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Category: Tap Along Audios

  • I Can’t Do This Because There Is No Way I Can Learn What I Need To Be Successful

    In order to achieve our goals we often have to learn how to do things we have never done before.

    This can feel intimidating and overwhelming.

    Today we are going to tap for feeling like it is too hard to learn what needs to learned to be successful.

    I Can’t Do This Because There Is No Way I Can Learn What I Need To Be Successful
    (audio 3m49s)

    There are goals that I want to achieve…There are goals that I think are really important…It will make my life so much better…It will make other people’s lives better as well…And it’s something that is new for me…It is something that is different for me…It is something that feels like it is a long way away…And it’s going to require me to learn something new…It’s going to require me to do something new…It’s going to require me to do things I’ve never done before…And I feel like I have to learn so much…And it’s going to take so long to learn that…And I feel like I can’t move forward…Until I’ve learned all of those new things…But I don’t have to learn it all to start…As I begin to learn…I can start putting my new knowledge into action…As I begin to learn…I can start to implement what I know…It is a process…And nothing I have ever done…Didn’t require some learning first…And even though I have so much to learn…The goals I want to achieve…Are important enough to put in the effort…The goals I want to achieve…Mean so much to me I’m willing to try…It is going to take time…It is going to take effort…I am going to have to work at it…But the knowledge I gather…The knowledge I capture…Is enough to help me to move forward…To be successful…Learning new things is an investment…That takes time…But will pay dividends…For the rest of my life…I give myself permission…To take the time…To do the work…Knowing it will pay off in the long run.

  • How Fear Responds To Hope

    I love the Vincent McNabb quote: “Hope is some extraordinary spiritual grace that God gives us to control our fears, not to oust them.”

    It reminds me that my goal isn’t to be fearless. My goal is to be fearless enough in this moment to take action. Fear doesn’t have to be banished for that to happen. It only needs to be understood and managed.

    Today we tap to keep fear in perspective as we reach for hope.

    How Fear Responds To Hope
    (audio 3m48s)

    Fear is a real part of my life…Fear is something that shows up every single day…In big and small ways…But fear is not the enemy…Fear is there to keep me safe…It comes from a very primitive place…Where physical danger was around every turn…Today, when I notice things that could go wrong…Sometimes it overacts…Sometimes it gets too big…It sees things that could go wrong…And compares them to those ancient dangers…It compares it to being killed by a wild animal…And that’s why it flares up so big…It simply doesn’t want to die…And it sees what is coming as possibly doing just that…It is possible for me…To take action…To move forward…To live fully…Even while feeling fear…It is possible for me…To notice the fear…To recognize it’s trying to keep me safe…And to clearly see what the danger actually is…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself…As I experience this fear…Fear keeps me safe…When I see it for what it is…I can recognize the fear…Understand the fear…And still take action that moves me forward everyday…The goal isn’t to be fearless…The goal is to take the right action…With understanding the message the fear is conveying.

  • I Fear Failure So Much That I Am Not Even Going To Try

    Sometimes the fear of failure feels much worse than being stuck where we are currently.

    Sure, achieving our goal would feel great, but the risk of failing at trying just feels like too much to handle.

    Today we are going to tap for the fear of failure.

    I Fear Failure So Much That I Am Not Even Going To Try
    (audio 4m07s)

    I really hate to fail…Failure is no fun…It dashes hopes…It shows that I can’t do something…It shows other people that I can’t do something…Often it comes in a moment…After lots of work and effort has built up…And it just feels like way too much…I give myself permission…To recognize the fact…It is perfectly OK…To not enjoy failure…But with that being said…There are many lessons that I have learned from failure…There are many insights I have gained from failure…There are blessings I never would have found without that failure…Failure shows me if I’m heading in the right direction…Failure shows me the things that I need to learn…Failure puts me in a place where I can see the next step…No one has ever become awesome…Without failure first…I’m not seeking out failure…I’m not failing on purpose…But I will only find some of the holes in my dreams…If I take effort and stumble and fail…I have failed before…And it did not kill me…I have failed before…And it did not ruin everything…I don’t have to be fearless in the face of failure…In order to take action…I can have a little fear…And I can step into this…Failure is not the end of the world…I have survived it before…And I can survive it again…I have learned from it before…And I can learn from it again…Failure is not the enemy…Lack of action is the enemy…I give myself permission to take action…Knowing failure is possible…And if I fail in any way…I will survive.

  • Others Want This For Me More Than I Want This For Me

    Our loved ones are well intentioned. They want our life to be better, but they don’t always know what we need. Because of this they usually decide what is best for us based on their experience, and not on our needs.

    When this happens we sometimes name goals that aren’t really what we want, but what others want for us.

    Today we are going to tap for dealing with the goals that others want for us that aren’t right for us.

