…When I’m successful, I raise my own expectations…When I’m successful, I taste the good life…And it’s possible to lose it…And the pain of knowing better and then losing it…Feels like it’s so much worse…Than never experiencing the pleasure of success at all…When things go well…There’s always the sense…That the other shoe is going to drop…And if I’m successful…I will be constantly looking over my shoulder…For that other thing to go wrong…But I give myself permission…To recognize I can manage success…I can enjoy success…Without feeling overburdened by new expectations…Without feeling overburdened by others’ expectations…Without feeling overburdened of the fear of losing success…It’s possible I might have success and lose it…But since I achieved it once…I know I can achieve it again…And again…And again…Success will change my life…It will bring new things…The unknown can be scary…But I can manage these new and different things…Nice big deep breath.
I hear from clients all the time that they just want to share their gifts with the world. They know they are called to do more or offer more. The work we do on their self sabotage is to help them to share their gifts more widely.
But what if you don’t know what your gifts are?
Today we are going to tap for discovering our gifts and/or seeing them more clearly.
Figuring Out What Our Gifts Are
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I want to use my gifts…I want to share my gifts…I want others to profit from my gifts…
I don’t want to squander my gifts…And that’s a really lovely idea…But there are times when I don’t know what my gifts are…I can’t see them clearly…And I can’t see how they fit into the world…And when this happens…It’s really frustrating…I feel like I’m wasting time…And I’m wasting opportunity…Because this moment can’t be here again…And if I don’t use my gifts right now…It was a waste…But the biggest gift I have…Is the gift of my intention…And the gift of my presence…And even if I don’t know my exact gifts… And even if I don’t know how to use what I have…In this particular moment…By being present to this moment…By being fully present to this moment…I will recognize opportunity…And I will recognize inspiration…I will use what I have…To respond to right now…Even if I don’t know my exact gifts…And even if I’m not using what I do best in this moment…That is much less important…Than my presence to this moment…
How I respond…And how I’m present…If I do that…Through opportunity and inspiration…My gifts will reveal themselves…And I will know which one to use now.
One of the things that holds me back is the worry that if I do something well then everyone will expect me to achieve that standard again.
When this happens a part of me holds me back from success to make sure I don’t create higher expectations that I will have to live up to in the future.
Let’s tap for this worry!
Expectations
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I want to move forward…I want to be successful…I want to achieve my goals…I want to have better…I want to challenge myself…And reach new heights…But there’s a part of me that’s worried…That if I achieve…That if I move forward…That if I’m successful…I’m setting myself up for trouble…Because if I’m successful…If I do this well…If I exceed expectations…My new level of success…Will be what is expected of me in future…Everybody will expect more of me…And I’m working hard to meet these goals…And if they expect more of me…I have to work harder all the time…I give myself permission to know…I can be successful…And meet my standards…I can be successful…And meet my expectations…Because my standards…And my expectations…Are what are most important…It’s less important…What others hold me to…I can be successful…I can move forward…Without making it harder for myself…By feeling like expectations have been raised…