Tag: 1.11

One of the things I struggle with is being able to ask for help. Asking for help can feel like a failure because if I am to claim my success then I feel should be achieving it on my own.

Today we tap for being easy with ourselves so that we can ask others for help.

Having Trouble Asking For Help
(audio 3m40s)

There’s a part of me…That doesn’t want to ask for help…And thinks that if I ask for help…I have failed…Because this is my journey…This is my process…I’m supposed to be doing this on my own…If anyone helps me…It must be because I’m weak…It must be because I’m incapable…It must be because I’m unworthy…Of any sort of success…But there are lots of things in my life…That I ask for help with every single day…I don’t make my own clothes…I don’t build my own car…I don’t grow my own food…There are lots of things…That other people help me with…That are out of my genius…That are out of my expertise…But are necessary for me to be successful…It’s OK for me to ask for help…It’s good for me to ask for help…When I ask for help…I get things done sooner…I get things done quicker…I get things done with less effort…When I ask for help…I put myself into a position…To have somebody else…Share their gifts with me…In such a way…That will help to propel me forward…Asking for help isn’t failing…Asking for help isn’t giving up…Asking for help isn’t saying I’m not enough…Asking for help is merely stating…That I’m moving forward…In such a way…That I’m concentrating on what I can work on…What I know…And what is my genius…Getting help doesn’t mean that I am weak…Getting help doesn’t mean that I am incapable…It means I’m smart…It means I’m efficient…It means I’ll move to my goals much faster.

Dealing with uncertainty is really tough. Often we find it easier to respond to situations that are consistently bad than those that are inconsistent and unpredictable.

When things are inconsistent we are constantly on guard and spend a great deal of energy looking out for change which makes it hard for us to move forward in a meaningful way.

Today we are going to tap for times of instability and working our way back to balance.

Struggle With Stability
(audio 3m53s)

When things are unstable…When things are in flux…It’s hard to make choices…It’s hard to move forward…Because there’s that part of me…That is really worried…That if I go rushing forward…Into this unstable environment…It’s going to be harder for me to be successful…It’s going to be harder for me to achieve what I want…It’s going to be harder for me to move through the world…In a way that is known…Which will lead to my success…But I recognize the fact…That the world is not always stable…That there are variables that are unknown…And there are things that could change in a moment’s notice…And I give myself…And my entire system permission to know…That it’s OK…To step into places…That are unstable…And contain unknowns…I give myself permission to know I’m not going to know…With a 100% certainty…The best and right choice to make…In each and every circumstance…This doesn’t mean I’m going to be thoughtless…This doesn’t mean I’m going to go rushing in…It simply means…That as I step into this…And as I step into the world…I’m going to do in such a way…That I’m going to honor the inconsistencies…And the things that are unstable…And I’m going to make choices…And not simply stand on the sideline…I’ve handled inconsistency before…And I can do it again…Just because things are unstable…Doesn’t mean I can’t act…Just because things are unstable…Doesn’t mean I can’t know what’s right for me…I give myself permission…To thoughtfully…And carefully…Make good choices today…In the face of instability…Knowing and trusting…I’m completely capable of doing…Exactly that.

It is easy to be motivated when we are in pain because we want to be pain free.

It is easy to be motivated when we are close to our goal because we can almost taste success.

The hardest time to move is when we are in the comfortable middle. It is not what we want, but it isn’t so painful that we are motivated to push forward.

To step out of this comfort zone is scary because it means we could lose comfort.

Let’s tap for the courage to step out of our comfort zone today.

Stepping Out Of The Comfort Of Today
(audio 3m40s)

I’m enjoying my life…I recognize I have a lot of good things…I’m not fighting for survival…I’m not fighting off danger at every moment…I have what I need to get by…But that isn’t necessarily enough…I have dreams…I have goals…I have aspirations…I want to move forward…But that means I’m going to have to leave my comfort zone…And there’s a part of me that does not want to leave my comfort zone…There’s a part of me that wants to stay right here…There’s a part of me that doesn’t want to transition…Because trying to transition is work…And work can be painful…And work can lead to failure…The part of me that wants to stay in this comfort zone…Is trying to take care of me…Is trying to make my day pain-free…And I appreciate the fact that it’s doing that…That it’s trying to keep me safe…But, today, I give myself permission…To step out of my comfort zone…To try something new…To try something I’m not going to be perfect at…That’s going to move me towards my goal…Because even though I’m experiencing this…I want to move forward…And I want to have more…I give myself permission to step out…Knowing that the rewards of stepping out…Outweigh the risk…Because those rewards are going to be lasting.