Sometimes we feel like the victim of our own success. Because we are capable and competent at one thing it is easy for others to expect us to be capable and competent at all things.
Today we are going to tap for feeling pressure to be good at everything.
Even though life may not be perfect right now, it is manageable. We know what to expect and we have established ways of responding.
Achieving our goals brings new and sometimes unpredictable things into our lives, which can be complicated. When we anticipate this complexity it can hold us back from taking action because we want life to be easy.
Today we are going to tap for the worry of life becoming more complicated after achieving our goals.
No goal that we create will be the be all and end all goal. Not matter what we achieve we will want something more soon afterwards.
Knowing this, it’s easy to become demotivated about our current goals because they feel less worthwhile if we are just going to want something else right after achieving them.
Today we are going to tap on recognizing the value of our current goals even though we recognize that there will be more goals and dreams that follow.
Our success doesn’t happen in a vacuum. When we make progress it can directly impact the lives of our loved ones.
Our loved ones can sometimes encourage us to take action because of the benefits they will receive, rather than what we get out of it.
Today we are going to tap for making sure we are pursuing our goals because they are what we want for ourselves.
When we make changes in our life it often means doing more work because we are taking new actions and learning new things.
Our loved ones sometimes want to reap the benefits of our hard work as well. It is fine for us to choose to share our progress with our loved ones but more difficult if there is a sense of expectation from them.
Feeling worried about others taking advantage of our progress can hold us back from taking action.
Today we are going to tap for those times we worry about others expecting us to do for them what we are doing for ourselves.
Things often don’t work out as planned. We don’t do things as well as we would like and we encounter unexpected obstacles along the way. Our progress feels frustratingly slow when this happens.
Today we are going to tap for when we feel like we are taking one step forward followed by two steps back.
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Learning new things is great. It helps us to grow, move forward, and become more self-sufficient. Unfortunately, we can (or others can) feel like we always need to be learning something new. Once we have gained one skill there is a pull to learn another.
Today we are going to tap for the concern that learning something new will only create the need to learn something else new.
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Every time we are successful at something new we prove to ourselves and others of what we are capable. But just because we achieved something once doesn’t mean that it was easy to do or that it will be easy to repeat.
One of the fears we have when striving for new things is that others will always expect us to live up to that high standard.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that success will raise others’ expectations of us.
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Making progress is really encouraging. We feel better about ourselves and it gives us momentum to take more action.
One of the side effects of our success is that others may raise their expectations of us.
This can be both flattering and feel like a burden. Part of us can be fearful that others will expect this new level of success from us all the time.
Today we are going to tap for the fear that others will expect more from us if we succeed today.
It is really easy to get caught up in what others think about us, our effort, our work, and our goals.
When we worry about what others think we become hesitant and stop making progress.
Today we tap to clear our concerns about what others think of us and our goals.
The Opinions Of Others Do Not Define Me
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I’m glad I have people in my life…I’m glad I have people in my life who are aware of my choices…Who know what I’m striving for…Who know what I’m striving to be…There are going to be times…When the people in my life…Do not support the work that I do…Do not like the choices I make…And that might be because they think they’re the wrong choices…Or it might be that my choices are making them uncomfortable…My growing and stretching…Shines a light on the fact that they are no longer growing and stretching…So that I become hesitant in my choices…Because I don’t want to be judged…I don’t want them to think I’m making a mistake…I don’t want them to think badly of me…I don’t want them to be uncomfortable…And it is good…That there is a part of me…That is trying to be thoughtful…And considerate of others…But I need to make the choices that are right for me…I need to make these choices with confidence…I need to move forward comfortably…I need to know that it is OK…And as I move forward…I’m doing it to become the best me…And it would be great…If everybody in my life loved and supported all of my choices…Appreciated everything that I was doing…But that’s not going to happen…Because my choices are not their choices…And I give myself permission…To know that I don’t have to please everyone…With every one of my choices…I don’t have to make everyone comfortable…With all of my choices…I give myself permission…To take the choice boldly…That are right for me…As I move forward…In big and small ways…I can make the choices I need to make…Not wanting to run over other people’s feelings…But knowing I need to be me…I’m responsible for me…They’re responsible for themselves…It’s good that I’m thoughtful…It’s good that I am considerate…But my choices…Need to be the choices that are right for me.