Make The Problem Bigger Than It Really Is

I love it when my clients laugh, especially when we are in the middle of something very emotional.

It is a great way to break the tension and it’s an even better way bring perspective and truth to a struggle.

I was first introduced to this idea when Gary Craig talked about “the comedies of our mind”. What he meant by that phrase was that if we take limiting beliefs out of our heads and bring them into the light of day we will be able to laugh at them because they are so preposterous.

Here are few examples from clients sessions just this week:

• If I ask the wrong question during our staff meeting I will be fired.
• If I ask my friends to join the multi-level marketing I am a part of they will think I am a crook.
• If I ask her out she will laugh in my face.

Once my clients hear out loud what is going on in their subconscious it loses a lot of power because they can see how their minds are over-functioning.

Not only do I get my clients to see what the subconscious thinks will happen, I also like to push the envelope to make the outcomes bigger and bigger.

For example, if they are worried that they will say something out of place at work we would tap like this:

• I am afraid to speak up during our staff meeting
• because I might say something stupid
• and they will think I am stupid
• and they won’t trust me with anything else
• and my boss will think it was a mistake to hire me
• and I will be fired
• and not be able to get another job
• and lose my home
• and have to live on the streets
• and beg for food
• and will die in a gutter alone.

Yes, that is absolutely ridiculous, but it puts the danger in perspective. We no longer feel that saying something dumb during a staff meeting is the worst thing that could ever happen to us.

To use this with your tapping all you need to do is take the worry you have and make it much bigger than it really is.

Start with the fear you have: I am going to say something stupid.

List the real possible outcome: I will look foolish.

Come up with 6 more outcomes with each one being worse than the one before.

Before you know it you will be laughing to yourself and you will be able to see the issue in perspective.