Others Want Me To Pursue This Because What They Will Get Out Of My Success

Our success doesn’t happen in a vacuum. When we make progress it can directly impact the lives of our loved ones.

Our loved ones can sometimes encourage us to take action because of the benefits they will receive, rather than what we get out of it.

Today we are going to tap for making sure we are pursuing our goals because they are what we want for ourselves.

Others Want Me To Pursue This Because What They Will Get Out Of My Success
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I do not live alone…I do not live in isolation…Every choice that I make…Creates ripples out into the world…My choices impact others…And many times I make choices because I know they impact others…And because my choices impact others…The people in my life have expectations of me… Because they want my choices to impact them in a positive way…And when this happens…Expectations can be created…That have nothing to do with what I want…That have nothing to do with what I need…But my loved ones create goals and expectations for me…Because it benefits them…And there are times when expectations are created for me…That actually line up with the expectations I have for myself…And this can create resistance…Because I don’t want to do it because someone else said I should…And so it creates a double bind…We might get expectations that are un-useful and unrealistic…Or we might get expectations that match ours and we feel like we’re satisfying someone else…In the end it does not matter what other people expect…In the end it does not matter what other people want…The choices I make are about me…The choices I make are about me moving forward…The choices I make are about crafting the life I want…And I know my choices impact others…And I know I need to be aware of that fact…But I can’t make choices based on others’ expectations…Or my relationship to others’ expectations…At the end of the day what matters…Is what I want for me…How that will change my life…And what I’m willing to do to achieve it…I give myself permission…To choose what I want for me…Because I’m the one that has to live with my choices.