    Others Want This For Me More Than I Want This For Me
    (audio 4m08s)

    I appreciate the fact that there are people in my life…I appreciate the fact that they want better for me…I appreciate the fact that they want more for me…And they have a very specific definition of success…They have a very specific definition of happiness…And it’s based on their experience…It’s based on their needs…It’s based on their desires…And just because it is right for someone else…Does not mean it’s right for me…Just because it is good for someone else…Doesn’t mean it’s good for me…I give myself permission…To see other people’s suggestions…Not necessarily as a path to follow…But as a sign of the fact that they care for me…A sign of the fact that they want what’s best for me…Even though they don’t actually know what is best for me…I can appreciate their concern…I can appreciate their love…And I can choose not follow their advice…I can choose not move towards their goal…Which they have for me…Letting go of their goals…Letting go of their definition of happiness…Is not letting go the connection between us…Is not letting go with the love…Is not disrespecting them…It is simply a statement…Of what works best for me…And I give myself permission…To pursue the goals that work best for me…I need to pursue things not because they want them for me…I need to pursue them because I want them for me…I give myself permission to follow my goals and my dreams…While still appreciating their love and concern…Which shows up in their suggestions.

  • Knowing What Happiness Truly Is

    From time to time I need to be reminded of Denis Waitley’s quote: “Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.”

    All of the tapping I do is about bringing myself into being fully present in the moment. When I am able to do that I find happiness and am able to be my true self.

    Today we are going to tap to find our way to the happiness of the present moment.

    Knowing What Happiness Truly Is
    (audio 3m10s)

    Happiness cannot be traveled to…Happiness cannot be owned…Happiness cannot be earned…Happiness cannot be worn…Happiness cannot be consumed…Happiness is living every moment with love…Happiness is living every moment with grace…Happiness is living every moment with gratitude…Happiness cannot be traveled to…Happiness cannot be owned…Happiness cannot be worn…Happiness cannot be consumed…Happiness is living every minute with love…Happiness is living every minute with grace…Happiness is living every minute with gratitude…Happiness is experiencing every moment with love…Happiness is experiencing every moment with grace…Happiness is experiencing every moment with gratitude.

  • I Am Not Sure Exactly What I Want And Am Worried I Will Do Things Wrong

    It is very common for us to not have a perfectly clear idea of what we want. We might have a vague sense, but aren’t confident in our goal or plan.

    When this happens we can worry that since we don’t know exactly what we are shooting for, we will waste our time and effort by going down the wrong path. Today we are going to tap for that anxiety.

    I Have Failed Before And I Am Going To Fail Again
    (audio 3m40s)

    I’m not exactly sure what I want…I know I want different…I want better…I know I want to move forward…But I’m not exactly sure what it is…And I’m afraid that if I try…I will be heading in the wrong direction…I will be wasting time…I will be wasting effort…I will be moving away from what I want and what I need…But I give myself permission to recognize…That every single time I try…I learn something…I learn what I want…And I learn what I don’t want…I learn the direction I want to head…And I learn where I don’t want to head…So even if I’m heading down the wrong path…Even if I’m heading in a direction that isn’t exactly right…By simply taking action…By simply putting forth effort…I’m going to be putting myself in a position…That allows me to move forward…In such a way…That I know more than I did before…And even if that means I’m heading in the wrong direction…That’s valuable information…That’s sending me in the right direction…I give myself permission to not have to know exactly…I give myself permission to not know perfectly…Because in whatever happens…And how it moves forward…I put myself into a position to see things more clearly…Which is part of the process…Of being in the right place…To achieve my goals.

  • I Have Failed Before So I Will Fail Again

    We learn from our past experiences. But sometimes we learn the wrong lessons.

    It is possible that when we fail we learn the lesson that, “I have failed before and therefore I will fail again.”

    One failure doesn’t mean another is inevitable.

    So today we’re going to tap for the fear that, “I have failed before and therefore I will fail again.”

    I Have Failed Before So I Will Fail Again
    (audio 3m54s)

    I learn from my past…I learn from the patterns of my life…And this is a good thing…It means I’m capable of learning…It means that when I do things well…I am encouraged to do them again…But I’m far from perfect…I have made mistakes…I have failed at things in the past…I recognize the fact…That this can hold me back…From trying again…I have failed before…And therefore I’m going to fail again…I’m not going to try…Because I don’t want to fail again…And it’s good that I’m trying to avoid failure…And all that comes along with that… But just because I failed at something in the past…Doesn’t mean I’m going to fail at it again…Everything that we know how to do…We didn’t do it right the first time…We failed at it…Some things we even failed more often…It took us close to nine months just to learn how to walk…Which involved lots and lots of failing…And lots and lots of falling down…Just because I failed at something in the past…It doesn’t mean that I’m going to fail again in the future…I give myself permission to try…To do these things I’m afraid of failing…Even though failing is a possibility…It is not the end of the world…It’s the farthest thing from me into the world…I’m going to survive…I’m going to get up and do it again…Failure in the past does not mean failure forever.

  • The Need To Go Astray

    From my own experience, what Saint Teresa of Ávila says is true: “To reach something good it is very useful to have gone astray, and thus acquire experience.”

