[Note: There are a number of great tools on the site. It is important to note that not all tools will work with every issue and every type of goal. This week’s tool is a perfect example. It contains a powerful concept, but it is not perfect for every goal you are trying to achieve. For example, this approach won’t be the most helpful if your main goal is to find a long-term, lasting relationship, but is great if you are trying to develop a habit, like getting into shape.
These tools are not one size fits all. I would encourage you to be thoughtful in choosing which tool to use for each issue and goal. That is why there are so many!]
Something really interesting has happened to me since I moved to Brooklyn. I have been cooking for myself more, choosing to prepare healthier food, and I have been learning how to make lots of fun new meals.
I am really happy with this change, but this wasn’t a goal I set out to achieve. Being healthier has been a goal of mine since the beginning of the year, but cooking more healthy food and trying out new dishes was not.
The change has taken place because of the neighborhood I have moved into. When I tell my New York friends where I am living they all say, “You are lucky to live near so many amazing restaurants!”
And it is true. On Thursday night I was out for my evening walk and I passed 23 restaurants I wanted to try just on one street. And it wasn’t even the part of my area with the highest concentration of restaurants!
The simple fact that I am being exposed to higher quality and healthier food every day is inspiring me to eat and cook more healthily.
This is true for all parts of our lives. The people, worldviews, and experiences to which we are most exposed are those we will continue to seek out.
Entrepreneur Jim Rohn often repeated that, “We are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with.”
Even if this is not literally true there is a great deal of truth in the statement. Bearing this in mind we can consciously choose to fill our lives with more of what we would like to show up in the future.
Today’s tool is very simple.
1) Choose one of the goals you are working towards. It could be about health, work, relationships, or your spiritual path. Make sure it is a goal for which you have a clear vision of exactly what you want.
2) Brainstorm a list of 5 people, places, or experiences where people are having what you would like in your own life. If you can come up with more than 5 that would be great, but make sure you come up with at least 5.
3) Make a plan to contact two people who have what you want and arrange to spend some time with them. Talking to them about your goal is not a requirement. Just being around them will be helpful and encouraging as you see what is possible.
[NOTE: If you are having a hard time reaching out to people here are bunch of tap-along audios to help you be more comfortable reaching out: tap-along audios]
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