Sometimes it is hard to take action because new choices mean new outcomes. Even though I know my present situation isn’t perfect it is something I understand and I know how to manage it.
Something new might be better or it might be worse than what is going on right now. When this happens it can be easy to cling to the present situation because “the crap we know is better than the crap we don’t know.”
Today we are going to tap for the desire to stay put because it predictable and manageable.
I know it doesn’t do me any good to be concerned about what other people think. But I do it anyway.
I because I know I shouldn’t worry about what they think I beat myself up for worrying about what they think.
Today we are going to tap for the emotions around worrying about what others think.
It is easy to get excited about our goals and how our life is changing. But not everyone is trying to make progress in the same way and sometimes those close to us feel self-conscious about their own lack of progress.
Today we are going to tap for when our loved ones feel judged by us when we share our goals and progress.
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Our goals are very personal because they are about making our lives better, even when they also improve the lives of others. There will be times when it feels like our loved ones don’t understand.
Today we are going to tap for when others don’t think our goals are important.
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When we are successful chances are that we will stand out in the crowd. This can feel really scary because when we are noticed it opens us to more scrutiny and criticism.
Today we are going to tap the fear of what could go wrong it we start to stand out because of our success.
Every time we are successful at something new we prove to ourselves and others of what we are capable. But just because we achieved something once doesn’t mean that it was easy to do or that it will be easy to repeat.
One of the fears we have when striving for new things is that others will always expect us to live up to that high standard.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that success will raise others’ expectations of us.
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Making progress is really encouraging. We feel better about ourselves and it gives us momentum to take more action.
One of the side effects of our success is that others may raise their expectations of us.
This can be both flattering and feel like a burden. Part of us can be fearful that others will expect this new level of success from us all the time.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that others will expect more from us if we succeed today.
Our goals are a very personal thing. Sometimes we want what others want and sometimes we want something different that is completely personal. Because it so personal there are times when others don’t understand what we are up to or why we want it.
Today we are going to tap for the push back we receive from those in our lives who don’t understand and support what we are up to.
Most of the people in our life honestly and truly want what is best for us. The problem comes when they are giving us encouragement and advice based on what they believe is best for us and not what we think is best for us.
It is not that they don’t trust us, but they are seeing our lives through the lens of how they see their own lives.
Today we tap for those times when it feels like others are trying to get us to live up to their definition of happiness and success.
It is good to have passion. It is even better to feel like our goal is within our grasp and that we can take action every day to get there.
There are times when, as we get closer and closer to our goal, it starts to take up more of our time, energy, and attention. When this happens it can create the concern that it will take over to the extent that we neglect other parts of our life.
Today we are going to tap for those times where it feels like our desire for one thing is going to take over our life completely.