    Today we are going to tap to be gentle with ourselves when we go astray, and to be open to what can be learned when we do.

    I Have Failed At Learning New Things In The Past
    (audio 3m45s)

    There’s a part of me that wishes that it always worked out…There’s a part of me that always wishes it was perfect…There’s a part of me that wishes that every action I took created exactly what I wanted…It’s good to have expectations…It’s good to have dreams…It’s good to have something that I’m moving towards in a very specific, deliberate way…And it’s not always going to work out…It’s not always going to be perfect…Things will go wrong…And I will go down the wrong path…But every time I do that…There’s going to be value…There’s going to be a lesson…I’m going to learn something about myself…I’m going to learn new skills…I’m going to gain experience which creates a sense of contrast…So that as I move forward…The next time…I will approach things in new ways…This doesn’t mean that I’m courting failure…This doesn’t mean that I’m courting detours…This doesn’t mean that I’m going to be stuck on purpose…It simply means I know there is value in these things…It simply means that I appreciate the fact that there’s a different way…When I go astray…When I go off my path…I will certainly try to find my way back…I will certainly try to find the way…To put myself in a position…Where success is possible…But when this happens…When I go astray…When it doesn’t work out…I recognize the value…It can provide…As I move forward.

  • If Care A Lot Now It Will Be More Painful If It Doesn’t Work Out

    There have been times in the past where you have put your heart into something and it didn’t work out. Because you cared so much the sting of failure felt that much more acute.

    Often we will stop ourselves from caring so that we don’t have to deal with the pain of failure. The problem is that when we don’t care we don’t try as hard, which makes success that much harder to achieve.

    Today we are going to tap for the worry that caring a lot now will lead to more hurt later if we don’t achieve our goal.

    If Care A Lot Now It Will Be More Painful If It Doesn’t Work Out
    (audio 4m33s)

    I have goals…I have dreams…I have things that I’m moving towards…That I know will be good for me…I want that better life…I want the achievement that comes along with the goal…I want the satisfaction…And there are times that I want it so much…I could almost taste it…I’m bursting at the seams with excitement…I’m bursting at the seams with desire…But there’s a part of me…That knows what it’s like to be let down…There’s a part of me…That knows what it’s like to have hopes dashed…There’s a part of me…That knows the emptiness and pain…That comes in the wake…Of unfulfilled expectations…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself…And easy with the process…And to recognize the fact…That unfulfilled expectation…And being let down…Is all part of making my life better…But I know…The positive of trying to make it happen…Outweighs the pain of it not happening…I know…The desire to have more and better…And what that will do for my life…Is greater than that pain…The pain is temporary…Even though it’s deep…The pain is momentary…Even if it feels like it lasts forever in that moment…I have gotten over unfulfilled expectations…I have lived through that pain…And what I want…Will improve my life so much…It’s worth the risk…Because even if it doesn’t work out…I’ll have the opportunity to try again…Even if it doesn’t work out…It won’t always be that way…Failure is a possibility…Pain from that failure is a possibility…I have survived that before…And I will survive again…Knowing it’s worthwhile to strive for those goals.

  • When We Feel Frustrated To The Point Of Just Wanting To Give Up

    There are times when we feel like we are spinning our wheels. Nothing seems to be going right, no matter how hard we try.

    These are the moments when we want to give up.

    Today we are going to tap for that feeling of frustration that takes us to the verge of wanting to quit.

    When We Feel Frustrated To The Point Of Just Wanting To Give Up
    (audio 4m37s)

    There’s a part of me that really wants this…There’s a part of me that wants to achieve this goal…There’s a part of me that knows life will be so much better if I have this…But it is just not working now…No matter what I try…No matter what I do…I seem to fail…I fail in small ways…I fail in big ways…And no matter how much effort I put forward…No matter how much thought I put into this…Somehow I just can’t get it to work out…Somehow I can’t manage to move forward…And the frustration is just too much…It would be one thing if I was making progress…It would be one thing if I could see myself getting closer to my goals…But that’s not happening…If there is progress, it’s so little…It feels like wasted effort…But I choose to know…Sometimes when I make effort…Sometimes when I make progress…It doesn’t have big, sweeping, huge results…I’m building a foundation…For a breakthrough…For a bunch of things to fall into place…All at once…It’s almost like a seed growing underground…It appears progress happened overnight…But there was lots of work that happened beneath the surface…That was unseen…And often when I’m spinning my wheels…That’s what’s happening to me…The frustration is the part of me that wants better…The frustration is the part of me that wants it to be easier…The frustration is the part of me that wants it to be effortless…And I can appreciate all of those things…Wanting it to be easier…Wanting it to take less effort…In big and small ways…I’m glad I want better…The frustration is just a sign of that…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…And easy with the frustration…It’s OK if I step back…It’s OK if I take a deep breath…It’s OK if I don’t rush into this and have this achieved right now…I’m building towards something good…Even though there are some moments…When it feels like it’s too much…I am moving forward…Little by little…And I’m going to get there.