[Remember to tap for your goals.]
Forgiveness can be difficult enough, but it gets even harder when it comes to forgiving ourselves. For some reason it is often easy for us to give others the benefit of the doubt, but we aren’t able to extend the same charity towards ourselves.
When we don’t forgive ourselves we give our critical voice more ammunition. When we experience a lack of confidence the critical voice will jump right in and draw upon all of our past failings.
This week’s tool is very simple: at least once a day (I would recommend doing it twice a day) tap through the following script.
PLEASE say the phrases out loud. Yes, I know it is not comfortable to say this out loud, but it will have more power when you give voice to these words.
Feel free to experiment with tapping on all the points or just tap on the karate chop point the whole time.
I am worthy of forgiving myself.
There is a part of me that struggles with forgiving myself.
When I forgive myself I am not saying I should repeat the same choices.
When I forgive myself I am not saying that I shouldn’t take responsibility for my past choices.
When I forgive myself I am not saying that I am going to forget the lessons of my past choices.
When I forgive myself I am not saying I think it is OK that I made the past choice.
When I forgive myself I am saying that I am no longer emotionally trapped in the past and I am going to live in this moment fully.
I am worthy of forgiving myself.
It is possible to forgive myself.
I choose to forgive myself, even though there is a part of me that doesn’t want to forgive myself.
I choose to believe I am worthy of forgiving myself.
I choose to forgive myself.
I choose to forgive myself.
If you hit the little printer button below you can print this page out so you can take the script with you.
I have also included an audio of the tapping part so you can go back to it.
I have found that tapping along to your audios is SO much more effective than reading myself and tapping.
Cindy,
Great! Do what works!
I assume this is different from assessing and applying a SUD’s level and working until it has a zero charge. When I started with this week’s tool of forgiveness, I had LOTS of pain around a couple memories that came up. Do I stop and tap on each of the other aspects/memories as they occur or simply read and tap through the script or audio several times a day as you recommend?
Eileen,
There is lots of ways you could do it. You could tap you get to zero on the charge OR you could tap on the script a number times a day OR both.
Also, if a specific moment or memory comes up you can stop the tool and just tap for that memory.