One of my favorite types of work is to have “conversations” with the younger parts of myself. What I mean by this is I pretend that I am having a conversation with me at a younger age, like age 6 for example.
When I do this I am able to bring all the wisdom, experience, and resources that the adult me has to the past.
Here is a simple process you can follow.
Step 1: Choose the age you would like to work with, imagine seeing yourself at that age, and start tapping.
Step 2: Tell the younger you that they are loved, cared for, safe, and that they will not be judged. Don’t rush this step. If you want to do each of those four things one at a time, that would be perfect. Pay attention to how your younger self responds.
Step 3: Tell your younger self that they are allowed to think, feel, and believe anything they want. They are also allowed to not know what they should or what to think, feel, or believe. Again, take your time and pay attention to how they respond.
Step 4: Ask the younger you what they are worried about and what they need. They may need nothing, but if they have a need, listen attentively. Ask lots of clarifying questions to understand their concerns fully and let them know that they are heard.
Step 5: Provide the younger you with all the relevant information in response to their needs and concerns. Imagine that you are talking to someone of this age in real life. If a child of this age brought you these concerns, what would you say and what misperceptions would you correct? Simply share this information.
Step 6: Repeat steps 4 and 5 as many times as you would like or are needed to make the younger you feel safe and healthy.
Step 7: Remind the younger you once more that they are loved, cared for, and always connected to the adult you. If they need anything they only need to ask.
This powerful tool is that simple.
It is such a powerful tool that I would like you to use it over the next two weeks. Every day choose an age from infant to 18. You don’t have to do them in order and you don’t have to do all 18 years, but if you do this one year for each day it will be transformative.
Thank you for sharing this tool. For about a year now I’ve been checking in with my younger self every morning. It’s how I start my day, so that any needs or feelings that are not being met or honored can come into my awareness and I can incorporate embracing that part of me into my day’s intention. I like your approach to shine the light on a specific age, which makes the process more focused.
I’m finding, of course, that as I use this tool great tapping issues come up. Could you share an audio at some point that would take us through following up with the needs and feelings of our younger selves?
Blessings,
Patricia
That is a great idea…Look for it soon!