Most of the people in our life honestly and truly want what is best for us. The problem comes when they are giving us encouragement and advice based on what they believe is best for us and not what we think is best for us.
It is not that they don’t trust us, but they are seeing our lives through the lens of how they see their own lives.
Today we tap for those times when it feels like others are trying to get us to live up to their definition of happiness and success.
Other Are Applying Their Definition Of Happiness To Me
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There are people in my life who want what’s best for me…There are people in my life who want more…They want me to be happy…They want me to be successful…They want me to have a rich life…But their definition of happiness…And their definition of success…Is very much based on their experience of life…And so when they see me…And they think I want to be happy…In the way that they are happy…They think my success…Is their definition of success…And because of this, they can be well-meaning…Because of this, they can try and be helpful…And end up doing it in a way…That is anything but helpful…I give myself permission…To recognize their intention…Without having to take their advice…Without taking their help…And without having to feel their judgment…Even though they might be judging me…Even though they might be thinking I’m doing it wrong…Even though they might even be gossiping about me…Because I’m not living the exact life they think I should be living…I give myself permission…To live up to my standard…I give myself permission…To live up to my goals…I give myself permission…To appreciate their intention…And appreciate the fact they want better for me…And let go of what they’re offering…Let go of what they’re hoping…Let go of what they think I need to be doing…This is about me…This is about my choices…This is about moving forward in a way that is helpful and healthful for me…I give myself permission…To be easy with myself…As I choose the path that is right for me…Regardless if it meets anyone else’s definition of happiness…My definition of happiness is most important…My definition of happiness is what I need.
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